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December 2010 Moms
"I judge post" (stolen from TTGP via 3rd Tri)
I need some entertainment today, since I'm waiting on my boss to get back to me so I can finish my work (VERY annoying!).
I'll go first: I judge people who scream at their kids in public. I also judge when they let their kids run flippin' wild in public.
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Re: "I judge post" (stolen from TTGP via 3rd Tri)
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Oh definitely! And I can add to that: I judge people who will not hesitate to ask you for help, but say no when you ask them to return the favor...
I judge people who smoke. period.
(hits too close to home with mom passing away from lung cancer)
Oh Yes. Totally agree.
Cooper+Evie=Soulmates
I judge people who I am checking in for surgery who are here due to "obesity" (as stated in their chart) and then their SO is sitting next to them with a soda or bag of McDonalds at 5am!! I mean, come on, don't you see what it leads to??
I judge people who smoke in general (especially around kids).
I know it's an addiction (one that I haven't had to face), but really, don't willingly give yourself cancer. I want to ask people, "Are you okay with dying from cancer? With leaving your family?" I feel strongly about this, if you can't tell....
I also judge people who put on so much makeup that they look like a different person when they take it off.
I'm overweight and I still judge people with obese children.
I judge people who are in their 40's and try to act like they are 20 something agian and then post about their "crazy night" on FB. Come on people...it's just sad that you feel the need to post your mid-life crisis for us all to see!
I also judge people who try to recreate themselves through their children (ie. Same crazy night mom from above judge, tries to make her 13 y/o daughter be exactly like her - won't let her eat or dress the way she wants, and she now looks like a mini-mom and it's not a good thing!!)
I judge people who constantly whine and cry about not having any money, yet have several unnecessary luxuries that they pay for such as: cell phones with internet, cable with all the channels, Wii, tanning, manicures, etc.
I judge women who determine their self worth based on whether or not they have a man. And when they don't, constantly complain about how they "need a man." I especially judge women like this who also fall into the category above and say things like "I need a sugar daddy!"
In case you couldn't sense it, I am referencing someone specific in my life. Ugh.
I judge people who don't take care of their pets. Actually I really judge people who have a pet that they got because they wanted a baby and then once they have a baby they get rid of the pet. That poor animal is not your freaking substitute baby in the first place and in the 2nd once you own a pet then you are responsible for taking care of it for the rest of its life (if you have to let it go then find a good home for it. Don't abandon it or take it to the Humane Society). Grrrr! Yes-I've known several people who have done this.
Also, I judge people who don't educate themselves about pregnancy and birth. Who makes potentially life changing/life ending decisions about their health without doing some research.
Me too. I also judge obese adults though and anyone who blames genetics or a "slow metabolism" for being overweight. If you're a little chubby and you like to eat, fine, but I do judge people who let themselves go to the point of causing health problems.
I judge all you girls who judge
I can't think of anything that hasn't been mentioned.
Exactly!
Hmm I think you and I know similar people - in my case it's a man though with these issues. And I agree I judge them as well!
I judge people who swear at their children, especially when they're little.
It's one thing to tell a 15 year old to quit being a smart @ss, but when I see someone tell their 2 year old to "shut your d@mn mouth, I'm sick of hearing you yell" it makes you look cheap, trashy and uneducated.
I judge:
People who smoke
People who live beyond their means
People who don't recycle, and/or don't seem to care much or put any thought into how much they waste.
You must know my neighbors! They're 7 y/o now curses back at them. It's just a lovely time in the summer listening to them yell back and forth at each other. I worry that my LO will hear this...I'm already thinking of ways to make sure their yelling/cursing doesn't affect my LO's vocabulary.
I judge...
1. People who never discipline their children and think they're perfect little angels (case in point-my mom is a teacher, and she had a student last year who was the meanest, pushiest, entitled little brat in the world, and her parents would always refer to her as "their little darling." Oh, and this girl's name was Cherish).
2. People who live beyond their means and whine about how they're always broke.
3. Parents who are too lazy to cook healthy meals for their children and teach them good eating habits, and let their children develop weight problems at a young age.
I'm sure there are many other things I judge, but these were the top 3!
:-( That's aweful! One of my SIL's swear at their 3 girls constantly (um, to give you an idea... her name is Ashley, my Dad literally calls her Trashley- to her face!) it drives me nuts... .
I judge people who come and get their haircut and don't wash their hair before hand or refuse to let me wash it because they dont want to pay an extra few dollars...its gross and you smell.
and I hate it when people don't punish their kids in public..you don't have to go crazy but dont let them get away with it
and when you cuss at your kids...you sounds like trash, way to set a good example.
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I judge people who judge people without having walked in their shoes. Or even tried to imagine walking in their shoes. And smokers. And people who swear in public, esp at kids. It's just not necessary.
