Probably a flameful vent.

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

This might be flameful, but I really don't care. I just need to say this, but I can't to my husband cause he doesn't like "drama".

There's a few girls around the same age as me who have children. E has twin boys who are 9 days younger than DD and L has a daughter who is probably around 4 months. They go downtown almost everynight and get wasted and I'm just wondering what they did with their babies?! I realize neither of them are married or are with the daddy anymore, but still, even when they have their child(ren), do they just give them to someone else to watch them?

I realize there is nothing wrong with going out and drinking and having fun every now and then, but all the time? Seriously, you have children. Please grow up and take on that responsablity.

Vent over. Flame if you must.

DelGrecoBride · September 2010

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

ASmallWonder · September 2010

DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I don't see her getting "so worked up over it." No flames here because I agree. If you have a baby you still get to have fun but you also need to be responsible.

ldoo · September 2010

Are they being irresponsible?

klf2284 · September 2010

yeah, i'm going to have to completely agree with you. I think its selfish and immature for people to go out all the freakin time after they have children. Ocassionally is ok, but come on....be a parent!

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I'm not getting worked up, I just think they need to be responsible.

No. I went to school with L. E is a good friend and we became close while we were pregnant, but we're not "best friends".

Ivana_Stolichnaya · September 2010

Some people refuse to grow up and it's sad when there's children involved. I don't know if I would get worked up over it though. I don't know them so I can't really judge but maybe look at it on the bright side, maybe they have a more mature babysitter watching them while their moms are getting sloshed. Maybe the more time with the sitter the better.

jill_aitoro7 · September 2010

I see nothing flameworthy. Agree completely.

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

ldoo:
Are they being irresponsible?

Irresponsible as in what? Harming their children in any way? No, they would have to be with their children for that to happen. They're not being responsible as in they have children that they give away to people so they can get wasted off their a$$ all the time.

emily0829 · September 2010

Eh, some people want to maintain the social life and sadly miss out on being with their LO's.

I go out maybe once a month downtown. I don't get "wasted" because I want to be "present" with my child the next day, not hung over. Sometimes I can make it twice a month. It's much easier on my conscience now that LO sleeps through the night for the past 2 1/2 months. I know he will be asleep, and DH is home with him.

Anyway, I agree with you. Every now and then is acceptable but every weekend? I would feel too guilty, but to each their own.

Melly Mel · September 2010

I agree! Going out every night? Unacceptable. in my opinion. I don't even go out once a month lol.

DelGrecoBride · September 2010

eh - i still don't think its something you need to get worked up about. are they irresponsible parents in general?

who knows....maybe im just in a lax mood right now, but god...if i could get a sitter a few times a week and go out i would love that. maybe not get wasted but i could handle a few drinks

AshSchultz · September 2010

First of all:: Hi fellow Georgian!! )) GOO DAWGS!

Second of all: I know a few ppl like this. I wouldn't call it "Getting worked up over".. it is extremely immature and unfortunate for the children. It drives me crazy even though I have no control over it.... and like you, I don't talk about it w/ DH b/c he can't stand to hear the "drama".. but yes, it is BS and very sad for the children. Be a parent for heaven sakes. But like others have said, maybe it's best that the child is with the sitter more often and less with the mom if the mom is this way... =(

Pumpkin30 · September 2010

Ivana.Stolichnaya:
Some people refuse to grow up and it's sad when there's children involved. I don't know if I would get worked up over it though. I don't know them so I can't really judge but maybe look at it on the bright side, maybe they have a more mature babysitter watching them while their moms are getting sloshed. Maybe the more time with the sitter the better.

Hehe!

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

emily0829:

Eh, some people want to maintain the social life and sadly miss out on being with their LO's.

I go out maybe once a month downtown. I don't get "wasted" because I want to be "present" with my child the next day, not hung over. Sometimes I can make it twice a month. It's much easier on my conscience now that LO sleeps through the night for the past 2 1/2 months. I know he will be asleep, and DH is home with him.

Anyway, I agree with you. Every now and then is acceptable but every weekend? I would feel too guilty, but to each their own.

When E was pregnant, she was a completely different person. She would make fun of the drunks and say "I can't believe that used to be me. Not anymore, though. I have 2 boys to take care of". But she went right back to her old self.

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

AshSchultz:

First of all:: Hi fellow Georgian!! )) GOO DAWGS!

Second of all: I know a few ppl like this. I wouldn't call it "Getting worked up over".. it is extremely immature and unfortunate for the children. It drives me crazy even though I have no control over it.... and like you, I don't talk about it w/ DH b/c he can't stand to hear the "drama".. but yes, it is BS and very sad for the children. Be a parent for heaven sakes. But like others have said, maybe it's best that the child is with the sitter more often and less with the mom if the mom is this way... =(

I've seen the cute picture of your son so many times and admired it, but didn't even notice you're from Georgia, too!

