Unpopular Opinions (post yours here)

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.

I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.

But it could.

lmpdjc · September 2010

oops! I guess we have two of these today. I posted in the other thread, not that it matters because once the afternoon/evening bumpies get on they'll all make their own thread.

NELCORP · September 2010

I completely agree.

IrishBrideND · September 2010

I don't get why people don't seem to understand the bump is a business. And, if they didn't make money somehow, these free boards wouldn't exist.

Mostly, this is directed towards the pampers board. Is it dumb? Yes. But I can't believe the outrage at the bump for even having that board. They have to make money somehow or we won't have boards at all. Same thing with the no etsy advertising rule. They have to make their vendors happy because if they find out that you can advertise for free on these boards, why would they pay for advertising?

End of rant.

So I guess my "UO" is that I think people who get upset about the things mentioned are short sighted and haven't really thought it through.

NELCORP · September 2010

I have to agree with Irish's UO too.

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

NELCORP:

I have to agree with Irish's UO too.

I'm changing my thread title, to popular opinions.

I agree about the Pampers board too. Why would anyome think the Bump was a not for profit?

BamBam510 · September 2010

I agree w/Irish as well. I also think its lame how so many people go there just to flame the board. Get a life and get over it. If you don't like it, then don't visit it. I feel bad for the pampers rep who is getting hammered over there.

VanderLaan · September 2010

Here is my UO:

I dont understand why there is a need to trade coupons on here? For example- "I have Enfamil but want Similac". Why not just give away what you are not going to use instead of looking for something in return? And yes, I have given cans of formula etc away without wanting anything back. And I have received many coupons from generous bumpies. So not everyone does it.

Ok, vent over.

laurieb602 · September 2010

Haha then I guess my UO would be better suited over there cause I love me some pampers! The Huggies felt like sand paper and he blew them out every.single.time. Granted he's in the sensitive without dry max but I love them and he's never had a single diaper rash.

IrishBrideND · September 2010

yankeebaby2:
NELCORP:

I have to agree with Irish's UO too.

I'm changing my thread title, to popular opinions.

I agree about the Pampers board too. Why would anyome think the Bump was a not for profit?

and even if it was a not-for-profit, they'd have to make revenues somehow. About 80% of NFPs money comes from revenues from services and such. Only about 20% comes from donations.

Random, I know.

buddhagouda · September 2010

Half of the people raising the biggest stink probably don't actually care anyway. It's just en vogue to be a Holier than thou mommy.

MFalor · September 2010

yankeebaby2:
and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.

I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.

But it could.

You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."

God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.

Melly Mel · September 2010

VanderLaan:

Here is my UO:

I dont understand why there is a need to trade coupons on here? For example- "I have Enfamil but want Similac". Why not just give away what you are not going to use instead of looking for something in return? And yes, I have given cans of formula etc away without wanting anything back. And I have received many coupons from generous bumpies. So not everyone does it.

Ok, vent over.

These checks can save a lot of money so why not trade them with someone who has what you could use? There is usually always someone willing to do so. I don't see why this is a big deal.

bellabsmommy · September 2010

laurieb602:
Haha then I guess my UO would be better suited over there cause I love me some pampers! The Huggies felt like sand paper and he blew them out every.single.time. Granted he's in the sensitive without dry max but I love them and he's never had a single diaper rash.

Me too! We love Pampers and have been very lucky to not have any issues with them. I feel sorry for the people who did have an issue but thats life. Anytime you buy anything you run a risk of having a reaction to it. There is nothing saying that you have to use that product ever again. End of story.

VanderLaan · September 2010

Melly Mel:
VanderLaan:

Here is my UO:

I dont understand why there is a need to trade coupons on here? For example- "I have Enfamil but want Similac". Why not just give away what you are not going to use instead of looking for something in return? And yes, I have given cans of formula etc away without wanting anything back. And I have received many coupons from generous bumpies. So not everyone does it.

Ok, vent over.

These checks can save a lot of money so why not trade them with someone who has what you could use? There is usually always someone willing to do so. I don't see why this is a big deal.

