Oh dear...my mom just asked me

hawaii123 · September 2010

if she AND my dad can be in the delivery room when I give birth.

I laughed (I thought she was joking at first)

So I said "are you kidding or are you serious?"

She said "well, I'm serious"

I said "that would be a big fat no"

I told her that they could sit in the waiting room when I actually deliver but no one is going to be invited to the "circus"

That just cracks me up...I never thought my mom would ever ask me that.

Jade1230 · September 2010

My mom, MIL and Dad want to be in the room...but that isn't going to happen. Just my BF thank you very much

kilissa · September 2010

I told my husband that as of now it's just him and me (unless by some act of God my mom can fly in quick enough to be here, but I'm guessing not). As for MIL, I told him to plan on it being no, but if I feel charitable while in labor I reserve the right to change my mind. I genuinely like MIL and can see me changing my mind, but it would also be an awesome experience just for me and DH. We'll see what happens.

MandusMaximus · September 2010

lol I would have done the same thing. Are you kidding?

It's just going to be me and FH (screw dear husband how about friggin husband cause they're so damn annoying!). I think he'll pass out because he does terribly in hospitals. Something about smells. He is 280lbs and passed out on the floor when he had blood drawn for a routine physical! The isopropyl gets him every time Stick out tongue

iamgrace · September 2010

Pretty sure I just want H there. For me it's an intimate experience between my H and me, and I want it to be just us. I don't even know if I want other people there right away (as in waiting in the hospital) - I think I would feel too much pressure or something.

Maybe I'm selfish, but I get to be - it's my baby!

I am also the girl who doesn't want anyone but H touching my belly.

My baby! lol.

kwitt22 · September 2010

I also just want H in there. I agree it is an intimate experience i want to share with him. I also I am just not a fan of everyone seeing it all hang out while I give birth.

cfranklin1 · September 2010

I'm amazed at how birth has somehow become a spectator sport. People are vying to get into delivery rooms as though they were waiting for tickets to the Olympics!

I've made it very clear to everyone that it's just me, DH, and my best friend - and the only reason that she's coming in is because she's the single person in this world that knows how to calm me. She's a massage therapist, so she knows all those little pressure points, and she's a soothing presence.

EMarberry · September 2010

I just moved away from my family in florida to virginia this summer, and one of my most heartfelt wishes is that my mom can get here fast enough when the time comes to be in the delivery room with me and hold my hand, I don't think reassurance from anyone else would mean as much.

My dad on the other hand would be a big no

My husband doesn't want to be in the room, and honestly I don't think I want him there either. I don't want him to see my body go through that kind of trama, I don't want him to look at me differently. Don't get me wrong I feel completely at ease around my husband, and love him more than anything in the world, but it just going to be too gross.

bryanddani2009 · September 2010

It's going to be just DH and I in the room. We're also planning on having about half an hour of "family bonding" time before anyone comes in the room. I feel like those first moments are so important in the bonding experience with the baby. We want to make the most of them before the chaos begins and our large families are DEFINITELY chaotic!

NavyGMWife · September 2010

Just DH and my mom! That is it. Others may be in there before the pushing part, but when it's time to push out you go!

bootsie08 · September 2010

I knew someone who had her mom, dad, her DH's mom, her DH's mom's girlfriend, aunt and uncle in the delivery room. But then she also announced her BFP to everyone at work at 5 weeks because she thought we could all use some "wonderful news" because one of our coworkers had just lost her husband in Iraq. Total AW. Huh?

It was just DH and I in the delivery room when DD was born. This time around, I am hiring a doula since DH may not make it home in time for the birth. Any other family members would just completely stress me out and I would hate to say something I would later regret.

Mrs.Bunches · September 2010

LoL Both of them?! Ha.

My mom asked me a while back (for just her though). Without missing a beat, I answered "absolutely not".

skio · September 2010

The thought of my dad being in the delivery room makes me shudder.

Only DH will be with me, TYVM. No one else is even getting a phone call until baby is born. And I'm very close with my mom...I just don't have any inclination at all to have her there.

OscarQ · September 2010

I really don't understand why anyone other than the DH and maybe a friend or sister would be in the delivery room. And some couples are really being given a hard time with relatives insisting they be allowed in the room. One girl on 2nd Tri (or maybe 1st) had her MIL insist on being in the OR during her C section!

It doesn't sound like your mom is insisting - it's just strange to me that people even ask or want to be there. It's just such a private moment.

KK1974 · September 2010

Well, my mom and MIL has not asked, but the answer would be NO. Only DH and myself. That's the only people, aside from the drs that need to be in the room. DH will cut the cord. There is NO debate on that. Don't have any backups if DH can't be there,, but not worried about that,, he WILL be there! lol

Fryday37 · September 2010

i think i might want my mom there actually. but my dad...i love him to death but i do NOT need him in the same room as my naked hoo-ha. i would be mortified! lol! i think he would agree with that!

Artsywife07 · September 2010

It will be just me and DH in there. It's strange to me too that other people would even expect (or demand!) to be there. I'd be shocked if my mom asked to be in there. I'm sure my family will be out in the waiting room though.

jessababe85 · September 2010

One night at dinner my MIL decided she was going to invite herself and my mom into the delivery room. I dont even want to think about how my face looked when she said that because my mom also had a look of disgust on her face. I informed her that DH and I were to be the only ones in the delivery room. I may change my mind and have MY mother come in there because she and I are very close, but I definately DO NOT want my monster in law in there ruining my child's birth!

mrssburnison · September 2010

I want my mom and my husband in the room, but i don't know if my mom will be able to be here in time. She is 3 hours away, so let's hope she can... but we will have to wait and see! Plus she's gotta go across customs to get here as well!!!! That's never easy!

green bean · September 2010

my mom dosent want to be there , she thinks it should just be mre and my dh in the room ., I compleatly agree with her, now I just have to convince my dh that he will be in the room with me , Iam not doing it all alone, he helped put lo in there he can be there when lo comes out!

HoolahZinger · September 2010

What dad would want to see his daughter's hooziwhatee?! Yikes! As for my mom, I would love for her to be a part of the experience since we're very close and she has gone through the same thing.

mommy2bemarch2011 · September 2010

lol this post made me laugh considering my cousins gf was willing to let anyone and everyone in there after she was drugged of course lol as far me im not sure who all will be in there i know my mom, my hubby not sure who else... this is something that we enjoy sharing in my family lol

not sure why but we do

veggybugg · September 2010

I work with my parents at their business EVERY DAY and are really really close to them. That said, they said they don't even want to be at the hospital till after I deliver. Which is great, cause I'm not sure I want them there.

My MIL will probably be there in the waiting room just cause she wants to be there as support incase we need anything. She's really quiet and shy so that is how she feels like she can help.

One of my best friends wants me to video the birth so she can watch Sprout come out. I laughed at her. I told her there will be NO CAMERAS down there. She's still scheming.

Tarah716 · September 2010

I've already told DH that it's going to just be him, the doctors and myself in that room. Everyone else can wait outside, I want to be a family of three for a little bit before people start wanting to hold him/her.

hispenguin · September 2010

I think I'm in the minority. I want my mother in the room. She delivered three children naturally and I really want her there for support. My husband will also be there, but he doesn't do too well when I'm in pain.

tolicakes · September 2010

I actually want my mother in the room too. I also don't mind if my MIL is there also. DH will probably need her for support. But I will inform both of them that they are there for support not to be in the middle of everything.

Kered6799 · September 2010

I am still on the fence and know I have time to decide. hubby will definitely be there. Kind of want my mom but then I wouldn't mind having my MIL either. no dad

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