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am i just being a b!tch?
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yesterday we went to DHs uncles place for dinner with FIL, SIL & BIL. After dinner, while they were playing a game i put monster to bed, layed a blanket on the floor and placed him ASLEEP on the blanket. I asked everyone to please be quiet because he's sleeping. they woke him up. okay, fine. so after an hour or so, i finally got him to sleep again but decided to keep him on my chest. they woke him up, again. I got p!ssed. SIL said "well, you have to expect that we will be loud. this made momma bear come out, i said "wtf? you have to expect that he'll sleep" that was pretty much the end of it. I get so mad when people wake him up, that being said, he's not an easy baby to wake up. He will sleep through a lot. am i just being a b!tch?
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Re: am i just being a b!tch?
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it was just FIL, SIL, BIL, DH's uncle and us. everyone except DHs uncle knows when monster naps (it wasn't his bedtime, just a nap) he also isn't a light sleeper, at all. There was a movie playing in the backgroud, pretty loud, when i got him to sleep and it was still playing when they managed to wake him up.
No, not really. It must be tough when you are living with people who don't seem to care about the baby's needs. I like a pp's suggestion of handing the baby to a noise offender to put down. Ha.
Whoops. Just noticed you weren't home.
vegan mama, military wife
This. I probably would have went home or if he was doing ok without the nap, then not worried too much about it. Not to say it wouldn't have annoyed me though! 1ht.
I probably would have left. DS is a bear when he doesn't get enough sleep.
Just a suggestion here. It's probably hard on LO to be in a relatively unfamiliar place and try to nap. I would carry a PacknPlay and an inexpensive monitor and set them up in a bedroom or quiet area of the house, out of the main area where people will be.
You could be sure he's getting good rest in a safe environment, and the rest of the family doesn't have to keep it down. Now, if they went into said quiet area and still woke him up - let the bitchfest ensue.
Edit - Oops! Saw Violet's post, so forgive the repeat.
Ah. That is a bit of a predicament. Was it nice enough out to take him on the porch or for a walk? Do you have a carrier? When I wear DS, he tunes out more noise than when he is laying alone. Maybe next time try to schedule around naps??? Not always possible, though, I understand. GL
I would have found a quiet room for LO to nap in. If none was available, I'd either go home or resign myself to the fact that LO wasn't going to nap.
lol. we don't have a pnp
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
it was SIL & BIL. i live with them.
It still wasn't your place.
yeah, and that's fine. i was just saying that it wasn't like i was telling DHs uncle to be quiet.
You said in your OP "I asked everyone to please be quiet because he's sleeping." so you did ask his uncle to be quiet also. You can't put a sleeping baby on the floor in a room full of adults and expect them to whisper, especially if everyone is playing a game.
You don't get to dictate that other people be quiet for your sleeping baby. Bring a pack 'n play or something you can put him in and put him in another room to sleep. That seems like a good win/win compromise for everyone.
ETA: I have also been places without a PNP and taken DS into the other room and let him sleep on me for his nap. Yup, it stinks that I have to stop socializing for an hour, but I don't expect other people to change what they are doing for MY child.
I would have done this.
I'm just a lurker, but it sure does seem like you're making a lot of excuses. "I don't have a car", "I don't have a PnP", "Our room isn't big enough to put all of our stuff in to keep the cats from clawing it". At some point you're going to have to (wo)man up and take some responsibility.
That sucks that your DS was awoken by everyone's noise, but you can't seriously expect a bunch of adults to tiptoe around because your child needs a nap. You don't need a fancy PnP, I see them on CL all the time for around $20. If this is truly too much for you to spend (I understand you've had some financial troubles), put your DS to sleep on a blanket in the floor in another room. If you don't have a monitor to keep an ear out for him, suck it up and sit in the quiet room with him.
It is not your FIL, SIL, BIL or UIL's responsibility to make sure that your child gets a quality nap. It is strictly up to you and your DH. When we are guests in someone else's house I would never ask them to alter their lifestyle to accomodate mine and my child's needs. If DD needs a nap, I do what it takes to get her the quality sleep she needs. Even if that means taking her for a walk around the block.
Sorry for being so frank (especially as a lurker) but it's really time to grow up and quit blaming everyone else. Take responsibility for yourself and your family. Flame away if you must...