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Threw a fit and cried

midnight*sunmidnight*sun member
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I have really been looking forward to starting our nursery. I've purchased a bunch of things, but as of right now the room we're going to be using for the nursery is filled with guest bedroom furniture. All of which I want to put in our other guest bedroom. Obviously I can't move the stuff on my own so I was really hoping to get it done this coming weekend. Well, DH is working out of town and won't be back until October 8!! I was upset that I'd have to wait that long, but then DH says "I think we should wait to decorate the nursery until the baby is born." WTF? What are we going to do once it's born, run home, paint and decorate the room then run back to the hospital to pick DD up? Well, come to find out MIL and FIL are coming up October 10 and requested from DH that they get to sleep in "their" room one last time. WTF?!!!!!!!! When i got off the phone with DH I cried a bit and did a 4 year old battle cry. Embarrassed
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  • elizjane26elizjane26
    Um, hell no. Why would they even request that? I would have pitched a fit too.
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  • izzourclueizzourclue member
    Yeah, that wouldn't be cool with me.  Next time you talk to DH, just calmly say, "when you get home we ARE cleaning the furniture out of the nursery and getting it set up.  Your parents can sleep in the guest room."  And just leave it at that.  If he continues to protest, hire some movers for a day to clean it out for you. 
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  • broccolitreebroccolitree

    So he's going out of town, won't see you for roughly a month, and his parents are coming to visit 2 days after that?  Say what?

    I think it's time for a come to jesus talk with him about letting his parents' requests take precedence over both your relationship and his wife's wishes. Of course they'd think they can do whatever they want... you & your H let them do it every other time in the past; why would this time be any different? This situation is unacceptable in SO many ways, and I think you know that.

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  • PrincessSarah1979PrincessSarah1979

    imageizzourclue:
    Yeah, that wouldn't be cool with me.  Next time you talk to DH, just calmly say, "when you get home we ARE cleaning the furniture out of the nursery and getting it set up.  Your parents can sleep in the guest room."  And just leave it at that.  If he continues to protest, hire some movers for a day to clean it out for you. 

    I would do this for sure...

     

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  • honey740honey740 member
    What's wrong with the other guest room? I would be pissed too...
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    imageizzourclue:
    Yeah, that wouldn't be cool with me.  Next time you talk to DH, just calmly say, "when you get home we ARE cleaning the furniture out of the nursery and getting it set up.  Your parents can sleep in the guest room."  And just leave it at that.  If he continues to protest, hire some movers for a day to clean it out for you. 

    Yes

    That's absurd.  Your husband needs to man up and tell his parents that it's NOT THEIR ROOM.  It's your baby's room and you're perfectly justified in wanting to get it set up.

    There are some cases where people honestly aren't comfortable/don't believe in doing a baby's room before birth - but in your husband's case, we're not talking about a religious or personal belief.  He's just being too much of a pansy to stand up to his parents.

    Agree with PP that if he won't work with you, you should just get someone else to help you.  If he's anything like my husband, that will get his butt in gear.

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  • honey740honey740 member
    imagebroccolitree:

    So he's going out of town, won't see you for roughly a month, and his parents are coming to visit 2 days after that?  Say what?

    I think it's time for a come to jesus talk with him about letting his parents' requests take precedence over both your relationship and his wife's wishes. Of course they'd think they can do whatever they want... you & your H let them do it every other time in the past; why would this time be any different? This situation is unacceptable in SO many ways, and I think you know that.

    This too....can't they come another weekend?? :-) 

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  • june21jbrjune21jbr
    Oh I would have totally pitch a fit as well.  When it comes to this baby stuff.......I want what I want NOW!
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  • midnight*sunmidnight*sun member

    MIL found out my girlfriends are throwing my baby shower on the 16th and she wants to go to it which is why they are coming up when they are. Honestly, them being up here doesn't bother me at all. It's the fact I can't do the stinkin' nursery. ::pout, pout:: I'm used to DH being gone for long periods of time and that week will be busy for me anyway so I don't mind them being here even though he'll just be getting home. He'll be home for the ENTIRE winter.

    The other guest bedroom is downstairs on the opposite end of the house.

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  • nate2011nate2011

    imageizzourclue:
    Yeah, that wouldn't be cool with me.  Next time you talk to DH, just calmly say, "when you get home we ARE cleaning the furniture out of the nursery and getting it set up.  Your parents can sleep in the guest room."  And just leave it at that.  If he continues to protest, hire some movers for a day to clean it out for you. 

    this.  I would already hire someone & TELL your hubby it is taken care of.  His parents can sleep in their NEW room! ;)

     

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    imagemidnight*sun:

    MIL found out my girlfriends are throwing my baby shower on the 16th and she wants to go to it which is why they are coming up when they are. Honestly, them being up here doesn't bother me at all. It's the fact I can't do the stinkin' nursery. ::pout, pout:: I'm used to DH being gone for long periods of time and that week will be busy for me anyway so I don't mind them being here even though he'll just be getting home. He'll be home for the ENTIRE winter.

