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Tara n Mike
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I won't forget how badly I wanted it
Tara n Mike
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Ok, so I am feeling b!tchy today too. I get so annoyed when I read some first tri posts and beyond that just complain and complain and complain.
Granted, I have never experienced pregnancy, but I pray that I am not one of those women. I have waited and wanted to be pg for SO long. I want to enjoy it as much as possible if and when I am blessed that way.
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Re: I won't forget how badly I wanted it
if it bugs you don't lurk there, just sayin'
Dx PCOS 09/08 2000mg Met
TTC #1 from 05/08-02/09 BFP 02/26/09
DD Born 11/11/09
Suprise Baby #2 on the way! EDD 8/16/13
Touche, Red, but I lurk anyway.
meh - its the 1st tri board - if you are gonna vent/whine where else are you gonna do it? Pg is hard work, I don't care how bad you wanted it, its still a PITA.
I agree to a point. It sucks that they complain about something you want more than anything else. So I hear you there. But, getting pregnant isn't a zero sum game. There aren't a finite number of babies out there and one person having one means you can't. So I wouldn't want to say that they don't have a right to complain because I want to be pg too.
Also, some people are just complainers no matter what the situation is.
Being pregnant is not all puppies and rainbows. Some people feel like crap the entire nine months. I have a friend who was admitted to the hospital for a few weeks her morning sickness was so bad.
It's not like they are complaining on a t-ttc board. If you find it insensitive, don't go over there.
I guess I should have seen this coming. I was just venting, people. Some agree, some don't. Right now, it annoys me, maybe when I'm pg I'll be doing the same thing or have a completely different perspective.
I'm leaving because I have to get back to work; just didn't want you all to think you scared me away
Seriously, I'm sorry if I have offended anyone. Complain all you want.
You know what? Kiss my ass.
I go there specifically because it is the one place I can freely vent about how shitty I feel. This pregnancy was very much wanted and very much planned (for a very long time, I might add) and I am thrilled to death and grateful beyond all belief that things seem to be going well. I cannot wait to meet my child.
But I feel awful. My boss has talked about sending me home, but I can't waste my sick time. I am so tired I can barely keep my head up, and my productivity has gone down a great deal. I am so emotional that it's all I can do not to cry when a coworker asks about a project I simply haven't gotten to yet. I spend half of every day sucking down every sour thing I can, drinking ginger ale, eating crackers, praying that I don't throw up. I have to get up three times a night to pee. The list of foods I can eat without feeling sick gets smaller everyday.
Frankly, this sucks. Is it worth it? Yes, it is. I am so grateful to be pregnant. But being happy about it and grateful doesn't change the fact that these symptoms are wreaking havoc on my body and affecting me in a serious way.
I'm not coming here to *** to you about them. I'm not flaunting it over at TTTC. I'm venting in the most appropriate place.
It's very, very simple. Don't lurk there if you don't want to see it. I really hope you have a great pregnancy and no cause for complaint, but you are probably not going to be that lucky. Remember this then.
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I have been VOMITTING over a trashcan in my office for 10 minute straight while my client is in the next room. NO. You do NOT get to judge me for not liking this part of pregnancy.
I don't care who you are or what the status of your uterus is, having lunch revisit you after it's been partially digested is NEVER fun.
You have got to be kidding me. I tried for quite some time to get pregnant but I have had m/s the whole entire 9 months. Do you know what it is like to throw up for 9 months almost every day? To have to eat your food over the course of an hour to try and not throw it up? I doubt it. I tried for a long time and it does not mean I am ungrateful when I complain. I complain *gasp* on the BOTB board and no one says anything to me period about it in fact they comfort me.
The idea that you are lurking on the 1st trimester board and upset about what you read is nuts.If you think pregnancy is all puppies and rainbows you are in for a rude awakening.Your ticker says you're on your 3rd cycle TTC. Forever?
"I stammered, unable to form a coherent thought because I have a vagina."
Ok, I really am leaving, an honestly I am sorry I pissed you all off! Please accept my apology.
You are right, it doesn't mean that you didn't want it as badly as I do or wait a long time for it. Next time I will chose my words more carefully or simply keep my thoughts to myself.
So because you want a baby and have been trying for a long time, that means no one should complain about the SYMPTOMS of pregnancy. Interesting.
Guess what? I'm thrilled to be pregnant. Guess what else? When I sneeze, it feels like my guts are being ripped out. When I don't get enough sleep, I cry all day long and if I don't get enough sleep for a couple of days, I go into a deep depression.
But I won't complain about my pregnancy symptoms because you aren't pregnant. I certainly won't complain about them on a trimester board, which is exactly the place to do so. Where would you suggest I talk about them, TTTC?
So sorry to have offended you.
Well, she's not in their shoes either. I could totally understand if people were biitching about m/s on a t-ttc board, but they weren't and she has no right to judge them.
I totally agree Mike&Care! I don't think she meant that she thinks no pregnant woman should ever be unhappy that they are suffering from morning sickness or any of the other unpleasent side effects of pregnancy. I think her point was that it is difficult for her personally to read about people focusing on the negative when she would be so happy to have pregnancy side effects.
In her defense, it isn't like she went into 1st Tri and said none of the pregnant women who regularly post there should ever be negative ever again. She came to a board where the majority of posters are not pregant yet and who are currently going through that desire to throw up because they are pregnant. I think we have all read quite a few posts where someone has gotten a stomach flu or breast soreness and hoped and prayed that it was a pregnancy symptom. To me that is no different than some of the PPs who said they don't complain about morning sickness in TTTC. They complain where it is most appropriate, and so did she.
I really don't think she meant to offend anyone. I think she was just looking for support for something difficult she is going through just like you ladies look for support on the pregnancy boards when you aren't feeling well.
It's the title and tone of the post.
That if she is ever hanging over a trashcan, she will be praising everything holy for it because she is more thankful for her pregnancy than I am. That is the tone she conveyed.
Maltwin I think you made a lot of good points. There are plenty of people who post about how excited they are and how happy they are. But that is not what this post was about. Yea she did bring it back over here but it is still inappropriate to imply they are not grateful. The title and the post imply this. I have not forgotten how badly I wanted to get pg but I was still sick and complained.
I am offended people think we would be from a secret GP board. Barf.