I got a baby shower thank you card in the mail.

elizjane26 · August 2010

And all it said was:

Thank you for the gift. It was very thoughtful.

Signed,

DH's cousin

She didn't put my name on it, or specify what this thoughtful gift was. It looked as if she wrote the same thing on every card or something. Does that seem rude to you?

futuremrscohick · August 2010

Wow... I certainly would have tried to personalize a little bit -- especially because that's why people write down what you get...

sandylou · August 2010

I personally think it's rude. Whenever I write a thank you I try to mention the gift specifically unless it was money. Then I usually just say "thank you so much for your gift. It was so generous of you...we plan on using it for blah blah"

To not even have your name on it. Rude times 2

CAB'smommy · August 2010

yeah, that's rude. I always try to write something personal to each person.

wmramsel · August 2010

Yes. I had a ton of wedding thank yous to write including shower thank yous (we had a second reception in my home town) and I still personalized every.single.stinking.one. To me there was no thought put into that thank you at all, I would be asking if she is really all that thankful! Especially the older generation will find that rude!

houndbaby · August 2010

I try to personalize it, I try to write out what the gift was, sometimes I say thank you for the gift but I don't leave it as just that, I usually add in other stuff to personalize it like, it was nice to see you or sorry you couldn't make it.

I got a thank you from a wedding that read exactly as yours did, and I received it after the couple had been married for over a year. I found it kind of rude.

pawcall · August 2010

meh. Would I have written a more thoughtful, personalized note? Absolutely. But I wouldn't get too worked up over getting a fairly generic one. Better than not sending one at all...

UnexpectedlyMom11 · August 2010

maybe who ever through the shower for her did the thank-you's as well?

IMO a thank you card should be thoughtful, as the gift you gave is thoughtful, for our wedding my husband and I wrote paragraphs. By the end I thought my hand would fall off. But I felt good about a job well done.

AppleMomma · August 2010

I will sacrifice hand, wrist and multiple pens, if nessecary to make sure people know I am truly thankful for their time, money & gift.

larrysdarling · August 2010

Meh, it's probably rude but at least you got a thank you card. Maybe no one wrote down for her what everyone got her. I've given many a gift to never received a ty card. I wouldn't dwell on it.

starsmaycollide · August 2010

cdobry01:
meh. Would I have written a more thoughtful, personalized note? Absolutely. But I wouldn't get too worked up over getting a fairly generic one. Better than not sending one at all...

This. Honestly, I cannot for the life of me remember how much I personalized my wedding thank yous. I had the name, and tried my best-but I don't think I always said what they got me, or what I was going to use it for...I'm not sure. I definitely didn't write full on paragraphs.

Honestly, I think people overthink these things a bit. Just an observation from nest/bump boards in general, not this post....I never knew before I sent mine that they were such a big deal to some people. It made me self conscious about them after they were already sent out.

DaniGirl0517 · August 2010

Wow. Was it printed off the computer or actually hand written? Sounds like she cares a WHOLE lot about her gifts, sheesh. I wouldn't be offended by it since there's nothing you can do about it anyway, but I definitely give it the side-eye.

mchupie · August 2010

I think it's a bit rude. You took the time to buy her a gift and go to her shower, the least she could do is take the time to write down your name and what you got her in the card.

elizjane26 · August 2010

starsmaycollide:
cdobry01:
meh. Would I have written a more thoughtful, personalized note? Absolutely. But I wouldn't get too worked up over getting a fairly generic one. Better than not sending one at all...
This. Honestly, I cannot for the life of me remember how much I personalized my wedding thank yous. I had the name, and tried my best-but I don't think I always said what they got me, or what I was going to use it for...I'm not sure. I definitely didn't write full on paragraphs.
Honestly, I think people overthink these things a bit. Just an observation from nest/bump boards in general, not this post....I never knew before I sent mine that they were such a big deal to some people. It made me self conscious about them after they were already sent out.

I just think it should have at least had my name on it.

mchupie · August 2010

starsmaycollide:

cdobry01:
meh. Would I have written a more thoughtful, personalized note? Absolutely. But I wouldn't get too worked up over getting a fairly generic one. Better than not sending one at all...

This. Honestly, I cannot for the life of me remember how much I personalized my wedding thank yous. I had the name, and tried my best-but I don't think I always said what they got me, or what I was going to use it for...I'm not sure. I definitely didn't write full on paragraphs.

Honestly, I think people overthink these things a bit. Just an observation from nest/bump boards in general, not this post....I never knew before I sent mine that they were such a big deal to some people. It made me self conscious about them after they were already sent out.

I dunno, I guess when I spend $50-75 on someone's gift I would expect that they could take one minute of their time to thank me for it appropriately.

locash · August 2010

I agree it should be personally addressed, but I don't think an 'improper' thank you note means she wasn't truly grateful for the gift you gave her. I agree with a pp that some people put way to much weight on TY notes (in general). I couldn't tell you if I gave a gift without receiving a TY, because it doesn't mean that much to me and it's not the reason I gave the gift in the first place.

Personally, I think all TY notes are cheesey and impersonal. Even if you put a lot of time into them, they still come off as forced and something you felt obligated to send. JMO

carmanb · August 2010

Quite rude. That's why there's generally a designated note-taker to write down the gifts and who they were given by...

swrlygrl · August 2010

well it's definitely not the most thoughtful of thank you cards but maybe giver her the benefit of doubt, perhaps the list was eaten by a vicious rabid dog and by the time she got it out of it's mouth the slobber had caused the ink to run and she could not longer make it out...LAMO Big Smile

a-beautiful-mess · August 2010

My very BEST friend sent me a baby shower thank you note last year that said: "Dear Name, Thank you for the baby gift. It was greatly appreciated."

Really? You're my best friend, and you couldn't take the time to mention what I got you? It honestly kind of hurt my feelings when I got it in the mail.

AimeeL85 · August 2010

Yes, definitely...she couldn't have made it more obvious that she did the same thing on every single one. Ruuuuuuuuude!

Mrs.LD813 · August 2010

Rude! I always try and personalize and at least specifically mention what the guest bought for me.

whits900 · August 2010

not to start a etiquette war or anything, but I think TY notes are stupid anyway, unless the person isn't there when you open it - JMO. I mean really, I thank the person there, usually more than once, and get up and hug them too. I still write them (grudgingly) and personalize them because I know that's what's expected, but honestly, I don't care if I get one or not. However - I would find it more rude to get one that was so obviously not sincere, than not get one at all.

Doodle2011 · August 2010

yes.

SBear12 · August 2010

Rude. I'd rather not receive a card at all, than get one that was obviously just done out of obligation. In contrast, I got a baby shower thank you recently that was a full page, front and back, and so sweet that it actually made me cry. That girl is my new thank you card writing inspiration.

atownpreggo · August 2010

I got the SAME exact thank you from my friend for her bridal shower gift. Very rude in my opinion.

mbh10220 · August 2010

sandylou:

I personally think it's rude. Whenever I write a thank you I try to mention the gift specifically unless it was money. Then I usually just say "thank you so much for your gift. It was so generous of you...we plan on using it for blah blah"

To not even have your name on it. Rude times 2

I agree with Sandy (this is what I do, too) I figure, if someone spends their time and money on me, the least I can do is write them a little letter/thank you card. Sheesh.

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