Where did everyone go?

AMT1107

It's like a ghost town here. I'm too private to join the Facebook group and was really hoping this board would hold on for a few months longer

rock1cherry

Yeah everyone seems to have moved on to Facebook. I don't have Facebook though I'm thinking about joining just for the group. I miss everyone! But I just haven't had time to get into making a new email and such.

raduprey

It's definitely quiet! I was never very active on here and therefore probably not viewed as active enough to be invited to the FB group but with this whole last month of pregnancy I've had more time to post for once and now I check the boards maybe three times a day. Birth announcements and commiserating are the only things keeping me sane here. So to kind of answer your question if it counts for anything I'm here? Ha   

hejo2016

Yes!  I've been trying to post here and there.  Not real thrilled about the FB thing and Im not sure I'd be "accepted into the group anyhow!  Hopefully it'll pick back up!

CoffeeBeanFiend91

I've been in and out. I only ever get on while I'm feeding baby

jensou

^^ I also only get on when feeding, which is basically all the time LOL. I'm sad it's so quiet here and definitely trying to keep it alive with posting a few times daily. 

Hopefully anyone one who has been hesitant to participate feels welcome to do so. 

tiger2010

  Not a regular by any means but it was always nice to check in and catch up on how everyone was with the pregnancy/ see if my journey was similar. Never posted much myself and feel even less like I should post now since it's been so quiet. Been super busy with LO anyhow but I still check in from time to time.

kmd78

Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way! I didn't have as much time to post this time around, especially with our 3 yr old giving us a run for our money the entire pregnancy. I didn't feel like I would have gotten into the FB group either... Hoping we can keep it alive- I know the MOTN posts kept me sane with my first & I miss them  

rock1cherry

I'm mostly on when I'm feeding as well. It's my only chance lately. She feeds a lot and has kept us very busy. 

jln27

Been meaning to post but way too busy. Baby showed up on the 19th and has been a precious handful ever since. I do miss reading posts from everyone else, even though I was never very active to begin with.

jenkar01

I've been wondering the same thing. Didn't even know there was a Facebook thing. I'm on here a few times a day to read and comment. Mainly on when he feeds which feels like all the time lately lol.

homebird

I've been in and out of the hospital with Miles, so I haven't checked in.

madmyluv

Hello,
i don't post but mostly a lurker. It has definelty been slow around here.

bartonolivia

Does anyone know the name of the Facebook group?  Not sure if I'd get accepted but it's worth a try! 

rock1cherry

@bartonolivia I think there's a Facebook thread. They said they were closing the group up to new people, but you could try messaging the admins in the thread and see!

jensou

@homebird oh no! Everything ok? 

CDE20

I rarely posted before but now having a newborn, I have a ton of questions so I am open to posting more. I don't do Facebook. 

guitarra1614

Thanks for posting something!!! In a weird way I was hurt when I wasn't accepted into the FB group and I guess I have been avoiding the board ever since. This board brought me so much comfort in my early days of pregnant and I loved reading everyone's experiences. It was sad to hear that I didn't post enough in the eyes of the admins.  Perhaps the pregnancy hormones intensified my feelings of rejection.

 However, having a newborn is TOUGH and INTENSE, so I'm glad there are people still on here! I'm all in!!

p.s.  What day is it? I have lost all since of time with a one and a half week old.  Is anyone still preggers??

homebird

jensou said:

@homebird oh no! Everything ok? 

He was in the NICU for a little while, and we came home for a week only for him to get a fever and land us back in the hospital. Everything's ok, it was just a virus, but they had to run a ton of tests (including a lumbar puncture) to check for bacterial infections, meningitis, etc. before they could send us home.

lilaros

@guitarra1614 Same. I posted on the FB thread about how much it sucked getting rejected. I have been avoiding this board because everytime I get on it bums me out that everyone has left. It kinda reminds me of high school and not being the one of the cool kids invited to the party. 

It sucks that this board used to be so active and so informative and now it's dead. I've mostly been a lurker because I was a FTM with nothing to add and didn't like how open this board was. Now I am at home with a newborn and have so many questions and there isn't really anyone here to discuss them with. I guess me avoiding this Board is part of the problem. If I am upset about not being able to join the FB group and avoid this board then I just add to the ghost town vibe. I am going to try and be more active and hopefully others will too and we can get this thing going again. 

AMT1107

@homebird glad everything is okay. 

I never tried to get on the Facebook page. I like the anonymous posting here. Sorry to those that were rejected.  

I don't post often and tend to lurk more while feeding and down time but would definitely post more if I know there are others posting. 

Having a newborn is tough, I'm sure we could all use the support. 

raduprey

@homebird Glad everything is OK with your LO now! Sorry it sounds like a lot to go through 

@guitarra1614 I am STILL pregnant. Ack! Today is my due date and I know a couple women said they'd be getting induced tomorrow. But I was just thinking earlier that there's just one or two of us left that have posted recently at least. Did people just ditch this board for October? I'm not really keen on the idea of starting over in a new board. I should have had a September baby 

molosmiles

I've lurked the whole time and found it comforting to know others were going through the same things. I just never jumped on to actually comment for one reason or another. Once it turned into a ghost town, I have commented a few times. I don't do Facebook anyways so I think we should all come out of hiding and help each other out. I'll be here reading and I'll comment too! 


To those still waiting, my first was born 41+6 and I honestly didn't mind but I think being close to the end of the month and having to switch birth months might make it harder to swallow.Your baby can't stay in there forever, you'll get to hold the little sweetheart soon.

jenkar01

@homebird glad your LO is okay and home now. Hopefully things stay that way.

