So last night, as some of you might remember, I was having issues with my husband taking over cooking and then the whole smoking thing came up. Needless to say I ended up calling one of my sisters because they always make me feel better and I needed them. So we started talking and she said her and my other sister argued last night about where to hold my shower. I told her I thought we were having it at your house? She said no because she wants a place that will hold about 100 people. OMG WHAT? I was like WTF? (I didn't tell her that I just laughed). 100 people? Do I even know 100 people in Texas? I know I have a lot of cousins and family but that seems like a lot and she wants to cater it! So I told my husband about it and he said well we can't let her pay for all that. He wants to pay for half of the food now. So this morning I mention it to her and she says no that it's my shower I shouldn't have to pay. But I honestly don't want her spending a lot of money. I suggested finger foods from Costco. Her answer didn't seem too approving. Is it bad that I am butting in and trying to cut costs so I can help her? UGH. I love her but seriously, sometimes she goes overboard with spending and she isn't well off by any means.

Re: My sister. Bless her heart. Kinda long.
I'm trying to stay completely out of the planning for my shower. My mom and sisters won't even talk about it other than telling me the date.
If she has the means to do this, and she may be getting help from others to host, I'd try to enjoy the pampering. You won't have many parties in your honor over your lifetime so try to enjoy it. : )
1) I think it is incredibly sweet that you are concerned because I know ALOT of people who are so selfish that they wouldn't think twice about how much $ someone was spending on them.
2) No I don't think it's bad that you are trying to help, it sounds like you and your sister are very close and you are just trying to "look out for her" and it sounds like your sister is just trying to give you the shower she thinks you deserve.
This might sound tacky but maybe what you could do is give her a gift card in her hostess gift for a place you know that would be "helpful" to her. KWIM? I don't know just my opinion...and it sounds like no matter what you are going to have a wonderful shower!