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Daycare vent - some thoughts please...

FloF9FloF9 member
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Okay when my kids entered daycare at 18 months (3X a week) I really loved it.  I have been a fan of daycare (they go to Kindercare) because there was so much to do, the socialization, etc...  there were a few hiccups (one of the teachers passed away, the twins 2nd teacher (2 yr group) quit without warning.  Fast forward to now - my twins are now 3 yrs 3 months and are still in the 2  yr old group.  I was a little miffed that my DH had to "ask" the director when my DS who IS potty trained would be moving to the 3's group. 

Apparently the answer she gave him was that DS was still a little immature (hello he's 3) and the 3 year group has an area they share with the 4 yr olds.  This room is very big and there is an imaginary line down the middle of the room.  So he has to learn the boundaries.  Okay - she stated they were going to start him going there every morning for a while until they did the full transition.  So as far as I know they have only taken him to the 3 yr olds one week in the mornings (it's been 3 since DH spoke with the director) How do I know - because they give us a daily report.

DD hasn't made the transition because she's not fully potty trained.  I have to ask her teacher about going cold turkey from now on.  She did exactly what DS was doing - going potty at school but not at home. 

I'm not sure if I should feel upset about them not being in a rush to move them up (or at least DS anyway). 

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Re: Daycare vent - some thoughts please...

  • FloF9FloF9 member

    Gah!!  I just read my post over and I sound super whiney!  I know what is really bugging me is that DD is showing absolutely NO desire to PT.  This has put me in a chronic bad mood lately.

    I'm going to swing by Boston chicken, head home, and go to bed early.

    Boo!  Hisssss!   Angry

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  • The_Jen626The_Jen626

    Sorry you're having a bad day!

    I don't know anything about PTing... But I've heard there's a "3 day method" or something?  Have you tried that?

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  • SpenjaminsSpenjamins

    My guys are almost 3 1/2 and I tried the 3 day and other stuff. They have no interest in really PTing right now.

    People tell me one day they will just get it....

    I feel your pain.

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  • jrrsjrrs member

    Don't worry.  It all falls into place.  We had DS at a place I thought was terrific, but they did the same sorts of things.  Held DS back for no reason.  I switched him to a different place (due to many, many other reasons) but now he's in a different room every six months the daycare is so big (well before we started him in kindergarten) and honestly, in the end, I stressed over something that didn't have to be stressed over. 

    As far as PT going, it happens when it happens.  DS got the PT done by three, but poop was a whole other YEAR!  A year, he pooped in his pants.  All kids do it on their own timeframe, and it's so stressful.  You want to do it for them, you want them to grasp it, you want them to get it over with.  But this is truly the first thing they get to control on their own terms.  I think some kids take advantage of that a little more than others :)

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  • DTNZ4EverDTNZ4Ever member
    I know at our daycare they have to move another kid up to an older group to move a new kid in. Ds was late moving into infant 2 and a couple months late on moving to the toddler room. The way they have the age grouped just didn't allow it sooner. Are you seeing any negative reprocutions from staying in the younger group?
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  • PeskyPesky member
    Hmmm, I don't know.  I would inquire again about your DS's transition, phrasing that his transition might encourage his sister in her PTing.  It's not uncommon for kids to stay in the transition room at DD's daycare (3-3.5) for a while, but I've never heard anything about holding them back for maturity reasons.  Pretty much when they are fully PTed, zero accidents for 2 wks minimum, and there is room in the preschool rooms, up they go.  The kids figure it out from there.  They do assign a child to a room based upon need (i.e. "problem" kids tend to go to a specific teacher who is good dealing with strong-willed kids, etc.) but they don't hold them back.  I would be more concerned if the curriculum was different between the room he would go to versus where he is now.  I know DD's preschool room is more academic and focuses a lot more on school work than play and art projects.


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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    Sorry about the potty training frustration but nothing you do or daycare does is going to make her train her any faster.  She will train when she is ready.  It is common for kids to have regression, do better at either home or daycare, etc.  Trust me, I feel your pain, my younger DD has been in undies since July and still rarely poops in the potty unless we catch her and put her on the potty.  She is doing really well with pee at least although went through a nasty regression 2 weeks ago.  As for the rooms, be assertive with the director and if you want your child moved up - tell them you want him moved up and by what date.  As long as there is room, they need to listen and work with you.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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