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2nd Trimester
I hate MIL!! (long)
Sometimes my MIL is such a raging biatch! Her and I have never gotten along, mostly because she is very jealous of me and hates the fact that DH and I have such a good relationship. A little back story:
MIL got pg with DH when she was 16 after a one night stand with some guy she knew for a week over the summer, she isn't even sure of his full name (classy right?) So needless to say DH has never known his biological dad. She was also an alcoholic and heavy druggie for most of DH's childhood, when DH was 4 she met this douche of a guy and married him (the father of DH's half brothers) anyway, he pretty much treated DH like crap because he wasn't "his own kid" and beat the crap out of MIL whenever he wasn't high or drunk. One night when DH was 8, MIL and douchebag decided to rob a liquor store (yeah drama..I know) MIL claims that they were both high (on meth) and that her husband told her he would "make her and the kids sorry if she didn't help" She agreed to drive the getaway car, she ended up going to prison for 6 months and then was on house arrest and probation. The douchebag got a couple years and she ended up divorcing him. Meanwhile this entire time, DH is living with his grandparents. After she got off probation, she went to one of those "felon work programs", she went to tech school to become a RAD tech and started going to AA/NA. Anyway, this entire time DH is the "star kid", he was captain of the wrestling team, straight A student and never got into any trouble. DH and MIL needless to say have always had a bad relationship.
So fast forward to now, DH is in the Navy doing wonderfully, he is married to a registered nurse with a college degree who came from an upper class family with no drama, I've never even had a speeding ticket and the only drug I've ever done is when I smoked a little pot in college at frat parties. She hates the fact that DH and I have such a solid relationship when they can barely be a room for over an hour without killing each other, She hates that my family and DH are so close (they just adore him), She hates pretty much everything I do or say and she is ALWAYS trying to cause trouble between DH and I. She will say rude things about me on facebook to her friends/family and then when he calls her out on it she trys to put it back on me and say "I'm overreacting and trying to cause trouble between her and DH"
UGH she just makes me so angry...and her latest attempt last night just pushed me over the edge. DH is going up for orders in June and he wants to get a west coast assignment and she basically spent an hour saying that "oh this must all be Rebecca's plan to keep you from your family, she has always hated me and now she is moving you across the country for her own selfish needs" Umm..first of all the fact that I am from California does not mean I am FORCING DH to do anything, and secondly if the twat had been listening in the first place she would have heard DH say that the reason he wants to go to the west coast is because the commands he is looking at have a history of being great commands for his rating. Once again, everything is always my fault! 
IF you made it through all of this, you are a saint!! Thanks for letting me vent ladies.
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Re: I hate MIL!! (long)
I wish you the best of luck and I'll cross my fingers that you husband gets the orders he wants.
I am surprised that you're 'friends' on facebook. I would have deleted her a long time ago.
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She will say rude things about me on facebook to her friends/family.
Stop looking at her FB page; block her from your news feed or just un-friend her. If she tries to engage you in a fight, hang up the phone, walk away or leave. Let your H handle it... it's his mother. He should make it clear to her that her behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. The two of you need to come up with some type of consequence if her behavior continues... no phone calls, no visits, whatever... and make that consequence clear to her and then follow through.
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This! She sound terrible!
Trust me that was a WHOLE other bag of crazy...she friended me when DH and I first got married and for a while I ignored her friend request, until she called DH CRYING about how I was ignoring her and how "she was trying so hard to be nice" and BLAH BLAH BLAH...I finally accepted her request but set the privacy settings so that she can't see much of my profile nor can she write on my wall. I mainly just keep her on my friends list so I don't have to hear her whining.
I should have explained that better. She says rude things about me on her facebook or on other friends or families facebook. These are people who are friends with DH so DH is the one who sees the comments because they appear on his news feed, not me. He is the one who then calls her out on them.I honestly haven't looked at her facebook in forever..it's too much crazy for me personally.
Wow. All I can say here is that I am so sorry you have this craziness in your life, and I am especially sorry that your DH had to grow up in a situation like that! No child deserves to grow up amidst that kind of drama or stress!
The best thing you can do is keep her unique brand of crazy at arm's length from your children. She is extremely immature, and you'd probably be best off completely ignoring her as best you can - no matter how much she rants and raves. I am sure you don't want to put your husband in the middle, but I'd think he's had a lifetime of her insanity, and would completely agree that your kids deserve peace.
This exactly!! I have a MIL who acts about the same as yours. Unfortunately my family and her family are all from the same state/town, and it is a VERY small town, so i have to deal with her. Honestly, i act like i dont even know my mother in law. Im ashamed to even tell people who she is, so if people who dont know my H asks me who his parents are, i tell them that they arent from around here.
Im praying for your husband to get put over on the west coast, The last person you need in your babys life is her, t&p's!!!
I'm sorry about the crazy, non-sense, relationship you and your husband have with your MIL.
Sounds to me like she's stuck at age 16. It also sounds like she likes to use a good guilt trip or two to get her way. I agree with the others, husband should be the one that deals with her. You and husband needs to come up with "rules" what is acceptable and what is not. When a "rule" is broken it should be let known to her.
Good Luck, and I hope you get moved to the west coast!
I would unfriend her. If she calls your DH crying about how she's trying, show him the past comments she's left on your wall/statuses and say you don';t need that kid of stress at this time. And if she talks smack to other fmaily members about you on FB? Then SHE's coming across as an AW who airs her drama and also a b****. Stay classy and don't follow her lead to be nasty. If someone confronts you personally about something she said, clear it up. Let them know your DH was the one putting in for West coast orders, and you're going to follow wherever he leads.
I understand all this is so much easier said than done, but this is nothing but jealousy on her end and it needs to stop. Talk to your DH about why you're unfriending her before you do it, so that he's prepared to face his mother when she calls crying like a b****.
Wow. wow. wow.
1. You don't need this.
2. Why is she still in DH/Your life? I have wacko's in my family - my Mom's Mom is a similar PITA wtih extreme emotional substance issues (had my Mom when she was 15!!) and I have cut her out of my life. Now I think, if I wouldn't let you babysit, I don't want you around LO. Just imagine what a PITA she will be after LO is born? My Mom let our GM watch us and spend time with us and I am permanently scarred by it. SERIOUSLY. Do not let her around your LO!!!
My advice, cut her our of your lives and don't look back. She can't possibly be worth it. Also, she is DH's problem, let him deal with her, WHO CARES how much she whines, cries, etc. Not your problem. Cut the ties. She will never be a happy factor in your or LO's life. IMHO, if you put up with it, you can't complain about how she treats you.
Sometimes we just need to vent about our MILs...
I hope you get back to California!
Yes we are in Norfolk, neither one of us like it here. I have heard that northern VA is nice but down here is not so great.