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Opinion on scamming for an u/s.
Hi everyone.
Before I write what I am thinking I want to start by saying that this is not directed towards anyone who has made a comment today. I have just noticed a trend on seeing this on other boards.
Having lost 2 babies in 1 year, of course I realize the anxiousness to see your baby all the time. However, I find it kind of wrong and semi repulsive to "scam" your ob so that you can get another u/s. The reason I say this is because there are women, like myself, who HAVE to get additional u/s's done to determine if their baby is ok.
So here I am hoping that my son is growing normally because of some weird proteins that came back from bloodwork (not DS as amnio showed normal results) and just really wanting to hold a healthy little boy in Feb...and the thought that some woman would "fake" something like this makes me sick!
Sorry for the rant/vent but I really wish I didn't have to worry about it. I wish that I didn't have to get additional u/s's done.
If you want another u/s, wait for the time frame for a 3/D or 4/D and pay for it.
Flame me away if you would like but please remember that I too have had losses and to be going through all this worry is terrible. Be happy that you DON'T have to have additional u/s's done.
Ok......rant over. Once again, this was not directed at any person/post in particular.
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Re: Opinion on scamming for an u/s.
I completely agree.
EDIT - I should add that I did have some cramping and spotting around 8w and begged my DR for one and he obliged.
Totally agree. I can't even imagine what it's like to actually look forward, unafraid, to an ultrasound!
To be honest, why would you want to have those waves going to your baby if you don't have to? I know that the jury is still out for consensus, but I've read that there is a concern that too many u/s are unsafe. Why f*ck with nature if you don't have to?
Not to mention, my guess is that those who are scamming for u/s are pushing up those insurance costs to all of us for their repeated, and unnecessary u/s.
Maybe I'm just bitter because I don't have the luxury of happily looking forward to an u/s. Who knows.
I have to agree with you about faking symptoms or otherwise scamming the OB for an u/s. I think honesty is the best policy. If you just tell the OB that you're really nervous and ask for an extra u/s, the chances are pretty good that he/she will do what it takes to make you feel at ease. For example, my OB doesn't do betas, but was willing to do it when I asked and explained how it would help me feel more confident in my pg.
I only get 2 u/s with this pg - the first one was at 8 weeks to make sure that everything was in the right places and growing and one at 20 weeks for the basic anatomy scan. I'm sure if I asked, I could get more u/s, but I know that everything is healthy and growing like it should. On top of that, I don't think I should be part of the problem of rising health care costs by having my insurance company pay for unneccessary u/s and I most certainly will not be paying out of pocket for them!!
I feel that if the person feels they are "scamming" then that is wrong. If they are so paralyzed with fear and stress that they need to see their doctor, then that is another story.
There are different kinds of people out there. Some (like me) don't ask for help or reassurance when they probably should and suffer needlessly, and other people just try to get as much as they can get regardless of anything else.
I am sorry for the proteins in your bloodwork, and it's understandable why you are sensitive to other's fears who have not yet had a problem with their current pregnancy. But keep in mind that we are all at different points, have had different experiences, different numbers of losses, etc. You really shouldn't compare your situation to anyone else's, everyone else is still entitiled to their fears. I don't think anybody on this board condones "scamming" for ultrasounds. We are better and stronger than that.
My thoughts exactly ladies........I sometimes wonder what it would be like to go to an u/s without having my stomach feeling like it is about to explode with nerves.
Also, I am not saying that those who ask are terrible people, just I can't wrap my head around someone faking symptoms.
I didn't even think about how it increases insurance rates, I was thinking that it's disgusting to me and disrespectful to other pregnant women to "fake" symptoms to get extra u/s.
So imagine, there you are, you've had a legit problem, anxiously awaiting your turn to see if your baby is ok, and some other woman is sitting there pretending to have a problem so that she can recreationally see her healthy baby. So unethical, and, actually, that would be insurance fraud.
Hey Rosebud,
Well there was only a small post today about a friend of someone's who was going to fake symptoms so that she could get another u/s to determine gender BUT.......I have seen this about 10 times in the past few weeks on other boards.
Like I said....I am not comparing my situation to anyone's because I know there could be far worse things that could be happening but I could never bring myself to scam my ob for another u/s. Being scared is 1 thing, but most people, I would hope, would do the right thing and be honest with their OB, they may just give you another u/s.
on another note....I can't believe you are already 19 weeks!
I have to say I agree too. I cant really speak across the board, bc my OB office is generous with ultrasounds/betas/etc. I dont know if they told me I was only going to get one ultrasound and that was it I if it would be so easy to handle. But I dont think I could fake symptoms. I would recommend a dopplar to ease your mind but remember it's not 100%.
I did have a heartbeat check once that I wasnt THAT worried about and I TOLD the nurse I wasnt that worried (I couldnt find it on dopplar) and I had called about something else but they had me run in. That's probably different than an ultrasound though and it was way fast and again, not at my insistance.
DH and I said that if the tech couldnt find the baby's gender yesterday, we would do a 4d ultrasound. We would be kinda disappointed though bc I know those can be pricey.
Thanks BZ - it's hard to believe I'm 19 weeks too. I'm starting to relate to posts that say "I can no longer see my private parts." LOL
I completely understand your post and agree with you, for sure. Other boards are so different than our board. I can't imagine any of us scamming like that! I really hope the proteins turn out to be nothing for you!
While I don't think that scamming nor lying to your OB is ever acceptable, I do think OK to take responsibility for our own health care, however it is that we may see it being necessary.
Doctor's are here to not only take care of our physical well being but mental as well. If we feel strongly that we should have another u/s for whatever reason, it's our job to ask for it and make our case. It's up to the health provider to give us the reasons why or why not.
RE: Costs. If I'm sitting in a room with an u/s machine that's already turned on and I've been considering asking for another one, the time it takes to do the u/s is less than 5 mins (from my experiences) and no other cost than his/her time for that 5 mins. More than likely, I've been sitting in the waiting room longer waiting to get into that appointment for whatever reason.