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Am I the only one...

Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007
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...who could stand to see a few more REAL opinions shared on the board?  Don't get me wrong, I'm not one for creating unnecessary drama; but what's wrong with calling a spade a spade?  Honesty isn't always pretty; but it's very rarely rooted in mean spiritedness.  In fact, I think part of "our" (collectively speaking) problem is that we don't (for fear of being perceived as "mean" or "judgmental" or whatever) share our honest opinions enough around here.  Then, when the [rare] flood gate is opened, we all tend to unload/unleash some of our built up/pent up frustrations...fairly or unfairly.  Or am I just a BFM?   

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  • hannah&benhannah&ben

    Here here.

    You saw what happened last time I tried to nudge folks in that direction, LOL.

    Hannah

    ps - WTF is BFM?

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  • hav2runhav2run
    Perceive me however you want.  I am telling it the way I see it.  Hoping I don't lose friends in the process, but I have to be true to me.
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  • Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007
    imagehannah&ben:

    Here here.

    You saw what happened last time I tried to nudge folks in that direction, LOL.

    Hannah

    ps - WTF is BFM?

    You are legendary for that one, Hannah!

    BFM = Big Fat Meanie.  My goal is to coin at least 10 new Nest acronyms this fiscal year.  

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  • brittanyandcjbrittanyandcj
    imagehannah&ben:

    Here here.

    You saw what happened last time I tried to nudge folks in that direction, LOL.

    Hannah

    ps - WTF is BFM?

     

    i was going to as what BFM was too. i'm thinking big fvcking mess..but that's just a guess. lol

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  • KristenBtobeKristenBtobe member
    I do admit to sanitizing my responses sometimes. Since we all know a lot about each other, I don't want one of you to throw a flaming pile of doo in my yard one day for disagreeing with you.
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  • Mrs.BabbsyMrs.Babbsy member

    well you can clearly see where I stand:)

     

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  • hannah&benhannah&ben
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    Here here.

    You saw what happened last time I tried to nudge folks in that direction, LOL.

    Hannah

    ps - WTF is BFM?

    You are legendary for that one, Hannah!

    BFM = Big Fat Meanie.  My goal is to coin at least 10 new Nest acronyms this fiscal year.  

    Hehe.  Noted.  I'll help you make BFM happen, you BFM.

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  • awinningawinning member

    imagehav2run:
    Perceive me however you want.  I am telling it the way I see it.  Hoping I don't lose friends in the process, but I have to be true to me.

    I respect everyone that much for more for staying true to who they are. I have more to say on the subject but I just don't have the energy to put into it tonight.

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  • Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007
    imagebrittanyandcj:

    i was going to as what BFM was too. i'm thinking big fvcking mess..but that's just a guess. lol

    Well, I'm certainly THAT, too.  Stick out tongue 

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  • adamsbabbleadamsbabble member
    I don't have a problem with honesty, but I think where honesty creates a problem (especially in this type of forum) is that we can't always fully understand and appreciate where another person is coming from, making it easy for panties to get in a bunch.  And yeah, what's BFM?
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  • KristenBtobeKristenBtobe member
    Amanda, thank you for updating your photo to reflect your chic dark hair! NOW I recognize you. ;-)
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  • Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007

    imageKristenBtobe:
    I do admit to sanitizing my responses sometimes. Since we all know a lot about each other, I don't want one of you to throw a flaming pile of doo in my yard one day for disagreeing with you.

    "(S)he called the $hit, doo!" 

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  • hav2runhav2run
    What a mess this is on here. But I really think sanitizing isn't the answer either.
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  • awinningawinning member

    imageKristenBtobe:
    Amanda, thank you for updating your photo to reflect your chic dark hair! NOW I recognize you. ;-)

    It was a pain to do but I'll do anything for you ladies Wink

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  • warriormomerinwarriormomerin

    My real opinion is that I'm gonna take a sabbatical from the board. I've got the anniversary of DD's rape and my wedding anniversary coming up over the next month and I'm gonna go deal with all the BS that comes with that. I'll be checking for cookie swap posts though cuz I can't wait to poison you all with my cooking.  Stick out tongue

    So, if you need me, find me on FB.

    Peace Out Drama LLama's!

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  • rachel06rachel06
    Nope I am with you. I often don't respond because I feel like my opinion may not always be the popular one. I don't post everything because I get that not everyone will understand what I am going through and I don't think every detail of my life shouldn't be posted. I would never post something where I didn't expect someone to give me honest input. It's a message board and of course people's opinions are going to differ. As long as it's done in a respectful way people should be able to post their opinions without being considered a biotch, judmental, or whatever you want to call it.
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  • cops_wifecops_wife member

    I have no problem with honesty. I also sanitize my posts.

