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Looking for postive thoughts

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Part of me is excited to be here -- the last board I posted on was TTC after a loss. Now I'm six weeks pregnant. The other part of me is completely freaked out. I have my first u/s on Friday at 6 1/2 weeks. My last pregnancy (and last u/s) was ectopic and so upsetting. Now I'm just hoping that there's a baby in the right place. But for the last couple of days, my symptoms have really subsided. I need to remember that that's normal, but I'm so scared that I've now convinced myself it's going to end in m/c again. The waiting is so hard! Thanks for listening.
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missed miscarriage: 12/5/09 empty sac: 2/26/10 (8 weeks); natural m/c: 3/3/10; methotrexate (ectopic): 3/4/10

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Re: Looking for postive thoughts

  • rowanthefrogrowanthefrog member

    Congrats on your pg! It is so scary being pg after a loss, but try to remember the mantras when you get scared:

     

    "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby." 
    "I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise." 
    "My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c." 
    "Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you." We all know m/c and complications are not contagious! 
    "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive! 

    Hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (god forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive." 

     

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    M/c #1 - 10/30/07 - 5w3d, DS1 - born at 36w, M/c#2 - 12/7/09 - 5w, M/c #3 - 1/13/10 - 4w6d, 
    M/c #4 - 3/16/10 - 5w1d, DS2 -  born via VBAC at 40w3d, M/c#5 - 11/5/12 - 7w2d
    BFP #8 - 5/5/13- Looks like a sticky one! DS3 - born via epi-free VBAC at 39w1d

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  • Mcarrieb85Mcarrieb85 member
    imagerowanthefrog:

    Congrats on your pg! It is so scary being pg after a loss, but try to remember the mantras when you get scared:

     

    "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby." 
    "I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise." 
    "My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c." 
    "Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you." We all know m/c and complications are not contagious! 
    "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive! 

    Hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (god forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive." 

     

    A 

     

    This is a really helpful thing...These mantras really do help me and I hope they can help you some too.  In fact, reading just now, I've decided that Im going to create my ticker, bc "I cannot jinx a healthy baby, I cannot jinx a healthy baby..." I hope you find some comfort and peace, and good luck at you u/s.

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