When you do IUI, how informed is DH about follies?

Nova726 · September 2010

Do you keep your DH well informed? DH is so clueless about the whole process (he actually asked the other day why I have to go for so many u/s), so I never told him much in the past.

This time I was told I actually 4 or 5 good size follies and I'm a little nervous about HOM but mostly okay. I can't decide whether to even mention to DH because he's a worrier, and it'll make it worse that it's not a convo we usually even have and I now felt the need to bring it up.

magnolia_femme · September 2010

I try to keep DH informed, but I think all the information totally overwhelms him. I give him an overview, and I tell him how many follies I have, but their exact measurements would mean nothing to him.

MH is a worrier too, but he works well with percentages. If I had 4+ follies I would probably tell him the percent chance of HOM.

I understand why you wouldn't want to tell him, but have you guys talked about your thoughts on HOM before?

rach2100 · September 2010

the hubs is pretty well informed...he's been to just about every CD3 u/s and again on CD12. So he knows how many we have to work with each time and how big they are, when they need to be growing, etc.

I'd say if he's clueless then it wouldn't make any sense to potentially worry him about HOM...just my 2 cents. GL with your decision!

gymnst1013 · September 2010

I tell him stuff but I don't think he really gets it. We've talked about HOM and are on the same page, but I don't know that he knows how that might have become an issue.

I've got everything crossed for you Nova!!

flycka · September 2010

He gets a full report as soon as I'm out of the door.
But I am the one that second guesses all decisions. There is no way I would do it on my own.My H said that he can't take the meds or get poked but can take the load of the decisions if I want him to or I'm overwhelmed.
If you need him you should talk to him. The possibility of HOM is an important issue and nervewracking in my experience.
Are you concerned about him wanting to cancel?or just being sick worried?

Nova726 · September 2010

I can't imagine he'd want to cancel but he's not good at thinking on the spot. I'm more worried about it clicking in his head like a week now and him saying that maybe we shouldn't have done it.

For example, I had mentioned a while ago about what we'd do if IUI didn't work, whether he'd be interested in IVF or adoption and he got all nervous and quiet. I had to tell him that I didn't need an answer from him yet that he had to consider these things so he's ready for the convo when it happens.

Love him to death but decision making and quick thinking is not his thing.

flycka · September 2010

I understand. It all comes down to odds and risk taking. While im not a risk taker the most compelling argument to move on with multiples follies has been not getting to IVF and the blocked tube issue.You know your husband better than anybody, but I don't think you should be doing this alone, you know? Somehow you need his input and support. It's just not easy.

mdluv21 · September 2010

I had 4 and possibly a 5th this last cycle and I def. let know DH know.

I needed him to be on the same page as me as to what we would do if by some crazy stroke of fate more than two were fertilized. It was probably a conversation with a mute point because the chances of one are pretty low.

roadstar · September 2010

**Papps**:
gymnst1013:

I tell him stuff but I don't think he really gets it. We've talked about HOM and are on the same page, but I don't know that he knows how that might have become an issue

This is us too. I used to explain things to MH,but I don't know if he wanted that much detail so now its more a high level explanation.

This. I explain things but I don't think DH totally understands the whole thing.

Nova726 · September 2010

thanks girls, I guess I'll have to try to talk to him about it tonight.

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