Its not a big deal! Just saying if you have them, give them away!

lmpdjc · September 2010

VanderLaan:
Melly Mel:
VanderLaan:

Here is my UO:

I dont understand why there is a need to trade coupons on here? For example- "I have Enfamil but want Similac". Why not just give away what you are not going to use instead of looking for something in return? And yes, I have given cans of formula etc away without wanting anything back. And I have received many coupons from generous bumpies. So not everyone does it.

Ok, vent over.

These checks can save a lot of money so why not trade them with someone who has what you could use? There is usually always someone willing to do so. I don't see why this is a big deal.

Its not a big deal! Just saying if you have them, give them away!

I've given some away and traded some. It's nice to trade, because who doesn't want to save money? But, I don't mind just giving them to someone who can use them, either.

kate930 · September 2010

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

IrishBrideND · September 2010

kate930:

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

I agree. I think they are super cheesy.

But, I'm lazy. So I use them

buddhagouda · September 2010

kate930:
I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

Oh my goodness, a million times yes. I HATE it. I call everyone by their names. I will occasionally use MH but never DH. I don't call him Dear Husband.

My absolute favorite is someone ranting about how irritate they are with their husband or how they are getting a divorce, all the time calling him Dear Husband.

kate930 · September 2010

buddhagouda:
kate930:
I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.
Oh my goodness, a million times yes. I HATE it. I call everyone by their names. I will occasionally use MH but never DH. I don't call him Dear Husband.
My absolute favorite is someone ranting about how irritate they are with their husband or how they are getting a divorce, all the time calling him Dear Husband.

Haha, yes. Or when the person noticeably switches from DH to MH when they are complaining about him. Oooh, burn.

AdamsMom4 · September 2010

bellabsmommy:
laurieb602:
Haha then I guess my UO would be better suited over there cause I love me some pampers! The Huggies felt like sand paper and he blew them out every.single.time. Granted he's in the sensitive without dry max but I love them and he's never had a single diaper rash.

Me too! We love Pampers and have been very lucky to not have any issues with them. I feel sorry for the people who did have an issue but thats life. Anytime you buy anything you run a risk of having a reaction to it. There is nothing saying that you have to use that product ever again. End of story.

Same here. We have always used Pampers and not had one problem. They even used Pampers at the hospital. I also don't really think that Pampers is going to take you seriously if you post this huge "PAMPERS SUCK ZOMG" rant on a message board. If you had/have a problem with them, call their customer service number and handle it like an intelligent human being.

misscharlotte04 · September 2010

kate930:

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

I agree! The only one I use is SO, I always call LO/DS by his name. I don't care for the abbreviations.

greengirl0909 · September 2010

MFalor:
yankeebaby2:

and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.

I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.

But it could.

You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."

God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.

Ladies, I consider myself very compassionate, but I also worry about the future. When you say have "compassion" it usually ends up costing money. The number of people receiving government assistance continues to grow each year. Poverty breeds poverty and I worry that eventually we'll be in a position unable to help those who need it because too many people have fallen into that category. (not meaning those with disabilities, the elderly, or folks using temporary assistance for a limited time)

I guess my unpopular opinion is that we need real solutions for assisting people to break the cycle of poverty. I think our current system doesn't do enough to enocourage people to try and make it on their own. There are too many people choosing not to take jobs they deem don't have dignity or don't pay enough.

ttimmerman · September 2010

MFalor:
yankeebaby2:

and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.

I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.

But it could.

You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."

God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.

That is a very unfair generalization. There are many, many Christian charities and organizations that are created specifically to help people, without any regard to different "criteria." Don't condemn Christianity because of a couple bad apples.

Pocky873 · September 2010

IrishBrideND:
kate930:

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

I agree. I think they are super cheesy.

But, I'm lazy. So I use them

This...but some of the other ones that I've seen bother me and I will not use them, especially "KWIM?" I find the phrase "know what I mean" to be off-putting in everyday language, even more so in a post on a message board.

kate930 · September 2010

ttimmerman:
MFalor:
yankeebaby2:

and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.
I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.
But it could.
You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."
God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.
That is a very unfair generalization. There are many, many Christian charities and organizations that are created specifically to help people, without any regard to different "criteria." Don't condemn Christianity because of a couple bad apples.

I don't think she was condemning Christians. I understood her as saying that these people weren't living up to the values of Christianity.

