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January 2011 Moms
MrsYam
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Middle name vent
MrsYam
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DH and I have yet to reach a decision with a name yet, which is fine. But, he said since I got to pick the middle name last time, he wants to.
He wants the name to be after his MOTHER. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.
Her name is Mary Ann. Firstly, I don't really like the name Mary or Ann. Plus, I don't really like MIL to begin with.
I suggested we go with his grandmothers name which is Elizabeth. It fits well with most of the names we're tossing around, and he can keep the name within his family.
Maybe I'm just hormonal, I dunno.
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Re: Middle name vent
Absolutely nothing to do with your post, but your daughter is so freakin adorable, but then I scroll down and see someone sh#t on her shirt
( can we get another picture of her without that nasty black and yellow crap 
)
I know where your coming from. My MIL keeps joking about how fil hopes we'll name the baby Robert. ( his name and dh's mn) I told her there is no way I was doing that. He's rude, yells at kids all the time (not mine) and thinks he knows everything about everything. Most of the time I can't stand him.
Thankfully DH doesn't want to name the baby Robert either. I would have no problem naming a girl after his grandma, but there will be no girls for us!
Hey now. :P Don't tell me you're a Brownies fan?
::hang my head:: yes i am a brownie .. I know we suck ( hey we actually won last night) but I just can't turn my back on them lol
Yeah, that wouldn't fly in our house. The rule here is that if the baby gets DH's last name, it gets a middle name honoring MY family. Then the first name is something we both love.
Even my in-laws admitted that seems more than fair.
That's a great idea. I may have to bring this up.
I like this.
It's ok... *pats your back* We all have our faults.
Although, I do think Brady Quinn is a hottie... at least he's not a sexual assult-er.
DH has two aunts who passed away in the past year named Patricia, and a grandmother by the same name who is in the last few years of her life. I hate the name, but the sentiment is growing on me. One of his aunts was like a mother to him, and there is no way that I can deny him of honoring her at least. Ugh... I just hope he sticks to Patricia as a middle name. There is NO way I will name my baby Patty Mc______!
Oh, and if we have a boy we'll use Padrig as a middle name, because we like the way it's spelled.
This is EXACTLY the same problem I'm facing... except DH wants the middle name to be Ashley after his little sister. Ashley isn't a horrible name but it doesn't go well with the first names we like. But my real problem is... I don't like SIL hardly at all. She's 20 years old, still sucks her thumb, isn't going to school and doesn't have a job. She honestly sits at home all day and watches videos on YouTube. DH thinks that by giving our little girl his sister's name, it might make his sister do something with her life. That SO doesn't fly with me. If we are going to name our LO after someone specifically I'd like it to be for someone who has done something worth honoring.
...but maybe I'm a little too hormonal on this issue too. I don't even talk names with DH (though I really want to have the issue settled) right now because his sister was just barely out visiting us for two extremely long weeks... I want some time between her visit before we talk names again so perhaps DH will be more willing to see my point.
WOWSA!
Our daughter's middle name is a spin off of my mum's name which is Kim. So, my hubby thinks its "only fair" to name this baby after his mother. Blech. It doesn't matter, it won't fly with me, so he's just gonna have to get over it.
I agree about the middle name being something from your side. That is what we are doing with our boy name. Good luck with that though!
Oh and GO BROWNS!!
Our rule is that no child is given a name - first or middle that either one of us dislikes. There are so many names out there and so many ways to honor people, that it doesn't seem at all fair to have a child be given a name that one parent dislikes.
We are having a boy, and the first name is something I like, but if I was having the child on my own, would not have named him that. That, to me, is a suitable compromise - it's not my favorite boy name ever, but I do like it. His father is deceased, and we do want to honor him in some way, but neither of us likes FILs first or middle name. No problem, my husband was named Eric Alexander b/c his father had a love of historical explorers (Eric the Red, Alexander the Great). So our boy will be Leif -- Eric the Red's son. Is it a "family" name - no. But we both feel it honors his father by carrying on a tradition he started.
We had/have a full girl name picked out too - Josephine - for my paternal grandfather whom I am named for (my first name is the town he was born in). We wanted to honor my mother's side, but neither of us loved her mother's first name. So instead, we went with my maternal grandmother's middle name (Helena), which we both love.
So my point in this long winded explanation is that there are a lot of ways you can honor either side of your family w/out giving a name you strongly dislike. I would recommend approaching your husband and explaining that you just really dislike MILs name, but with some creative thinking, you are sure there is still a way to honor his family (like your suggestion of using his grandmother's name ... probably more).