Starfish113 · September 2010

klf2284:
yeah, i'm going to have to completely agree with you. I think its selfish and immature for people to go out all the freakin time after they have children. Ocassionally is ok, but come on....be a parent!

Holy crap klf your siggy pic is ADORABLE! --- and I agree with you OP, when you have children you can't go out every night anymore... your priorities have to change!

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

emily0829 · September 2010

AshSchultz:

First of all:: Hi fellow Georgian!! )) GOO DAWGS!

Second of all: I know a few ppl like this. I wouldn't call it "Getting worked up over".. it is extremely immature and unfortunate for the children. It drives me crazy even though I have no control over it.... and like you, I don't talk about it w/ DH b/c he can't stand to hear the "drama".. but yes, it is BS and very sad for the children. Be a parent for heaven sakes. But like others have said, maybe it's best that the child is with the sitter more often and less with the mom if the mom is this way... =(

HOLY FREAKING CUTE HAT!!!!!

emily0829 · September 2010

AshSchultz:

First of all:: Hi fellow Georgian!! )) GOO DAWGS!

Second of all: I know a few ppl like this. I wouldn't call it "Getting worked up over".. it is extremely immature and unfortunate for the children. It drives me crazy even though I have no control over it.... and like you, I don't talk about it w/ DH b/c he can't stand to hear the "drama".. but yes, it is BS and very sad for the children. Be a parent for heaven sakes. But like others have said, maybe it's best that the child is with the sitter more often and less with the mom if the mom is this way... =(

HOLY FREAKING CUTE HAT!!!!!

(and baby!)

emily0829 · September 2010

AshSchultz:

First of all:: Hi fellow Georgian!! )) GOO DAWGS!

Second of all: I know a few ppl like this. I wouldn't call it "Getting worked up over".. it is extremely immature and unfortunate for the children. It drives me crazy even though I have no control over it.... and like you, I don't talk about it w/ DH b/c he can't stand to hear the "drama".. but yes, it is BS and very sad for the children. Be a parent for heaven sakes. But like others have said, maybe it's best that the child is with the sitter more often and less with the mom if the mom is this way... =(

HOLY FREAKING CUTE HAT!!!!!

(and

emily0829 · September 2010

AshSchultz:

First of all:: Hi fellow Georgian!! )) GOO DAWGS!

Second of all: I know a few ppl like this. I wouldn't call it "Getting worked up over".. it is extremely immature and unfortunate for the children. It drives me crazy even though I have no control over it.... and like you, I don't talk about it w/ DH b/c he can't stand to hear the "drama".. but yes, it is BS and very sad for the children. Be a parent for heaven sakes. But like others have said, maybe it's best that the child is with the sitter more often and less with the mom if the mom is this way... =(

HOLY FREAKING CUTE HAT!!!!!

(and baby!)

AshSchultz · September 2010

yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Yikes. R

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

Uh, you called it a flameful vent and deemed it such explosive drama that your own DH doesn't even want to hear about it. I call that getting worked up.

DelGrecoBride · September 2010

kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

are you stalking them or something? i dont know...i find this whole thing weird...almost like you might be jealous of them or something

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

emily0829:

Eh, some people want to maintain the social life and sadly miss out on being with their LO's.

I go out maybe once a month downtown. I don't get "wasted" because I want to be "present" with my child the next day, not hung over. Sometimes I can make it twice a month. It's much easier on my conscience now that LO sleeps through the night for the past 2 1/2 months. I know he will be asleep, and DH is home with him.

Anyway, I agree with you. Every now and then is acceptable but every weekend? I would feel too guilty, but to each their own.

PS, I remember you from the tri boards. Your son is so cute!

AshSchultz · September 2010

kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

My gosh. No kidding.. I wouldn't call it getting worked up.

And my oh my, ppl are rude is all I have to say.............

AshSchultz · September 2010

emily0829:
AshSchultz:

First of all:: Hi fellow Georgian!! )) GOO DAWGS!

Second of all: I know a few ppl like this. I wouldn't call it "Getting worked up over".. it is extremely immature and unfortunate for the children. It drives me crazy even though I have no control over it.... and like you, I don't talk about it w/ DH b/c he can't stand to hear the "drama".. but yes, it is BS and very sad for the children. Be a parent for heaven sakes. But like others have said, maybe it's best that the child is with the sitter more often and less with the mom if the mom is this way... =(

HOLY FREAKING CUTE HAT!!!!!

(and baby!)

Thank you so much!!!! ))

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

Oh, and usual joint custody here is one evening a week and every other weekend. So if there were four weeks in a month, that could be 8 times a month!

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

DelGrecoBride:
kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

are you stalking them or something? i dont know...i find this whole thing weird...almost like you might be jealous of them or something

That is what it sounds like, DGB. Me thinks she had avisit from the green eyed monster.

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

AshSchultz:
kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

My gosh. No kidding.. I wouldn't call it getting worked up.

And my oh my, ppl are rude is all I have to say.............