@guitarra1614 I don't post a whole lot on here either, but I worked while pregnant and had a life. If not posting enough is their reason for rejection then that is their loss. Most of us aren't glued to our phones or have a need to comment on every little thing. I am also a FTM but luckily have a mother who is midwife and who had 4 kids and MIL who had 5 kids. So I have a lot of answers if you have any questions.

rock1cherry

@raduprey I can't speak for the others but I know a lot of people generally just stick with their board they've been on. Even people who have their baby early etc. I have seen rarely that people will post on our threads if they have theirs early, but it's less common and I think as you said, people don't want to start over. 

raduprey

@rock1cherry That's what I figured people do. Oh well!
Anyways I'll be checking here and such and I still have yet to meet my LO so I'll be sharing when I do. Glad it's a little less like a ghost town the last day or so ladies 

jensou

@Laraeq there are some of us that check on here regularly and answer questions.  And ask a bunch ourselves!  Thats what I love about the board.  when my hubby and I are at an impasse, he'll say "why don't you ask your friends on the momma board?"  

@homebird sorry you had to go through all that but glad you're in the comfort of your own home again. 

Victoria was born in August and TB app auto-changed my BMC to Aug. I had to change it back to Sep. but having never even glanced at the Aug board, I wasn't about to start in there. I think it's up to you and where you feel comfortable. 

With regards to the FB group, I can only imagine being an admin of the board is time consuming. Plus trying to eval whether someone is legit or a scam could be stressful. We had 350+ members of the board so I can see why they'd want to put a cap on it. That's one of the reasons why I wasn't interested in the FB board and you hear stories of posers who get in and exploit members. 

I know that doesn't take the sting of rejection away. But hopefully makes anyone feel a little better about not being included. 

And like PP said.. you can be active here now and breathe a little life back in to the board. But it's not so overwhelming that there are literally thousands of posts to catch up on 

rock1cherry

Yeah and if I recall there were a few ladies on here who should have technically been on the October board but liked our board better. I say stay! We need people. ;-)

mjpatzwa

Honestly, ladies, the Facebook group sounded like a mean girl's club. There are so many of us that are still here--I think a lot are just dealing with the newborns. Don't stress about it or let it make you feel like you did something wrong. It's a privacy concern and we are still here to chat!!

Dont let a bunch of girls who like to feel like the in club make you feel less than--we are not in high school

rock1cherry

I've been super busy all day. I just come on when I'm feeding my LO. Trying to stay active but it's hard some days! 

hejo2016

We should start a de-lurking thread, so everyone can "out" themselves!

Jayhawk1976

Hi. I am a lurker but got a lot out of reading other people's posts. I had my son on 8/30. We also have a three and a half year old. I struggled with postpartum preeclampsia after both deliveries but am finally feeling better. I will make an effort to post more when I have something to add. Glad that there are still some people around.

Kerrib1986

I'm here too! Second time mom and mostly a lurker both times since I found other people were answering the questions asked and I didn't feel the need to repeat answers over and over again. Didn't try to get into the facebook group and by the sounds of it I probably would have been rejected anyways. Had my 2nd daughter Sept 22 and will post my birth story shortly. 

kdtaylor6177

Lurker here too! I decided to avoid the Facebook group as I already spend waaayyyy too much time on it! Don't need another reason to be on it, so I'll spend my time here

jellybiehn

I definitely find that I am posting more now after my LO was born. I just didn't have that many pregnancy related questions, and when I did I could just ask the OB's and nurses/moms I worked with every day. Lurking would take care of any remaining questions. Being home alone now with a little person relying on me has been a game changer though, lots of questions now!

I'm not a big Facebook person, and like the anonymous nature here. We haven't even posted photos of LO on Facebook or allowed family to either. I hope this board keeps going, and ill make sure to actively participate more myself.

Welcome to all the lurkers that hopefully feel more comfortable posting here with us now!

mrsgillham14

I'll join in too! I posted a lot when I first found out I was pregnant but due to my loss history, I couldn't read the threads during the first tri and by then everyone was kind of established so I just lurked.  My son was born on the 16th and i'm finding myself with plenty of time to read threads. I'll start jumping in with comments now.  

Alyeena

I"m still here, I have been lurking some but not posting as much as I used to since baby... There is not much time lol. Plus most of the time I have to write one-handed because baby just loves to sleep on me xD.

But it is getting better so hopefully I can post some more. And I am sorry to all those who feel sad and rejected about not joining the Facebook group, I completely understand the feeling, but keep in my mind that was not the intention, it was definitely about safety because real names and pictures and everything.

Jillybear82

I'm still here too.  I was upset about being rejected from the facebook group as well.  I thought I was pretty active, especially considering I was working full time. I didn't tend to do the hump day bump day pasts or start threads though.  Honestly as I read that facebook thread it seemed like there were people who were getting accepted whom I had never seen before.  The whole thing started to seem pretty sketch after a while. 

My schedule is all out whack now that my son is here.  He regularly stays up until the wee hours of the morning.  So I am getting around later these days.  I feel pretty accomplished if I get a shower in before 2:00pm.  I do still try to get on here once a day or so though. 

jennlynn777

Well I'm no lurker by any means but who knows what the Facebook group would have decided. I chose not to join because my Facebook is as private as one could get. I don't feel the need to join the group and am perfectly happy right here. I have been trying to keep things going a little by responding and creating a thread but I suspect we are all very busy with newborns. Also, I'm pretty sure the Facebook is closed to new members. Not entirely sure why they would do that considering its invitation only anyway but apparently they are happy with who has joined and perhaps that's there way of rejecting the rest. Eh whatever we can keep this thread going. :-)