Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
I think what Sticks was trying to say is that you shouldn't be "ticked" at him because he didn't want to have sex one night. Shiit happens...I'm sure there are nights when you don't feel like it either so neither of you should have to feel bad for that.
And I actually do find charting and temping to be fun....it's like a science experiment and I look forward to doing it.
Trying to get sperminated since February 2010
Mar-May 2011: 3 Cycles IUI + Clomid = BFN
Jan 2012: Injectables + TI = ??
Truthfully, I wish I COULD plan it more. EOD sex is just a fantasy for me. MH has ED, so it's kind of impossible. We really just have sex when the right mood strikes and the cards all fall in our favor. IMO, you shouldn't be mad at your husband because he's unable or unwilling to have sex one time. Consider yourself lucky if he doesn't have problems.
May, 2010, DH DX: Low Testosterone
July, 2010, DH SA: 3% morph
July, 2010, DH Rx: 50 mg Clomid EOD
BFP: 9/3/10 ~ M/C: 9/7/10
BFP: 10/9/10 ~ My beautiful Grace Dorothy was born on 6/14/11
Beta #1 (12 DPO): 111/24 ~ Beta #2 (16 DPO): 722/23 ~ Beta #3 (20 DPO): 3,338/15.3
BFP: 11/14/11 ~ Spotting/Betas not doubling, but HB of 113 bpm @ 6 wks 1 day! My Chart DH's Low Testosterone/ED Blog
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Finally someone who stands up for themselves!
LOL. You, my dear, are starting to get on my nerves.
Trying to get sperminated since February 2010
Mar-May 2011: 3 Cycles IUI + Clomid = BFN
Jan 2012: Injectables + TI = ??
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
I think what Sticks was trying to say is that you shouldn't be "ticked" at him because he didn't want to have sex one night. Shiit happens...I'm sure there are nights when you don't feel like it either so neither of you should have to feel bad for that.
And I actually do find charting and temping to be fun....it's like a science experiment and I look forward to doing it.
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
I think what Sticks was trying to say is that you shouldn't be "ticked" at him because he didn't want to have sex one night. Shiit happens...I'm sure there are nights when you don't feel like it either so neither of you should have to feel bad for that.
And I actually do find charting and temping to be fun....it's like a science experiment and I look forward to doing it.
Not to butt in or anything, I just thought Saucy's answer was perfect. It's hard as anything to schedule it perfectly and sh** happens.
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Finally someone who stands up for themselves!
LOL. You, my dear, are starting to get on my nerves.
I agree she is getting on my nerves as well!
**February 20th, 2010 I Married My Best Friend and June 5th, 2011 My Soulmate Was Born**
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Finally someone who stands up for themselves!
LOL. You, my dear, are starting to get on my nerves.
Sorry that I am getting on your nerves but you don't even know me. It's a little weird that you let someone that you don't know bother as much as I do. Again, sorry that I get on your nerves.
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
I think what Sticks was trying to say is that you shouldn't be "ticked" at him because he didn't want to have sex one night. Shiit happens...I'm sure there are nights when you don't feel like it either so neither of you should have to feel bad for that.
And I actually do find charting and temping to be fun....it's like a science experiment and I look forward to doing it.
Yeah I agree with Sticks. God, if I got "ticked" at my husband because he didn't want to have sex one night, this would be one miserable journey. Some days it just doesn't work out. That's ok!
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the EOD plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict EOD schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
edit - I fail this morning
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To OP, if you aren't trying to sound like a ***, then don't. I agree with sitcks, and until you know someones situation, don't be so quick to judge. Until you really know what it's like to have a situation where it really ticks you off, you shouldn't be so quick to be ticked at your DH. People do get tired, don't want to, aren't in the mood, as PP said sh*t happens.
As a couple of other girls said, I as well enjoy Charting, and temping very much. It's feeds my obsessive personality!
**February 20th, 2010 I Married My Best Friend and June 5th, 2011 My Soulmate Was Born**
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the OED plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict OED schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
Very well said lovey. And I think I want to put that last line in my siggy!! haha
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Finally someone who stands up for themselves!
LOL. You, my dear, are starting to get on my nerves.
You can plan it AND keep it fun. My H knows we are doing it at least every other day, but I don't make an issue out of it. I just keep an eye out for the opportunity on a daily basis and go for it. I seems spontaneous to MH, but really it was planned.
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the OED plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict OED schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Finally someone who stands up for themselves!
LOL. You, my dear, are starting to get on my nerves.
I agree she is getting on my nerves as well!
Mrs PBNJ, you are one of my faves!
Awww....shucks You're one of my faves also!!!
**February 20th, 2010 I Married My Best Friend and June 5th, 2011 My Soulmate Was Born**
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the OED plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict OED schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
Very well said lovey. And I think I want to put that last line in my siggy!! haha
Be my guest doll!