Right, because calling your close friends lushes and negligent parents is not rude?

DelGrecoBride · September 2010

yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:
kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

are you stalking them or something? i dont know...i find this whole thing weird...almost like you might be jealous of them or something

That is what it sounds like, DGB. Me thinks she had avisit from the green eyed monster.

yep i think so. ok im off to take my boys to the pool! actually...one is going to the nursery and the other is coming with me...and im meeting a friend and we just might have a margarita...GASP!!

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

DelGrecoBride:
kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

are you stalking them or something? i dont know...i find this whole thing weird...almost like you might be jealous of them or something

Hahahahaha! Wow, thanks for the laugh.

First, I got bored at work and looked at a website and their pictures are all over it. If you consider that stalking, then I guess I'm guilty. But normal people wouldn't call that stalking.

And second, what reason would I have to be jealous?! I seriously want to know. Because I'm the one who gets to spend time with my daughter and husband while they're trying to get rid of their children.

Hip2Bsquare · September 2010

I don't agree that they do it every night but do you really know for sure they are going out every night? You even said you don't know what they do with their children? So I am kinda thinking there is a lot to the story that you don't know. Are you sure they are getting wasted? maybe every other night they drink. Maybe they just go there to dance or play pool.

I don't know about you but My DD has gone down to bed as early 7pm but most of the time it's 7:30 or 8. That is plenty early to meet some friends and have a drink if they had a babysitter, and a DD without missing any time with their children. JMO.

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

DelGrecoBride:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:
kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

are you stalking them or something? i dont know...i find this whole thing weird...almost like you might be jealous of them or something

That is what it sounds like, DGB. Me thinks she had avisit from the green eyed monster.

yep i think so. ok im off to take my boys to the pool! actually...one is going to the nursery and the other is coming with me...and im meeting a friend and we just might have a margarita...GASP!!

Well, don't let them take pictures of you sipping on the margarita. They'll be calling CPS

kgreek · September 2010

No flames from me. Take it from a girl whos now-ex couldn't grow the fvck up and enjoy being a daddy. There's a time and a place for partying.. and when you have children, its not daily. Put your big girl panties on and be a parent, geeeez.

synchrosally · September 2010

I have a friend like that. What really bothered me was her dancing it up and flirting 6 months pregnant, or worse, both her and her husband getting wasted at a party the held while their son was upstairs. I ended up preparing him a bottle because his parents were too drunk to figure it out.

Hip2Bsquare · September 2010

yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:
kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

are you stalking them or something? i dont know...i find this whole thing weird...almost like you might be jealous of them or something

That is what it sounds like, DGB. Me thinks she had avisit from the green eyed monster.

You guys must've been saying this as I was typing!

AshSchultz · September 2010

yankeebaby2:
AshSchultz:
kimandhuck:
yankeebaby2:
DelGrecoBride:

while it may not be right, i wouldn't get so worked up over it.

are they your best friends or something

I agree. Why are you getting so worked up? Of ten we don't know the whole story. Maybe that is the night the dad has them anyway.

OP, ithink you should MYOB

Unless they're with their dads every weekend and a few nights of every week, then that's not the case.

There's a photographer or two who goes downtown and takes pictures of people at a lot of the bars and then puts them online. They put the date on each album. The girls pictures are in almost every album under certain bars.

PS, I wouldn't call it "getting worked up". I call it venting about some irresposible mothers.

My gosh. No kidding.. I wouldn't call it getting worked up.

And my oh my, ppl are rude is all I have to say.............

Right, because calling your close friends lushes and negligent parents is not rude?

Ughhhhh, No... not rude in my book. Do you go out and party almost every night and leave you LO? Do you get smashed hammered drunk and come home to your LO several times a week? Are you in pictures at different bars several times a week?? You sure are acting "offended" by her concerns for the children and the parenting they are receiving.... I'm not trying to start a confrontation by no means.. but call it what you what.. going out 4-5 times a week when you are a mother is BAD PARENTING. and calling them out on it IS NOT RUDE. I hope she has or will tell them, they need to hear it. I know if it was my close friend, I absolutely would.. It's OK to disagree, but posting back hateful statements is obsurd.

bumpuser1691848 · September 2010

Italiannvegas:

I don't agree that they do it every night but do you really know for sure they are going out every night? You even said you don't know what they do with their children? So I am kinda thinking there is a lot to the story that you don't know. Are you sure they are getting wasted? maybe every other night they drink. Maybe they just go there to dance or play pool.

I don't know about you but My DD has gone down to bed as early 7pm but most of the time it's 7:30 or 8. That is plenty early to meet some friends and have a drink if they had a babysitter, and a DD without missing any time with their children. JMO.

I didn't say every night. I said almost. And yes, I know what nights they go out because theres pictures. And no I don't know who has the children, so I guess since I don't know that one thing, I don't know a lot the story. Seriously, does it matter who has them? It's not the mother.

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