    The other guest bedroom is downstairs on the opposite end of the house.

    With no bed.

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    imagemidnight*sun:
    imagemidnight*sun:

    MIL found out my girlfriends are throwing my baby shower on the 16th and she wants to go to it which is why they are coming up when they are. Honestly, them being up here doesn't bother me at all. It's the fact I can't do the stinkin' nursery. ::pout, pout:: I'm used to DH being gone for long periods of time and that week will be busy for me anyway so I don't mind them being here even though he'll just be getting home. He'll be home for the ENTIRE winter.

    The other guest bedroom is downstairs on the opposite end of the house.

    With no bed.

    well, seems like the problem is your hormones not your DH or the in laws haha it just seemed from your original post that your DH was putting it off because his parents wanted to sleep in THEIR room one last time which sounds ridicoulus hence why everyone was saying for you to hire movers. ;)

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  • kbunskbuns
    Call those girlfriends that are throwing you a shower and have a moving furniture party. Supply the wine and beer and get moving. Who ever said your DH had to be around to do this stuff to the nursery.. It could be like a huge surprise to him lol
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  • Doodle2011Doodle2011
    call me crazy but I would prefer, as a guest, to be as out of the way as possible, and bonus points for another floor on the opposite side of the house.  My vote is for moving the furniture and getting the "new" guest room set up.  Compromise with DH a little and agree to waiting to start the nursery until after the in-laws visit is over, but there is no reason to not get the baby's room cleared out and the new guest room situated.  Tell him the baby could come early, and waiting til it arrives is not going to ease your mind.  Set a goal, such as November being "nursery paint/prep/decorate" month with Thanksgiving being the big reveal.
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  • maltwin1maltwin1 member
    My reply would be "sure, they can sleep there, but all the furniture will be moved out and in the other room...so I guess they'll be sleeping on the floor."
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  • Mrs.PsyDMrs.PsyD

    Maybe they'll want to help you do the nursery while they are here? Spin it like "Oooh I'm so glad you are coming up. We are going to convert the room near that time, would you want to help make the nursery special?"

    If not, then they can take the other guest room and get over themselves. 

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    imagePrincessSarah1979:

    imageizzourclue:
    Yeah, that wouldn't be cool with me.  Next time you talk to DH, just calmly say, "when you get home we ARE cleaning the furniture out of the nursery and getting it set up.  Your parents can sleep in the guest room."  And just leave it at that.  If he continues to protest, hire some movers for a day to clean it out for you. 

    I would do this for sure...

     

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    This for me, too!  It's YOUR house and YOUR room, seriously "their room"??? Oh buddy, that would be one hell of a blow up for me... 

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  • Fergie+1Fergie+1

    imagemaltwin1:
    My reply would be "sure, they can sleep there, but all the furniture will be moved out and in the other room...so I guess they'll be sleeping on the floor."

    This. Get your g/f's to come over and move stuff into the other room. IMO, if the bed is in the other spare room, they can't b!tch, right?

    And if your DH is still being a pansy about his parents after that (ex; they get uspest because the spare room is far away), you NEED to have a talk with him.

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    imageFergie+1:

    imagemaltwin1:
    My reply would be "sure, they can sleep there, but all the furniture will be moved out and in the other room...so I guess they'll be sleeping on the floor."

    This. Get your g/f's to come over and move stuff into the other room. IMO, if the bed is in the other spare room, they can't b!tch, right?

    And if your DH is still being a pansy about his parents after that (ex; they get uspest because the spare room is far away), you NEED to have a talk with him.

    This too. 

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  • CAB'smommyCAB'smommy

    imageelizjane26:
    Um, hell no. Why would they even request that? I would have pitched a fit too.

    So funny, I just about typed this same thing.  I'm sorry, but it's not THEIR room anyway.  It's the guest room.  And sound like you have another room in mind for that anyway, so too bad.  It's more important to start on the nursery.  I'm not a drama momma, but I would have pitched a fit and cried too. 

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  • discovolantediscovolante member
    imageMrs.PsyD:

    Maybe they'll want to help you do the nursery while they are here? Spin it like "Oooh I'm so glad you are coming up. We are going to convert the room near that time, would you want to help make the nursery special?"

    If not, then they can take the other guest room and get over themselves. 

    This! Make them move the furniture into the new room before they leave since the room is so special to them for whatever reason.

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  • CAB'smommyCAB'smommy
    imagemidnight*sun:

    MIL found out my girlfriends are throwing my baby shower on the 16th and she wants to go to it which is why they are coming up when they are. Honestly, them being up here doesn't bother me at all. It's the fact I can't do the stinkin' nursery. ::pout, pout:: I'm used to DH being gone for long periods of time and that week will be busy for me anyway so I don't mind them being here even though he'll just be getting home. He'll be home for the ENTIRE winter.

    The other guest bedroom is downstairs on the opposite end of the house.

    I would think this would be a good thing.  So you all spend time together, but at the end of the day, you also each get private time.   

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