Pregnant after a Loss

Irrational fear that something is going to happen

Baby K has had five perfect ultrasounds, one perfect integrated screen, has been off the wall active every appointment and I feel her about once a day, yet I still feel terrified all the time. I can't even go to the doctor alone, I need someone with me unless something bad happens. Does this ever let up?  Other than mantras, at 19 weeks can someone give me some kind of reason to relax :(

Re: Irrational fear that something is going to happen

  • I can tell you that stressing about it isn't going to change the outcome.  And there is absolutely no reason to believe that you won't have a terrific healthy baby.  Some days this works for me and some days not so much.
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  • Hi Katie, I agree with banbear that stressing won't change any outcome.  Also, keep in mind that babyK has given you absolutely nothing to worry about and has been a perfect baby, even showing you the bh early and moving around so you know she's still there.  That being said, having irrational fear from time to time is normal given that every woman on this board has had at least 1 m/c. * hug*
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  • I agree, Katie!  It's hard not to be worried all the time.  I worry all the time, too.  I guess we just need to let someone else (God) worry about the rest.  You're doing everything you can...eating healthy, exercising, going to doctor appointments, taking PNV, etc.  Lay back and let God take care of the rest :)  You're doing terrific! 
  • Yes, I still have irrational fears, even when things have been going great.  I don't know that it ever totally goes away, but I hope that it continues to lighten up as time goes on.  I think that part of it is we are all so very well aware of the possibilities - having seen our friends here go through terrible losses - that it's hard to get the possible outcomes out of your mind.
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