(And I will add that my son has been to McDonalds maybe 10 times in his life and he recognises the golden arches. Recognising any part of commercialism (he could recognise Mickey Mouse - that's just as judgeable) just means we live in a capatalist world. It has no bearing on education. To imply that a toddler who recognises these symbols and doesn't know his ABC/1-10/etc is in some way being maltreated by his parents is just strange. Apples and oranges, IMO. For what it's worth, DS knows his numbers and colours but not his ABCs. Should I move him into a commune away from all aspects of modern life?)
Meh, I still judge and I'm allowed. Mickey Mouse and McDonalds are not comparable IMO. Yes, we may live in a capatalist world, but I don't plan on taking my kids to McDonalds or letting them sit infront of the TV to allow them to become familiar with such things. That may change once I have kids but it's how I see it today.
Me too. My mom died of emphysema, so I think I know exactly how you feel about the whole thing. I'm to the point that when I meet a new person and find out he/she smokes, I lose all interest in pursuing a friendship with them. I don't want that in my life.
I also judge people who go tanning, especially in tanning beds. I know so many supposedly educated young women who actually think it's funny (you know, in that *oopsies, silly ditzy me! teehee* kind of way) to get sunburned. Again, it probably has something to do with my aunt having melanoma.
I judge people who aren't parents, yet think they know exactly how to raise an entirely intelligent, healthy, respectful, successful child. I mean, we all have preferences of things we want to and don't want to do as parents, but once you actually become a parent it plays out a lot differently than it did when you were planning it out in your head (and that's not always a bad thing).
I wasn't saying you're not allowed to judge, but just trying to point out that it takes nothing for a kid to recognise something. I think it's immaterial whether or not your child watches tv (we limit DS's, as with many things.). My point is, it's the bigger world that influences them. DS has never seen Dora the Explorer on tv, or Mickey Mouse for that matter, but he still knows who they are. Recognising them doesn't mean a child watches endless tv. Like recognising the golden arches means that a child eats at McDonalds constantly.
Anyway, enough of me being defensive!
Kids will learn to recognize these things without TV or constantly visiting these places. We did not have TV of any kind (DH is strongly against it) until this past year and DS is still only able to watch VHS tapes rarely. By being in the nursery class at church and being with one little boy who had an Elmo stuffed animal every week, he fell in love with Elmo. Anywhere we saw Elmo he would point him out even though he has never seen Sesame Street. He also knows Mickey Mouse and other various characters from books.
The only fast food place that he has been to is Taco Bell. Yet he can recognize McDonald's and Burger King because we drive by both daily.
Unless you fully are able to shield your child from the things that you do not want them to know about, society will introduce them.
ETA: DS knows his ABC in English, Spanish, and French. His colors, numbers, and shapes in English and Spanish as well as most of his other words.
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Definitely this! My sister doesn't live outside her means, but she makes 2x what I do and her husband makes good money, too--they travel a lot, have nice cars, etc. They can afford it, but when she complains that she's broke (which really just means they've already spent their "fun money" or whatever for the month), I just want to yell--"You know that last paycheck you got? It was twice as much as the last paycheck I got!!!" We both make more than our H's--but her H makes about what I do and my H makes significantly less--but we live within our means!!!
That being said, I am proud of her that she FINALLY traded in her Lexus SUV (that she really didn't need) for a nice family car--she's shocked that her car payment was cut in half! Seriously? I just rolled my eyes when I heard that!
I agree. But at the same time my son has eaten fast food (& other things that are judgeable) a hefty amount of times, and I do judge DH and myself every now and then for that. But in the end I have an amazingly healthy preschooler who is one of those rare kids these days that are actually the weight a 3 year old is supposed to be because overall he eats healthy and is INSANELY active. I also take my son to the dentist regularly, and at his last visit 2 weeks ago I was absolutely praised by the dentist for how amazingly healthy his teeth are. Also, if you set an order of chicken nuggets and a banana in front of my son, and asked him to choose the one he wanted to eat, I have not a single doubt in my mind that he'd choose the banana because he loves fruits, and because he's much more used to eating fruits than junk.
So I guess I can understand why someone might judge parents for letting their kids eat fast food and candy, or watching TV, or whatever, but in the end it all comes down to the balance of those things in the child's life with more positive things. I was one of those people who didn't want their child to touch a piece of candy until he was at least 2, or to never eat a fatty McDonald's meal, but when I started to realize that sometimes it's nearly impossible to avoid a piece of candy or a chicken nugget, I decided to just do whatever's in my power to not let that candy or deep fried nugget have a lasting effect on my son by brushing and flossing his teeth, and feeding him much more healthy foods than "bad" foods.
In the end anyone who wants can judge other parents for any one of many parenting choices, but at the same time someone will be judging them right back... and both parties will still think that they're way is the right way.