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Last monday, I was pretty sure I was going to O on Tue (and I did) so I came home from work and suggested we have sex. DH was super tired from a long day at work, it was already 8:45 when I got home. So I was a bit sad he declined. That day would have been key
BUT, I wasn't mad at him. I don't want him to feel used.
I can see what you mean - it's stressful. I will admit sex is more about baby making than pleasure these days. It's tough.
b/w=FSH 15.6, AMH 0.4 surprise natural BFP on 3/12/11 DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Finally someone who stands up for themselves!
LOL. You, my dear, are starting to get on my nerves.
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the OED plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict OED schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
Haha! Love it!
This!
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You can plan it AND keep it fun. My H knows we are doing it at least every other day, but I don't make an issue out of it. I just keep an eye out for the opportunity on a daily basis and go for it. I seems spontaneous to MH, but really it was planned.
THIS 100% Even if you are planning it, don't let him in on the plan. He will just think that you have the major hots for him and want to hump his brains out. That is how DH and I are approaching this. He knows what is up, and what we are doing, but he doesn't have to know that "this is my perfect day" just randomly hit it up in the sack! He will love it!
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This post makes me laugh - not because of the disagreements, but because it reminds me that I am probably not the only one initiating more than DH now that we're TTC.
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the EOD plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict EOD schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
And this is why you are my BFPB!
Awwww. Kisses doll!
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This post makes me laugh - not because of the disagreements, but because it reminds me that I am probably not the only one initiating more than DH now that we're TTC.
This post makes me laugh - not because of the disagreements, but because it reminds me that I am probably not the only one initiating more than DH now that we're TTC.
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the EOD plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict EOD schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
edit - I fail this morning
That is going in my quote book! You are the best Lovey
I think you need to cut him a little slack is all. It's your first cycle right? You don't even know when you ovulate yet. I am sure when he suggested the everyday thing, he was thinking how awesome it was going to be to have sex all the time... and then maybe realized that it's not as much fun when you're tired or you feel pressured or it becomes like a job. I promise you, one day isn't going to matter in the long run.
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I think you need to cut him a little slack is all. It's your first cycle right? You don't even know when you ovulate yet. I am sure when he suggested the everyday thing, he was thinking how awesome it was going to be to have sex all the time... and then maybe realized that it's not as much fun when you're tired or you feel pressured or it becomes like a job. I promise you, one day isn't going to matter in the long run.
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the EOD plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict EOD schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
edit - I fail this morning
That is going in my quote book! You are the best Lovey
wootwoot! back at cha doll!
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I think you need to cut him a little slack is all. It's your first cycle right? You don't even know when you ovulate yet. I am sure when he suggested the everyday thing, he was thinking how awesome it was going to be to have sex all the time... and then maybe realized that it's not as much fun when you're tired or you feel pressured or it becomes like a job. I promise you, one day isn't going to matter in the long run.
This! Plus, it has to make him feel used.
For sure. MH and I have a running joke that I'm only interested in him for his swimmers
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I agree. When DH knows we're supposed to have sex, he feels pressured and can't perform. The first time I got upset over it, he felt awful and it really hurt our relationship for a few days!
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Re: A little ticked at my hubby
July, 2010, DH SA: 3% morph
July, 2010, DH Rx: 50 mg Clomid EOD
BFP: 9/3/10 ~ M/C: 9/7/10
BFP: 10/9/10 ~ My beautiful Grace Dorothy was born on 6/14/11
Beta #1 (12 DPO): 111/24 ~ Beta #2 (16 DPO): 722/23 ~ Beta #3 (20 DPO): 3,338/15.3
BFP: 11/14/11 ~ Spotting/Betas not doubling, but HB of 113 bpm @ 6 wks 1 day!
My Chart
DH's Low Testosterone/ED Blog
Well he is the one that planned on the every other day method so that's why I am a little upset about it. And planning sex isn't that much fun but either is temping, and charting but everyone else does it, including you so are you sucking the fun out of baby making as well?
*Not trying to be a *** but that's just how I feel, no one every really talks about the stress/lack of fun with trying to conceive...until you find message boards like this*
Finally someone who stands up for themselves!
Well we were supposed to last night too, but I was SO tired. DH is coming home for a quickie during lunch.
Don't forget to keep this fun!
Unexplained secondary infertility...bleh. Gave it a few more tries and BFP on 3/31
#1 Beta @ 10DPO: 9 #2 Beta @ 14DPO: 194
My BFP Chart
I happen to enjoy temping, thank you very much
Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant
Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB
baby girl born 5/10/13
TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28.
IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!! Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!
Tons of love and ((hugs)) to my IF sister NMscubagirl
I think what Sticks was trying to say is that you shouldn't be "ticked" at him because he didn't want to have sex one night. Shiit happens...I'm sure there are nights when you don't feel like it either so neither of you should have to feel bad for that.