NELCORP · September 2010

ttimmerman:
MFalor:
yankeebaby2:

and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.

I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.

But it could.

You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."

God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.

That is a very unfair generalization. There are many, many Christian charities and organizations that are created specifically to help people, without any regard to different "criteria." Don't condemn Christianity because of a couple bad apples.

Not only that...but just because someone is a Christian does not mean they are free from flaws or do not fall short of perfect.

SassyPanties · September 2010

I feel compassion for people. I just don't believe that government and most non-profit programs help anyone in the long term.

I do support giving to private charities in some instances. I love organizations like Kiva for example.

kate930 · September 2010

maiwamoto:
IrishBrideND:
kate930:

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

I agree. I think they are super cheesy.
But, I'm lazy. So I use them
This...but some of the other ones that I've seen bother me and I will not use them, especially "KWIM?" I find the phrase "know what I mean" to be off-putting in everyday language, even more so in a post on a message board.

I actually use that one sometimes. I'm also pretty bad about using old school note-taking abbreviations like w/o. I guess it comes from all the notes I took in law school, KWIM?

Pumpkin30 · September 2010

laurieb602:
Haha then I guess my UO would be better suited over there cause I love me some pampers! The Huggies felt like sand paper and he blew them out every.single.time. Granted he's in the sensitive without dry max but I love them and he's never had a single diaper rash.

DD has done the best in Pampers with dry max. I don't doubt that some moms have had troubles, but they work the best for us. Huggies also ended up in more messes.

Pumpkin30 · September 2010

buddhagouda:
Half of the people raising the biggest stink probably don't actually care anyway. It's just en vogue to be a Holier than thou mommy.

LOL. Now that I know it's en vogue I might have to jump on the bandwagon.

MelonieK · September 2010

ttimmerman:
MFalor:
You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."

God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.

That is a very unfair generalization. There are many, many Christian charities and organizations that are created specifically to help people, without any regard to different "criteria." Don't condemn Christianity because of a couple bad apples.

I don't think she was condemning or painting all Christians in the same light. It's more that the ones who are judgmental say that they are Christian, but their words and actions say otherwise.

buddhagouda · September 2010

My next unpopular opinion, I think it's stupid to actually worry about switching boards the day your kid turns 3 months or post "OMG I'm here three days early". Just post where you want to post. Nobody cares.

I started reading posts over here when Ethan was barely over two months because I wasn't interested in all of the "My baby is 2 days old, how much should she be sleeping?" posts on 0-3.

Pocky873 · September 2010

kate930:
maiwamoto:
IrishBrideND:
kate930:

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

I agree. I think they are super cheesy.

But, I'm lazy. So I use them

This...but some of the other ones that I've seen bother me and I will not use them, especially "KWIM?" I find the phrase "know what I mean" to be off-putting in everyday language, even more so in a post on a message board.

I actually use that one sometimes. I'm also pretty bad about using old school note-taking abbreviations like w/o. I guess it comes from all the notes I took in law school, KWIM?

I use those kinds of abbreviations all the time IRL too (also due to law school note-taking). For me, it's the way "KWIM" is used in some posts rather than the abbreviation itself, I guess. Something about it just rubs me the wrong way.

Pumpkin30 · September 2010

guppysown@yahoo.com:
MFalor:
yankeebaby2:

and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.

I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.

But it could.

You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."

God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.

Ladies, I consider myself very compassionate, but I also worry about the future. When you say have "compassion" it usually ends up costing money. The number of people receiving government assistance continues to grow each year. Poverty breeds poverty and I worry that eventually we'll be in a position unable to help those who need it because too many people have fallen into that category. (not meaning those with disabilities, the elderly, or folks using temporary assistance for a limited time)

I guess my unpopular opinion is that we need real solutions for assisting people to break the cycle of poverty. I think our current system doesn't do enough to enocourage people to try and make it on their own. There are too many people choosing not to take jobs they deem don't have dignity or don't pay enough.

I couldn't agree more. I hate that it's become a long term thing.

If we're getting all biblical, isn't it best to teach a man to fish rather than to give him fish?

