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Would you feel guilty about this?

mrsfireflymrsfirefly
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I have a LO who hardly naps -- maybe for 20 minutes here or there.  Today, for example, nothing yet and we've been up since 7.  I try and try, but some days nothing works.  Would you feel guilty about putting her in her crib with toys/bouncy seat/swing wide awake but not fussing so you can get some things done around the house?  She doesn't like BW in the house.  Of course, I don't put her in these baby receptacles when she's crying, but I'd like to do it when she's not for maybe up to an hour or 90 minutes a day total so I can get things done (10-20 minutes here or there is how it would work out). I guess I feel guilty because I feel like I should be constantly interacting when she's awake, but my house is a disaster and some days I still hardly find time to get dressed and don't even shower.  What do you think?
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Re: Would you feel guilty about this?

  • AliciaCMAliciaCM member
    I wouldn't. As long as she's happy I don't see a problem with it. Remember one of the AP principles is balance.
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  • two-pink-shoestwo-pink-shoes

    No.  Even when it's apparent my DS isn't going to nap I'll put him down in his crib, swing, or bouncer to let him 'relax'.  He gets upset when he has too much interaction...just like adults, babies need to chill.

    ETA: I do this after he's had a good playtime and obviously don't leave him there if he's unhappy.

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  • WyoGalWyoGal
    Nope.  If you're lucky enough to have a LO who will happily let you put them down, go for it and enjoy.
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  • nekoraynenekorayne member
    No, a little bit of alone time is good IMO. I wear LO while I do a majority of things, but I always put him down while I use the stove and also try for a few other times in the day. As long as he is happy I think he enjoys this time to wind down. I t is also good for me. I find after a short brake I come back to LO as a much better and more fun mommy. Ias long as you are not leaving LO in the "container" for superlong periods of time I say that it can be good for you both and helps balance.
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  • mrsfireflymrsfirefly

    imageAliciaCM:
    I wouldn't. As long as she's happy I don't see a problem with it. Remember one of the AP principles is balance.

    Good point.  Thank you.  In general, I am terrible at balance and needed this reminder.

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  • QuazelQuazel member

    imageAliciaCM:
    I wouldn't. As long as she's happy I don't see a problem with it. Remember one of the AP principles is balance.

    Yes

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  • AliciaCMAliciaCM member
    imagemrsfirefly:

    imageAliciaCM:
    I wouldn't. As long as she's happy I don't see a problem with it. Remember one of the AP principles is balance.

    Good point.  Thank you.  In general, I am terrible at balance and needed this reminder.

    As am I.
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  • flutiefrostieflutiefrostie member
    Quiet time is good for everyone!
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  • asiabutterflyasiabutterfly
    Sometimes DD just wants a little alone time to chill out. She likes the exersaucer. I put it in the kitchen with me while I cook and she likes to just watch and hang out. She doesn't like babywearing either around the house now. She wants to explore.
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  • Harper'smomHarper'smom

    Put the baby down :-). You both will be fine.

    Start letting go of the guilt too. I have wasted too much energy on guilt over the past 20 months and am really working on letting it go. Not so sucessfully but I should have started months ago!

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  • BabyButler2010BabyButler2010 member

    Sometimes my little guy likes to hang out in his crib...I honestly never used to put him in it, but one day he was fussying and fussying and nothing we tried was working...wearing him, playing on the floor with him...he didn't want to nurse...the list continues...so I tried laying him in his crib with the mobile going just to see that might make him happy and wouldn't you know, the fussing stopped and he was all smiles...talked to that mobile like they were old friends...it was super cute and he taught me that he needed a little independence :)  I LOVE to have him attached to me 24/7, but I have learned to respect that he wants to have a little time in his crib to play and unwind...he even likes to fall asleep in it once in awhile by himself :) 

    Don't feel guilty- if she is happy then you should be happy to and enjoy the time to get things done around your house or for yourself! 

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  • daisyterpdaisyterp member

    Go for it- another angle - if you set your DD up right she can watch you while you do stuff. 

    I use the bouncy seat (which I have never put batteries in) for this while I take a shower, load and unload the dishwasher, etc.  Basically I do my best to do some chores and entertain DS at the same time.  If people saw me they would think I was insane as sometimes I bounce/dance around to make him laugh, etc. 

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  • Jelliebean1982Jelliebean1982
    No. Not at all. I used to lock my dogs outside of the sliding glass doors and prop up my DD in the boppy facing the glass. My dogs would bark and jump up against the glass while my DD would laugh at them. That entertainment provided just enough time for me to switch out my laundry.
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