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How do WMs handle transitions

July_2009July_2009
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This post is not to start a WM vs, SAHM debate. But I read a lot of posts about how SAHMs train their kids to use sippy cups, make solid meals, cook something for them on the fly etc.

Being a WM I find it very difficult to take time out on a weekday to train my DS to use a sippy cup or helping him eat solids etc. Day care usually does not take time to train them but they expect kids to come into day care trained mostly. I feel like I have only weekends to train them and then weekends go so fast, that sometimes the training and transitioning just slips by. Anyone else feel the same way?

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Re: How do WMs handle transitions

  • mlwurstermlwurster member
    With sippy cups, I kept trying new ones until I found one he would take.  With everything else, his daycare plays an equal role in the transition.  He is awake with them much more during the week than he is with me, so they have to work with him too to change.  If your daycare is unwilling to do this, it sounds like a sign to go elsewhere.
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  • cobi166cobi166 member
    Try to think of it less as "training" and more as time spent with your kid.  We didn't "train" him to use a sippy cup.  When we ate dinner together at night I gave him sippy cups to try and we always give him a fork or spoon (not that he uses it, but he has it in his hand).  Same with other things.  He learns things through me playing with him.  We play games to learn our body parts and animal noises.  To me it's not "training".

     

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  • BengalBelleBengalBelle member
    Our daycare has been a huge part of each transition.  We talk about what's going on at home versus school and work together to transition him.  It's usually less training and more about introducing him to new things (sippies, spoon/fork, solid food, no bottle, etc.) in a consistent manner.  I'm not sitting there giving him instructions, I'm just letting him become comfortable with each new thing - and that's what daycare is doing too.
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  • July_2009July_2009

    imagecobi166:
    Try to think of it less as "training" and more as time spent with your kid.  We didn't "train" him to use a sippy cup.  When we ate dinner together at night I gave him sippy cups to try and we always give him a fork or spoon (not that he uses it, but he has it in his hand).  Same with other things.  He learns things through me playing with him.  We play games to learn our body parts and animal noises.  To me it's not "training".

    LOL...I just looked back at my post and I used the word "train" like a zillion times..I didn't mean training as in military training or computer training...

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  • CA2006CA2006 member
    I am in agreement with PPs.  Daycare is just as responsible as you are for these kinds of transitions.  The message has to be consistent from home to daycare or the child won't learn.  Part of what you pay a daycare provider for (and why you presumably took time to choose one that was right for your family) is to "parent" your child when you are not able to during the day.  Our daycare asks about things we are doing at home and, conversely, if we do something new at home (i.e. take away the paci), we tell daycare and they take it away, too.  You shoudl be able to talk with/work with the daycare provider to make sure that routines are consistent between home and daycare. 
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  • Jimsgirl5821Jimsgirl5821

    I agree with PP. My sitter helps me in that area. For example, with the sippy, I find one I think is good and I send it for her to try during the day and I leave it on her tray while she eats for her to check out and try. With cooking meals, I do as much as I can on weekends (make a meatloaf, bake a sweet potato, make a pot of mac-n-cheese) that I can heat up at night for dinner so I have time to sit with her and chat while she eats. I make the sides each night that are quick (frozen veggies, boil some pasta, make stuffing). I really wouldnt stress. They will pick up things even by just watching the older kids at daycare :)

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  • jenn_darrin1515jenn_darrin1515 member

    imageBengalBelle:
    Our daycare has been a huge part of each transition.  We talk about what's going on at home versus school and work together to transition him.  It's usually less training and more about introducing him to new things (sippies, spoon/fork, solid food, no bottle, etc.) in a consistent manner.  I'm not sitting there giving him instructions, I'm just letting him become comfortable with each new thing - and that's what daycare is doing too.

    this exactly. 

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    imagejenn_darrin1515:

    imageBengalBelle:
    Our daycare has been a huge part of each transition.  We talk about what's going on at home versus school and work together to transition him.  It's usually less training and more about introducing him to new things (sippies, spoon/fork, solid food, no bottle, etc.) in a consistent manner.  I'm not sitting there giving him instructions, I'm just letting him become comfortable with each new thing - and that's what daycare is doing too.

    this exactly. 

    I agree with the previous posters all 100%.  Daycare and you HAVE to be on the same page, that's how it is going to work. 

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  • CityplannerCityplanner
    imagejesspacatc:imagejenn_darrin1515:imageBengalBelle:Our daycare has been a huge part of each transition.  We talk about what's going on at home versus school and work together to transition him.  It's usually less training and more about introducing him to new things (sippies, spoon/fork, solid food, no bottle, etc.) in a consistent manner.  I'm not sitting there giving him instructions, I'm just letting him become comfortable with each new thing - and that's what daycare is doing too.
    this exactly. I agree with the previous posters all 100%.  Daycare and you HAVE to be on the same page, that's how it is going to work. I'll add my voice to the chorus.Also, while there's a whole list of things that I have trouble finding time for in the evenings and on weekends, none of them are on that list that you had.  Those are things that we just do that don't really take more time.  We're all eating together.  This is REALLY important to me, to get into the habit of family meal time.  Even when she was just starting solids, we'd feed her at the table with us.  I think that's a big part of the way she became interested in solids and drinking out of a cup.  She actually started drinking out of a real cup before she learned how to drink out of a sippy.  She started gesturing to drink water out of our glasses.And solids is the same thing.  Even if you eat at different times, you do have to feed him, right?    Solids doesn't take that much longer than purees.   And, letting him play with a sippy, even in the car on the way home from daycare, doesn't take much time. But, the really important thing is that they're working with you at daycare.   
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