I can admit that I've been very judgmental about people using welfare-type programs, but I've also gone out of my way to help people in a way that doesn't start a cycle of neediness.

buddhagouda · September 2010

And while I'm at it, I think introduction posts are stupid.

"Hi, I'm Buddha, and my kid is Ethan" basically means "Someone please please please tell me how cute my kid is."

kate930 · September 2010

maiwamoto:
kate930:
maiwamoto:
IrishBrideND:
kate930:

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

I agree. I think they are super cheesy.
But, I'm lazy. So I use them
This...but some of the other ones that I've seen bother me and I will not use them, especially "KWIM?" I find the phrase "know what I mean" to be off-putting in everyday language, even more so in a post on a message board.
I actually use that one sometimes. I'm also pretty bad about using old school note-taking abbreviations like w/o. I guess it comes from all the notes I took in law school, KWIM?
I use those kinds of abbreviations all the time IRL too (also due to law school note-taking). For me, it's the way "KWIM" is used in some posts rather than the abbreviation itself, I guess. Something about it just rubs me the wrong way.

I understood what you meant. It's definitely a bad phrase and a habit I need to break. I was just joking around because I remembered you were a lawyer as well. I probably started using that phrase in law school because my arguments didn't make any sense!

angiegail78 · September 2010

buddhagouda:
My next unpopular opinion, I think it's stupid to actually worry about switching boards the day your kid turns 3 months or post "OMG I'm here three days early". Just post where you want to post. Nobody cares.
I started reading posts over here when Ethan was barely over two months because I wasn't interested in all of the "My baby is 2 days old, how much should she be sleeping?" posts on 0-3.

My kid is six months and two weeks old. Can I still post here? Stick out tongue

Re: abbreviations - the one I hate the most is AF. And yet I still use it. *shameface*

mrs.dovey · September 2010

Haha. When I use DH it doesn't mean Dear husband, it means Damn husband.

CourtneyS24 · September 2010

Pumpkin30:
guppysown@yahoo.com:
MFalor:
yankeebaby2:

and this stems from all that we have been debating in the last few weeks, like welfare, handicapped parking and the homeless.

I feel like we are not charitable enough and don't do enough to help other human beings in need. I think that we have become jaded and indifferent to the suffering of others. I feel that the majority of us think that those people did something to bring it upon themselves and feel like it could never happen to us.

But it could.

You and I are of the same mind, yankeebaby. I think it's ironic too that most of those people who are so judgmental and lacking compassion are Christians. I always think about the biblical story of the Good Samaritan who helped the person who was robbed and beaten and left on the side of the road. So many people today are like, sure I'll help you, but only if you work as hard as I do, live as healthy as I do, don't have more kids than I think you should have, etc., etc. Like you have to meet all these different criteria in order to "deserve" a "handout."

God forbid I get sick and need someone to help me, but I'm not wearing the right shoes.

Ladies, I consider myself very compassionate, but I also worry about the future. When you say have "compassion" it usually ends up costing money. The number of people receiving government assistance continues to grow each year. Poverty breeds poverty and I worry that eventually we'll be in a position unable to help those who need it because too many people have fallen into that category. (not meaning those with disabilities, the elderly, or folks using temporary assistance for a limited time)

I guess my unpopular opinion is that we need real solutions for assisting people to break the cycle of poverty. I think our current system doesn't do enough to enocourage people to try and make it on their own. There are too many people choosing not to take jobs they deem don't have dignity or don't pay enough.

I couldn't agree more. I hate that it's become a long term thing.

If we're getting all biblical, isn't it best to teach a man to fish rather than to give him fish?

I can admit that I've been very judgmental about people using welfare-type programs, but I've also gone out of my way to help people in a way that doesn't start a cycle of neediness.

ITA! I think our focus should be more on helping others learn how to be successful on their own. How are we helping people by giving them things that results in them staying in the same poverty cycle because they can continue to survive on the handouts.

Mirage222 · September 2010

kate930:

I do not like to use a lot of the abbreviations on here. DH, DD, LO. I read them as the words, and I don't understand why I would call my husband 'Dear Husband'. Same with my daughter. I just like to say what it actually is.

Me too, I have the common ones that are said down, but half of them I have to look up and see what they are talking about. Some of them are not even in the glossary, so then I have to really sit here and wonder what it means.

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