    I think honesty would be telling someone that something offends you when they post about it, not gossiping on Facebook and calling someone out only after discovering a large number of people agree with you.

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  • linzpinz14linzpinz14
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    I have no problem with honesty. I also sanitize my posts.

    I think honesty would be telling someone that something offends you when they post about it, not gossiping on Facebook and calling someone out only after discovering a large number of people agree with you.

    I heart you, Cops.  I heart you alot.  :)

    And, I am mainly staying out of all this.  Unless any spanking is involved, I really don't care much what anyone calls their baby. Stick out tongue

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  • curlypie1curlypie1
    imagecops_wife:

    I have no problem with honesty. I also sanitize my posts.

    I think honesty would be telling someone that something offends you when they post about it, not gossiping on Facebook and calling someone out only after discovering a large number of people agree with you.

    If I'm going to be honest, I must agree with Christy. I understand how the verbiage used was upsetting to some but since we're all big girls, it seems like a more gentle tactic could have been used to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

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  • rachel06rachel06
    imagecops_wife:

    I have no problem with honesty. I also sanitize my posts.

    I think honesty would be telling someone that something offends you when they post about it, not gossiping on Facebook and calling someone out only after discovering a large number of people agree with you.

    Who's gossiping?

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  • warriormomerinwarriormomerin
    imagecops_wife:

    I have no problem with honesty. I also sanitize my posts.

    I think honesty would be telling someone that something offends you when they post about it, not gossiping on Facebook and calling someone out only after discovering a large number of people agree with you.

    Very true! I wish the one star bandit would have the balls to be this honest.

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  • Mrs.BabbsyMrs.Babbsy member

    yeah so we talked about on fb, I've been wanting to do it for awhile. who cares!

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    imagecops_wife:

    I have no problem with honesty. I also sanitize my posts.

    I think honesty would be telling someone that something offends you when they post about it, not gossiping on Facebook and calling someone out only after discovering a large number of people agree with you.

    If I'm going to be honest, I must agree with Christy. I understand how the verbiage used was upsetting to some but since we're all big girls, it seems like a more gentle tactic could have been used to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    Yes

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  • Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007
    imagecurlypie1:

    I understand how the verbiage used was upsetting to some but since we're all big girls, it seems like a more gentle tactic could have been used to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    I guess this is my point.  I don't think many of us feel as though we *can* voice a discrepant/unpopular opinion on the board for fear of looking like a HRB (okay, now figure that new acronym out).  KWIM? 

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  • awinningawinning member
    imageLyons_in_2007:
    imagecurlypie1:

    I understand how the verbiage used was upsetting to some but since we're all big girls, it seems like a more gentle tactic could have been used to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    I guess this is my point.  I don't think many of us feel as though we *can* voice a discrepant/unpopular opinion on the board for fear of looking like a HRB (okay, now figure that new acronym out).  KWIM? 

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  • brittanyandcjbrittanyandcj
    imageLyons_in_2007:
    imagecurlypie1:

    I understand how the verbiage used was upsetting to some but since we're all big girls, it seems like a more gentle tactic could have been used to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    I guess this is my point.  I don't think many of us feel as though we *can* voice a discrepant/unpopular opinion on the board for fear of looking like a HRB (okay, now figure that new acronym out).  KWIM? 

    heinous righteous bvtch? hairy rampaging butthead? lol! i have no idea. 

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  • KristenBtobeKristenBtobe member

    I wasn't involved with this particular discussion beforehand, but I think the gossiping is just par for the course when a board has cliques like this one. Is it right? No, but it's kind of what happens.

    I consider myself clique-less, for the record. Like Jason Derulo, I'm riding solo. But there certainly are girls I've gotten close to.

    I guess this is the post GTG drama.

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  • hannah&benhannah&ben
    imageLyons_in_2007:
    imagecurlypie1:

    I understand how the verbiage used was upsetting to some but since we're all big girls, it seems like a more gentle tactic could have been used to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    I guess this is my point.  I don't think many of us feel as though we *can* voice a discrepant/unpopular opinion on the board for fear of looking like a HRB (okay, now figure that new acronym out).  KWIM? 

    hmmm... Huge Raging B!tch?  Hairy (w)Rinkley Ball?   I got nothin.

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    Hot Ribbed Bratwurst?
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  • brittanyandcjbrittanyandcj

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    Hot Ribbed Bratwurst?

    i think its hairy ribbed bratwurst Stick out tongue

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  • Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007

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    Hot Ribbed Bratwurst?

    LOVE this one!  In fact, so much so that I'm scrapping the lame "huge raging biotch" in favor of this meaning.  <3<3<3 

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  • curlypie1curlypie1
    imageLyons_in_2007:
    imagecurlypie1:

    I understand how the verbiage used was upsetting to some but since we're all big girls, it seems like a more gentle tactic could have been used to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

    I guess this is my point.  I don't think many of us feel as though we *can* voice a discrepant/unpopular opinion on the board for fear of looking like a HRB (okay, now figure that new acronym out).  KWIM? 

