I feel fat

thebigmare4 · September 2010

I gained about 5 pounds in July because my hubby and I were eating out a lot and my thyroid got really out of whack. For most of August, I stayed the same, but then I put on another two pounds at the end (also possibly thyroid related). Anyways, at my last appt, the midwife told me bc of my pre-pregnancy BMI I should only gain 10 pounds...which is ridiculous in and of itself when the baby and stuff (placenta, extra blood, etc) weighs 16-18. Everything I've read online says 15-25. But I've already gained 7!!!! And I'm not through first tri! The baby's only the size of a plum!!! What am I going to gain if I continue at this rate?!?!?

I'm sure that it's bloat, but I feel like none of my clothes fit. And this morning I noticed that my fat looks fat. I used to have nice cheekbones and now that whole area is filled in. I've struggled with my weight my entire life. I've been on weight watchers more years than I haven't it seems like. So I'm struggling with dealing with seeing numbers on the scale that I really don't like (I know, stop getting on the scale!!!).

And I'm sure that it's hormones making me feel all sad and depressed and fat! It would be one thing if it was a baby bump making my clothes feel tight, but it's just flab. I can't vent to my DH, he just says annoying stuff like, "I love you. I think you're beautiful." I guess he knows it's a trap, but he won't agree when I say, "Look how fat my face is getting! Have you noticed?" I am not one of those girls that always complains about "being fat." This is all strange territory for me. I'm not liking that I don't like my body right now.

Thanks for reading my vent...

jpupillo · September 2010

I thought I would feel exactly the same before I got pregnant. Now I don't even weigh myself (I used to do it every morning) and it's like I stopped caring about gaining weight. I don't know how it happened but I think I'm more worried about a healthy baby than being thin. I have a cousin who used to vomit all 9 months when she was pregnant just so she wouldn't put on too much weight, I didn't want to be obsessed like that.

Jessica0624 · September 2010

That is my only concern for this pregnancy. When I found out I was pregnant with my son I was 181 pounds and when I delivered I was at 246. I gained 60 pounds. But my son is healthy and thats all that matters!!

Now fast forward to last saturday found out I was pregnant again. I am sitting at 195 pounds and my stomach muscles are still flabby. I do not want to gain the same amount as I did before and will work on my weight and eating habits so much more this time around.

My husband knew the weight bothered me but he loved the new curves that had develpoed and that I was carrying his unborn child. He feel in love with me all over again. It was such an expereince and I am thrilled to go thru it again.

Hang in there, we are all here if you need someone to talk too...

thebigmare4 · September 2010

InLoveWithBrett:

That is my only concern for this pregnancy. When I found out I was pregnant with my son I was 181 pounds and when I delivered I was at 246. I gained 60 pounds. But my son is healthy and thats all that matters!!

Now fast forward to last saturday found out I was pregnant again. I am sitting at 195 pounds and my stomach muscles are still flabby. I do not want to gain the same amount as I did before and will work on my weight and eating habits so much more this time around.

My husband knew the weight bothered me but he loved the new curves that had develpoed and that I was carrying his unborn child. He feel in love with me all over again. It was such an expereince and I am thrilled to go thru it again.

Hang in there, we are all here if you need someone to talk too...

I'm 5'10 and I was 175 at my wedding, which isn't my goal weight, but I felt great at that weight. This whole year I've been in the 190s which is incredibly frustrating. Right before I got pregnant, I was like 202 and the seasons were changing and my summer clothes didn't fit. I lost some weight and got down to around 195-197. Now at 11 weeks, I'm 204. I had all of these visions of getting back down to 175 and then when I was 40 weeks, I'd be 200. But we actually got pregnant right away; so much for that. My highest ever weight was 245 at the end of freshman year of college and I swore that I would never get anywhere near that number ever again. I guess I want to look pregnant and not just fat. I want a cute baby bump, not just rolls of flab. It's frustrating. I don't want to be so concerned with my weight but I am and I don't know how to stop!!!

heathert323 · September 2010

CTGirl30:
((hugs)) I hear you. I'm struggling with weight issues and wondering how I'm going to feel about the inevitable gain to come. Summer started off with our wedding and a 2-week HM where DH and I both returned about 10lbs heavier. (I've gained 20 lbs over the last 5 years, half of that was earlier this summer.) It was not coming off easily pre-BFP, which was discouraging in and of itself.

Pregnancy is certainly not the time to diet but I've gone up 1 size in my clothes and now that I'm pg, I'm hungry all the time. I try to stick to healthier choices (fresh fruits & veggies, proteins) but sometimes I just want junk (as in, I was so hungry when I got home from yesterday I ate an entire box of mac-n-cheese). I'm trying to stick to nutritious choices and I don't want pregnancy to be an excuse to let myself go. And of course I could whine to my DH as well and he'd just be like, "You're beautiful - I love you", too. What can I say, I married a keeper ;-)

Right now I'm sitting here feeling very bloated. I'm worried about how my weight's going to move upward over the next few months when I'm already at a number I never wanted to see. I should have done what my girlfriend did and lost 30 lbs on WW first and then got pg so I could just gain it all back and not over what I started at. ;-)

Ah well - that's in jest but I hear you and you're not the only one.

I can feel you. I have been trying to eat healthy, but the other morning, I ate an entire box of mac n cheese. It was sooo good. I am overweight, but my doc said to eat when I'm hungry, and what I'm hungry for (within reason, of course)....if he knew I ate an entire box of mac n cheese...I don't even want to know what he would say.

And it's like an obsession that I step on that scale every day.

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