And I actually do find charting and temping to be fun....it's like a science experiment and I look forward to doing it.
Trying to get sperminated since February 2010
Mar-May 2011: 3 Cycles IUI + Clomid = BFN Jan 2012: Injectables + TI = ??
My Cooking (and More) Blog
July, 2010, DH SA: 3% morph
July, 2010, DH Rx: 50 mg Clomid EOD
BFP: 9/3/10 ~ M/C: 9/7/10
BFP: 10/9/10 ~ My beautiful Grace Dorothy was born on 6/14/11
Beta #1 (12 DPO): 111/24 ~ Beta #2 (16 DPO): 722/23 ~ Beta #3 (20 DPO): 3,338/15.3
BFP: 11/14/11 ~ Spotting/Betas not doubling, but HB of 113 bpm @ 6 wks 1 day!
My Chart
DH's Low Testosterone/ED Blog
LOL. You, my dear, are starting to get on my nerves.
Trying to get sperminated since February 2010
Mar-May 2011: 3 Cycles IUI + Clomid = BFN Jan 2012: Injectables + TI = ??
My Cooking (and More) Blog
woo hoo! Go science!
Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant
Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB
baby girl born 5/10/13
TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28.
IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!! Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!
Tons of love and ((hugs)) to my IF sister NMscubagirl
Not to butt in or anything, I just thought Saucy's answer was perfect. It's hard as anything to schedule it perfectly and sh** happens.
I agree she is getting on my nerves as well!
Sorry that I am getting on your nerves but you don't even know me. It's a little weird that you let someone that you don't know bother as much as I do. Again, sorry that I get on your nerves.
Yeah I agree with Sticks. God, if I got "ticked" at my husband because he didn't want to have sex one night, this would be one miserable journey. Some days it just doesn't work out. That's ok!
Temping and peeing on things are the LAST thing on my mind when DH and I have sex. Those things don't take the fun out of my sex life. At all.
Now, on to the missing a day with the EOD plan. DH and I missed a few days when we were doing that system. One of us would be too tired, or something would come up... it happens. I did feel more pressure to have sex keeping that strict EOD schedule. Have sex two days in a row to make up for it!
Don't get mad, Get laid!
(I made that last part up just for you
edit - I fail this morning
To OP, if you aren't trying to sound like a ***, then don't. I agree with sitcks, and until you know someones situation, don't be so quick to judge. Until you really know what it's like to have a situation where it really ticks you off, you shouldn't be so quick to be ticked at your DH. People do get tired, don't want to, aren't in the mood, as PP said sh*t happens.
As a couple of other girls said, I as well enjoy Charting, and temping very much. It's feeds my obsessive personality!
Very well said lovey. And I think I want to put that last line in my siggy!! haha
Mrs PBNJ, you are one of my faves!
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Haha! Love it!
Awww....shucks
You're one of my faves also!!!
Be my guest doll!
edit: fixed my oops
I hear both sides.
Last monday, I was pretty sure I was going to O on Tue (and I did) so I came home from work and suggested we have sex. DH was super tired from a long day at work, it was already 8:45 when I got home. So I was a bit sad he declined. That day would have been key
BUT, I wasn't mad at him. I don't want him to feel used.
I can see what you mean - it's stressful. I will admit sex is more about baby making than pleasure these days. It's tough.
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
heehee ***warm fuzzies*** LOL
THIS 100% Even if you are planning it, don't let him in on the plan. He will just think that you have the major hots for him and want to hump his brains out. That is how DH and I are approaching this. He knows what is up, and what we are doing, but he doesn't have to know that "this is my perfect day" just randomly hit it up in the sack! He will love it!
Awwww. Kisses doll!
This so much lol
This!
ETA: Holy shhhhiiiiittttt that picture got a lot bigger than what I had it before.
That is going in my quote book! You are the best Lovey
TTC since 2010
lots of IUIs and 1 IVF all BFNs
FET currently on hold
I think you need to cut him a little slack is all. It's your first cycle right? You don't even know when you ovulate yet. I am sure when he suggested the everyday thing, he was thinking how awesome it was going to be to have sex all the time... and then maybe realized that it's not as much fun when you're tired or you feel pressured or it becomes like a job. I promise you, one day isn't going to matter in the long run.
This! Plus, it has to make him feel used.
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Invisible Finish Line
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7DPO Progesterone: low. CD3 BW: normal, HSG: clear
DX: severe MFI (low all 3) and low T. Undergoing replacement therapy.
This!!!!
wootwoot! back at cha doll!
For sure. MH and I have a running joke that I'm only interested in him for his swimmers
I agree. When DH knows we're supposed to have sex, he feels pressured and can't perform. The first time I got upset over it, he felt awful and it really hurt our relationship for a few days!