spin off of What is your plan

$Shoegirl$ · October 2008

For those who plan to stay at home, don't you feel that people judge you because you won't be working outside of the house? I know I feel that way, everytime I say that I will stay home with the kids people look at me like I'm some slacker that doesn't want to work. Is wanting to be there for my kids such a horrible thing to do?

I do respect that some moms want to keep working, staying at home isn't for everyone but why can't they respect that staying home is ok too?

Mrs.Foreste · October 2008

Shoe- I couldn't have said it any better!

My mom was a SAHM & I loved it. She was there for everything & it meant so much to me. I want to be there for my kids every minute of the day & I'm too crazy to trust anyone else to watch them anyway!!

Don't people understand that staying at home raising children is a FT time itself?!

IloveJAV · October 2008

I see what you are saying. But I say screw those people that look at you funny! Who are they to judge. I think SAHM should be respected like any other job. It has always been my dream to be a Mom and I can't wait for that to be my job!:)

mrsmel · October 2008

no, and if that's what they think, so be it. everyone's job, family, and life is different, and i'm sick of there being these "rolls" that women are supposed to fit snuggly into. do what works for you. i'll still be contributing, i'll still be challenging myself. and if that's not enough for some random busy body, they are the one who has deal with that.

imavera · October 2008

I definitly do. It's frustrating! I've always known that I wanted to be a SAHM. Family is much more important to me than working.

ALMA1107 · October 2008

I don't really care what people say, I've always wanted to stay home with my kids and besides I work from home so we'll be ok :]

sauma790 · October 2008

Ignore those ignorant pp judging you for staying at home. I too had a SAHM growing up and it was great. She always had dinner ready for us and made all of our games.

More power to you if you can stay at home. Unfortunatley, I don't think we'll be that lucky. I will probably have to return back to work afterwards.

LTF525 · October 2008

imavera:
I definitly do. It's frustrating! I've always known that I wanted to be a SAHM. Family is much more important to me than working.

FYI, there are many people who value their family more than their work who HAVE to work full time. For some people staying at home is not an option. You might want to think about that before making comments like this.

imavera · October 2008

LTF- I completely agree, and I didn't mean it to sound like I don't believe that. That's just my response to when people make judgements towards me for what we've decided- my own personal beliefs, not a judgement of my own. Sorry for the confusion!

Bcbscorp · October 2008

I would love love love to be a stay at home mom but I dont think we'll be able to afford it. It's completely a full time job, especially if your a good mom rather than sitting on the couch with Bon Bon's. I'd stay at home in a heart beat, regardless of who thought what of me!

candy_mandy85 · October 2008

I plan to but I know there will be a year where I will have to go back and do an internship for a full year. I also wouldn't mind working part time from home a couple of hours a week.

My mom was a SAHM and loved it, she stayed home with us until I was 12. My brother and I also loved every minute of it.Children grow up so fast and I wouldn't want to miss all the little milestones but I understand that there may be a time where I might have to.

It isn't fair for people to judge others for wanting to stay home or for those that stay home to judge those who need or want to work. We are making the best decisions based on our families.

It does bug me though that a lot of people think it is not important.

KMH912 · October 2008

I swear I replied and I can't see it, so I am saying it again...

It's hard to be a SAHM these days b/c of finances for lots of people... although it is wonderful to be there for every moment, some people, like myself, enjoyed going back to work. I dreaded the day, 4 months after I had my baby, that I had to go back, but I did it... and I was surprised that it was nice. It was a little time for me to be me and to have adult conversation and get out of the house and do stuff that was for me- not to sound totally selfish, but it also gave me a feeling of accomplishment going and having a productive day and then coming home to be wife and mommy still. I would love to be able to stay home, don't get me wrong, but we can't afford that, and I love my job, so I don't mind working at all. Plus I have a great sitter that comes to my home to be with Alexis. Everyone will have a different view on it, and it's entirely what is best for you. SAHM's do have full time jobs, and FT working moms- I swear, we have two FT jobs... LOL... but yes a SAHM works full time round the clock for her family and should be seen that way.

KMH912 · October 2008

Whoops I did reply, just on the other post... LOL...

CrazyRabbitLadie · October 2008

i am totally jealous of any SAHM. I hope to be a semi WAHM when the time comes.

$Shoegirl$ · October 2008

K: see that's what frustrate me is that people think that you can't have a productive day if you don't work or that you don't accomplish anything...to me raising a child is accomplishment enough.

$Shoegirl$ · October 2008

Woah I didnt mean for it to be that snarky, lol! I still love you K

4realyo · October 2008

i wouldnt think that people are judging me, i would just think that most of them are jealous. but thats just me.

bbin09 · October 2008

I am totally jealous of SAHMs. Not because I think they have it easier, at all. I am jealous that they will get to spend so much more time with their kids than I will. I feel like I will miss so much.

Mrs.Carlybella · October 2008

i think no matter what you do people will judge you... working moms get judged for not 'being family focused' and using daycare.. (not saying that is true at all but saying they get judged for it). SAHMs get judged too..

damned if you do, damned if you don't

$Shoegirl$ · October 2008

Mrs Carly I totally agree with you, even though for me the clear choice is to stay home it doesn't make working moms bad mothers, I believe that we are all different and we all need different things. I totally respect that some moms want to keep working and some others prefer to stay home, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here, we have to decide what is best for us as a family.

mmmbride111 · October 2008

just don't listen to them. if people are so ignorant to judge your choices based on their preference it isn't worth your time. as a working mom, i have learned anyone who judges your decision just has issues with their own choice. I chose to work even though financially we could afford for me to stay home but I hated it while I was home and just love my job too much. It is completely a personal choice and no one has a right to judge your decision.

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