    Horny Redneck Ballbuster?

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  • cops_wifecops_wife member
    imageKristenBtobe:

    I wasn't involved with this particular discussion beforehand, but I think the gossiping is just par for the course when a board has cliques like this one. Is it right? No, but it's kind of what happens.

    I consider myself clique-less, for the record. Like Jason Derulo, I'm riding solo. But there certainly are girls I've gotten close to.

    I guess this is the post GTG drama.

    I'm sure there will be cliques and gossip. This just rings of junior high, with everyone conferring at a party the unpopular kid wasn't invited to on how to gang up on them at school the next day. No one was really bothered enough to say anything on their own and risk being left hanging, but hey, if everyone's going to back one another up, that's a different thing. Perhaps I am scarred by junior high, but it just strikes me as a bit unnecessary.

    Personally, I tend to think of myself as a one-man wolf pack ...

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  • adamsbabbleadamsbabble member
    imageKristenBtobe:

    I wasn't involved with this particular discussion beforehand, but I think the gossiping is just par for the course when a board has cliques like this one. Is it right? No, but it's kind of what happens.

    If a person is gossiping about everyone and also expecting everyone to be open/honest around here... well that's just silly.  Who wants to be honest and share herself just so that it provides material for people to gossip about? 

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  • KristenBtobeKristenBtobe member
    imagecops_wife:
    imageKristenBtobe:

    I wasn't involved with this particular discussion beforehand, but I think the gossiping is just par for the course when a board has cliques like this one. Is it right? No, but it's kind of what happens.

    I consider myself clique-less, for the record. Like Jason Derulo, I'm riding solo. But there certainly are girls I've gotten close to.

    I guess this is the post GTG drama.

    I'm sure there will be cliques and gossip. This just rings of junior high, with everyone conferring at a party the unpopular kid wasn't invited to on how to gang up on them at school the next day. No one was really bothered enough to say anything on their own and risk being left hanging, but hey, if everyone's going to back one another up, that's a different thing. Perhaps I am scarred by junior high, but it just strikes me as a bit unnecessary.

    Personally, I tend to think of myself as a one-man wolf pack ...

    And then I met you. And I thought "wait a minute, could it be?" And my wolfpack grew..

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  • awinningawinning member
    imagecops_wife:
    imageKristenBtobe:

    I wasn't involved with this particular discussion beforehand, but I think the gossiping is just par for the course when a board has cliques like this one. Is it right? No, but it's kind of what happens.

    I consider myself clique-less, for the record. Like Jason Derulo, I'm riding solo. But there certainly are girls I've gotten close to.

    I guess this is the post GTG drama.

    I'm sure there will be cliques and gossip. This just rings of junior high, with everyone conferring at a party the unpopular kid wasn't invited to on how to gang up on them at school the next day. No one was really bothered enough to say anything on their own and risk being left hanging, but hey, if everyone's going to back one another up, that's a different thing. Perhaps I am scarred by junior high, but it just strikes me as a bit unnecessary.

    Personally, I tend to think of myself as a one-man wolf pack ...

    One-man wolf pack. :::Dies:::

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  • curlypie1curlypie1
    imagecops_wife:
    imageKristenBtobe:

    I wasn't involved with this particular discussion beforehand, but I think the gossiping is just par for the course when a board has cliques like this one. Is it right? No, but it's kind of what happens.

    I consider myself clique-less, for the record. Like Jason Derulo, I'm riding solo. But there certainly are girls I've gotten close to.

    I guess this is the post GTG drama.

    I'm sure there will be cliques and gossip. This just rings of junior high, with everyone conferring at a party the unpopular kid wasn't invited to on how to gang up on them at school the next day. No one was really bothered enough to say anything on their own and risk being left hanging, but hey, if everyone's going to back one another up, that's a different thing. Perhaps I am scarred by junior high, but it just strikes me as a bit unnecessary.

    Personally, I tend to think of myself as a one-man wolf pack ...

    here, here

    I gave up the gossip with my acne years ago.

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  • adamsbabbleadamsbabble member

    cops_wife i heart you and think you should make this your new siggy: 

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  • awinningawinning member
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    cops_wife i heart you and think you should make this your new siggy: 

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    Do it!!!

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  • cops_wifecops_wife member
    imageKristenBtobe:

    And then I met you. And I thought "wait a minute, could it be?" And my wolfpack grew..

    Aaahhh, this provided me with my first real laugh of the evening. Delightful.

    On an unrelated note, I have been singing "I'm just being honest. Oh oh, I'm just being honest," over and over in my head ever since I read this post. So THANKS A LOT, Tricia.

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