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sleepingbeauty825
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How would your husband react...
sleepingbeauty825
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If he found out you were cheating on him? And how would you react if you found out he was cheating on you?
No party pooping, either people. I'd like to think NONE of us would cheat on our SO's and visa versa.
Me: I honestly don't know. I think he would probably be really quiet about it, leave for a while (hours, days, weeks... I don't know) and then eventually come back and want to talk about it. If I found out he was cheating on me, I would flip my shiz. I would probably cry, scream, throw things... Cry and cry and cry some more. Not want to believe it, beg him to tell me he was just kidding- the whole nine. I'd want to work it out though.
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Re: How would your husband react...
I would be the exact same way. My DH would probably cry and take off.
If I found out he was cheating I would probably cry to the point of throwing up and cry for a long time (this is what happened w/ a previous bf) but I would try my darndest to keep my family together and find out how to work through it with counseling and God (yes SB, I know
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If he found out I was cheating think he would go away to a mountain and think, scream work through it and then he'd come back and we would talk/go from there
He'd be very, very hurt. His dad cheated on his mom and left her for the other woman when he was a kid. The memories are still vivid and he's in his thirties now. I'm sure there would be tears involved on both ends, but I also think we'd probably go to counseling and try to work it out. We've always agreed that our first step to any problems in our marriage is counseling. We're in it for the long haul.
If I found out he was cheating on me, honestly, I would probably be the woman who does almost anything to keep her man. I'm sure that sounds lame to a lot of people, but I just can't imagine living my life without him. Now if it happened more than once....I'd probably have to seriously think about leaving.
I'd flip my sh!t...cry a lot...probably like you, SB, throw things. Hire a hit man (totally kidding...I think?)
I think DH would be all rational about it and sit down and want to work through it. I'm totally NOT one to cheat though. If I was unhappy and wanted out, I would get out before I would ever cheat.
The minute I found out he was cheating, I would pack mine and Jack's things, go to Meep's, give him 24 hours to get his sh!t out of my apartment, and fall apart later. I'm thinking years of intense therapy.
If he found out I was cheating...He'd likely be very, very quiet. He'd get his stuff together and go. I doubt he'd want to work it out. We're both intense, passionate people, and we both know that infidelity is the end. The next time I saw him would likely be at court, to figure out child support and visitation.
I'd try to work through it. If it became a repeat offense..goodbye! But, before he even slept in the same room as me, he'd get tested for STDs.
He'd leave. He has family/dad issues with cheating.
I'm not sure how Dh would react.
If it was me, I would act like I knew nothing (although there wouldn't be any sex or touching, so he'd think i was mad about something) while I talked to a lawyer and got my *** together.
Then he'd come home one day to find his crap on the lawn and the locks changed.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
If he cheated, I would cry myself miserable as I'm ordering him to get the hell out of my house. I don't believe in working things out. If he wanted to be with me he would have considered us before cheating. If he didn't even consider us before he cheated than he is scum and didn't deserve this family in the first place. I know my POV is harsh.
If I cheated on him, I would hope he did the same thing. I seriously have no idea what he would do. He probably would be stunned for a minute and then leave.
I would cry myself to the point of being very, very ill if he cheated on my.
DH on the other hand has told me if I cheat on him with a woman then he would ask to watch lol
but if it were with a guy I know he would be crushed and it would be the end.
I would react how you would, at least I think. I mean, I'm more mature now from my last breakup but I take them so hard. And I especially would with him.
I'm not sure what he would do. He would probably make me tell him who it was and then go try and kill him, seriously.
I would react how you would, at least I think. I mean, I'm more mature now from my last breakup but I take them so hard. And I especially would with him.
I'm not sure what he would do. He would probably make me tell him who it was and then go try and kill him, seriously.
But I believe in working it out, things would never be the same, but we coudl at least try.
I am answering very late...I think I would lose it then want to talk about it. I think DH would do the same.
I mostly wanted to reply to say: SB, you posted a few days ago that S screams when he's happy, sad, whatever. Well, that just started with us this weekend, the boy has no volume control, and I could not stop thinking about the fact that you just posted this! (My work computer doesn't allow for PMs or I would have done that instead, sorry). The screaming is driving me nuts!
I would be completely devastated. It probably wouldn't hit me at first, I'd be numb, then angry and then sad. A whole list of emotions. I would want to know about what extent the cheating was...was a one time thing or something that's been going on for a long time with one or multiple people etc. I would probably move out and stay with my parent's for awhile. I would be lost honestly...I wouldn't know where to go and what to do, my whole world would be flipped.
I know my husband would be furious with me. I don't even want to think about how he would react. His dad cheated on his mom when he was 12 and that broke up their family and started a downward spiral with him eventually ending up in jail at 18. So I know that if I cheated on him, it would bring back a lot of bad baggage on his part. I've only seen him angry a few times and that included him punching a hole in the wall, I wouldn't even want to go down that road with him. Luckily I'm not a cheater, have no desire to be with anyone but him and value our marriage and family more than anything in the world.
If either of us did, there would be hurt, screaming, crying, cussing, exploration/interrogation until every little detail of the indiscretion was known by both of us, STD testing, praying, counseling, working it out and having to overcome trust issues for a looooooong time.
I may, or may not, be speaking from experience.
First, I would insist on counseling to see what is going on. From there, I would determine whether or not the relationship is salvagable. If I cheated, he would have that say. Then we would move on from there.
We have talked about something like this before and we both agreed that its not the fact that there is attraction to someone else that is the issue (since you don't have to act on it), it is the lying involved that we have a problem with.
DH would pack his things and leave. There would be no confrontation or hysterics he would simply leave and have his lawyer serve me with papers. He would be as cold as ice.
If I caught him cheating I think I would freak out and go on a rampage. Then I would kick him out but in the end depending on the circumstances I would want to try to work it out.