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bwing.... backhanded compliment?

finsternisfinsternis
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an aquaintance [who has a baby 12 days older than mine] was recently holding my dd and said, `oooo, she is *so* snuggly!` which made me even happier than if she had said `is so cute` or `has super rockin hair` [both of which we get a lot :).] but then she followed it up with, `it must be from keeping her in that *thing* all the time.`

no way man. this freakin kid is so cuddly i don`t have a *choice* on wrapping her or not! we went two looong months before being able to purchase a wrap, and i don`t think i put her down once. now, she`s 6.5 months and has no desire to do a back carry, a hip carry, or even a front facing out. sorry my baby`s huggier than yours, lady :) but it`s genetics.

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Re: bwing.... backhanded compliment?

  • SeaMamaSeaMama member

    Being a snuggly baby is bad?

    I would just say something like "oh, is your child kind of despondent?  That's too bad....."

    If people are rude to me, I'm rude back.  They brought it on themselves.

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  • kwinters87kwinters87 member
    That was mild compaired to some of the things that have been said to me.
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  • EmmieBEmmieB member

    did she mean it as an insult? no one can remember the names of my carriers - even when she was using it, my sister referred to the beco as "this strappy thing."

     

    I do agree with her - I think wearing your baby helps foster snuggliness, if only because your baby never has to wonder if mommy wants a hug, too ;-)

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  • anabell0920anabell0920 member
    Obviously I don't know the tone she said it in but that's doesn't sound like a backhanded compliment to me maybe more of that she honestly didn't know what to call your carrier. Plus even if it was meant to be rude she is recognizing that you wearing your lo has resulted in a cuddly baby.
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  • QuazelQuazel member

    I didn't read anything rude in there.  Maybe I had to hear how she said it. 

    You can tell her not to worry about it.  My DS loves to be held, worn, snuggled in bed, tickled, sleep on Daddy, and physically played with but he will not ever lay his head on my shoulder.  I can pick him up from a deep sleep and he will hold his head up.  Even in the beginning, he would rarely sleep on us with his head on our shoulders.  It makes me a little sad.  I wear him all the time, even now, but he wants to see what is going on.  It doesn't make him any less snuggly and loving, just different.  Her baby may be the same way.

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