Community› The Bump Message Boards› Infertility
Infertility
New Discussion

Having a tough IF day

Imanurse03Imanurse03 member
in Infertility

I seem to be in a funk today that I can't shake.  My younger sister, my BIL and niece are coming from FL to my family's place in MD.  My sister and I grew up in MD. DH and I live only an hour away in PA, so we'll see them tomorrow.  My niece is 5 months old.  We visited them in FL over 4th of July weekend. This is my niece's first trip to MD and to see our extended family.  I must admit I'm a little jealous.  Everyone is making such a big fuss about the visit, which I completely understand.  But I can't keep shaking these feelings of jealousy. I should have had the first baby. I'm the older sister and my DH and I have been married a lot longer than my sister and her hubby have.  In fact, we have been doing IF treatments longer than my sister and her hubby have been married.  And my sister got pg so easily and they weren't even married that long. 

I am not looking forward to my extended family oohing and ahhing over my niece tomorrow.  Most of them know about our IF struggles so they shouldn't be asking when we're going to have kids.  

I think I should also give up FB!  I get tired of seeing all the baby pics.  I swear sometimes it seems as though people don't have a life outside of their kids, according to FB.  I hope to never be that way if and when we have kids.  

Sorry for my long vent.  :(

Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
Report Reply to Post

Re: Having a tough IF day

  • dysbabydysbaby
    If it makes you feel any better, you are not wrong for feeling some jealousy. I often feel like you. Just take a deep breath and enjoy the wine Wink. I hear you on the FB piece. I broke it off three months ago and can say it's helped with my healing. Just a thought. I wish you the strength to get through the weekend and find time to enjoy yourself! ((hugs))
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • JM1977JM1977 member
    It makes perfect sense that you are feeling the way you are.  I hope things go OK.  (((HUGS)))
    TTC with DOR, low morphology, fertilization issues
    IVF#1 Oct 2009 (CCRM) - BFN
    IVF#2 March 2010 - Poor response/cancelled
    DE IVF#1 Aug 2010 - BFN
    DE IVF#2 Dec 2010 - Transferred 1, 2 frozen - BFP!
    TTC#2 FET Jan 2013 - Transferred 1 - BFP!

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • etoyamaetoyama member
    Aw, I don't blame you one bit for feeling the way you are. I hope tomorrow goes more smoothly than you anticipate.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • inlove731inlove731
    Totally understand your feelings, so don't feel bad about them!  I hope that everything goes smoothly and maybe you and your hubby can get away from the ooo-ing and aa-ing a little bit...
    Stopped BCPs December 2008 TTC since June 2009 6 unsuccessful Clomid cycles Dx Annovulatory due to PCOS January 2010 DH-perfect 4 unsuccessful IUIs Began Lupron July 7 for first IVF IVF cancelled; overstimulation and coasting lead to huge drop in E2 New testing with an Endocrinologist...perhaps a new diagnosis... So, not PCOS but Hashimoto's Thyroiditis November 2010 After a looong break, started seeing a new RE. Gearing up for IVF 1.2. Beta 1=197!! BabyFruit Ticker image
    Report Reply
  • dolphinsmakemesmiledolphinsmakemesmile
    I'm sorry.  We've all been there hon.  It does suck and it's not easy.  At least they won't ask you about when you're having kids, which I knew took a big weight off me.  I do think for all your sanity you should take a FB break.  It's the main reason I don't have FB.  ((HUGS)).
    *SAIF* always welcome
    TTC since October 2007
    Dx with Unexplained IF
    IUI #1-3 w/clomid: Jan-March 2010...BFN
    IUI #4 w/injectables: April 2010...BFP
    1st u/s: 5/17-one little perfect hb@7w2d, 2nd u/s: 6/5-no hb@10w;
    missed miscarriage: 6/10 d&c
    IUI #5-7 w/injectables: Sept 2010-Jan 2011...BFFN
    IVF #1: Feb/March 2011...pretty please let this work!!!!

    Expecting twin boys!!!!! Pregnancy Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Dragonfly1226Dragonfly1226 member

    (((((hugehugs)))))

    image
    Unexplained Infertility

    After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    TTC #2
    After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) brought us twin girls!

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker


    Surprise! Baby #4 is due in March!
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"