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December 2010 Moms
Circumcision
I don't know if this topic is taboo. As a member of team blue, I was curious to see what other people plan to do with their newborn sons. What if anything is influencing your decision?
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Re: Circumcision
Our boy will have one done. I will not be putting up with my son getting infections on his penis because he can't remember to clean it when he gets older.
Having one done is not cruel to a 2 week old infant, plus they use local anesthetic.
this.
I adamantly do not want it done.... DH was on board until his POS father decided to put in his .02 and tell H that our son will be ridiculed for his entire life if we don't do it.... and now we're not decided.
I told him the ONLY way I would agree to it is if he watches a video of an actual newborn circumcision because his Dad keeps telling him it's 'just a little snip' and it isn't. I would also want to be present, but we have to ask our OB if that is a possibility at our hospital.
The thing influencing my pov is that it is not medically necessary and I think it's genital mutilation. H has now been scared into thinking that our son is going to grow up as some loner virgin because no one will want anything to do with him if he isn't circ'd. And his Dad told him "Well, you get the final say because you're the man." HAH! I nipped that moronic rationale in the bud as soon as the words left H's mouth.
Yes we are having it done! In my mind you should do what the dad is.
We will be doing it at the hospital within a day or two, and not like DH's parents who had him circumsized at home at 10 days by a moyle which is Jewish tradition. They are of Jewish Heritage but are reformed so they like to do things in keeping with their heritage.
I asked DH if he wanted to do this because I let it be his decision and he said no at the hospital is fine.
This is stupid logic. Sure, most men our age in the US are circumcized, but it's becoming less and less popular. It's definitely not standard anymore, and I believe it's about 50% now (you should look up the statistic to strengthen your case), so there's no way your boy will be ridiculed.
If I had my way, I would not do it. However, my husband is Jewish, and although we won't have a bris if it's a boy, this was a non-negotiable point for my husband. I think it's kind of weird to feel so strongly about something like that, but it's really important to him.
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Same here (I wonder if we read the same article). That, coupled with the stories my aunt has told me about elderly gentlemen in the nursing home where she works, solidified my opinion. DH has always been for it, so it ended up being easy to agree on.
Right now we are leaning towards not getting it done.
DH isn't circ'd and hasn't had any issues with it and neither have I - so we don't really see what the big deal is.
For the most part I think the whole "he won't be able to keep it clean" argument is crap. As women we have lots of folds and extra skin down there and we mangage to keep it clean without genital mutilation. You wouldn't think about surgically altering a vagina to prevent yeast infections. The US is the only country with such a crazy high circ rate, so I think if the rest of the world can handle cleaning themselves then we can to.
Our first son was not circumcised and our second son will also not be circumcised. My husband is and I decided to leave the decision up to him as there is no possible way that I could ever really understand the ramifications so, he chose to opt out of it for both sons. I have done a ton a research and there is NO medical evidence to have one done now.
I mean come on, they'll be washing that area anyway, what, it's going to take an extra 30 seconds at most to clean it properly. Not an issue at all.
Just my opinion.
Yeah, my FIL is a complete ass in all facets of his life, so it doesn't at all surprise me that he made such a big deal out of this. He also made a big deal out of us CD'ing, and me being a sahm (well, really wahm but he doesn't think my job is 'real') and everything else he can possibly be a pain about, like before we knew it was a boy and he said, "Well if it's a girl you better find a way to return it"....- so I should really be used to it by now.
I really don't understand how my husband came to be the caring, sensitive, respectful person he is. I think it's bc his Dad mostly worked when he was growing up and his great-grandma basically raised him, bless her soul.
We will not be circumcising this baby if it is a boy.
Very well put.
We just decided that we will not be circumcising. Basically, we did not find any of the arguments in favor of the procedure to be compelling on a medical level, and we didn't feel right doing a surgical procedure on an infant for what (in our eyes, at least) seemed to be cosmetic and/or convenience reasons.
If LO is a boy, it will be done.
Not having one opens males up to infections, and possibly infecting a partner. ...
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I like this.
Changing my answer.
THIS.
This is one area where DH said I had no say otherwise. Baby boy will be circ'd. I don't have those parts so I don't feel like I could fully make an informed decision on what would be the "right" choice. I am completely confident in my H and his decision and though I agree that there is no real need medically I feel it is really up to him. For the record, his son from a previous marriage is also circ'd.
As for the cleanliness thing, I think a lot of where it becomes an issue is when they are elderly and can't care for themselves and say for example in a care facility where the nurses obviously won't be much into cleaning that area, and that is where infections could become a big problem.
This exactly. I told DH since he;s not circ and knows all about cleaning it then well it's up to him then to teach LO how to clean it properly and he said he has no issue with that.
This is my thought. I told DH that my part in the 'sex talk" will be "Cooper, if you get some girl knocked up you and me are going to have some serious issues."
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We are having it done for medical reasons.
One thing I don't think people know/think about is that the foreskin can often tear later in life through sex or masturbation which causes excruciating pain. A circumcision is then needed to repair the tear and requires more down time than having it done as an infant. I would imagine that having to have a circumcision later in life would be more traumatic. You know how guys are about their penises.
Also, having worked in hospitals and cleaned many penises, the circ'ed ones are much easier to clean and the men have less bladder infections in old age. Circumcision also reduces the risk of penile cancer as most cancers are seen in uncirc'ed males.
DH and I discussed it. We're going to tell Law from a young age that vaginas are filled with sand and thumbtacks. And that after you have sex you have to clean yourself off with rubbing alcohol. And you could get a girl pregnant from kissing.
:-/ I'm so worried some little 16 year old slutbag is going to trick my sweet baby boy into knocking her up. :-(
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Oh No! Ahhhh. Man this kinda stuff didn't even cross my mind before I became a Mom... Idk how I'm going to do this... I'm already worried about him dating the wrong girl and sneaking out.... ugggh, why can't you keep children in cages? Well, actually, you can you just can't get caught....