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1st Trimester
To tell or not to tell - that is the question!
I have read so many people on here that want to tell someone but don't want anyone to know. My personal opinion was this. We told at 4 weeks with Paige - everyone basically knew. This time everyone knew by about 5 weeks. I figure the more people I have that knows the more people I have praying for my pregnancy. And if something were to happen - God forbid - then I would have that many people praying for our loss. So it is a win win! :-) Anyone else feel this way or is everyone on here hush hush until that first ultrasound?
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Re: To tell or not to tell - that is the question!
to that I say that I am happy things worked out for you.
I was once 5 weeks pregnant & told my family too. I thought I would have a baby in 9 months so I was OK with telling them. That didn't happen. It was very hard to deal with. The more people that knew, the harder it was to go through a day without someone bringing it up or saying "I'm sorry".
It's not fun. People like to protect themselves from the potential pain. To each their own.
I want my dearest friend and my family to support me in happy or sad news. I don't need every 2nd and 3rd tier high school friend or chat at the mailbox neighber to know about it.
We'll put out a facebook post around 13 weeks and the neighbors can find out as they notice.
I understand your thinking and am glad it has worked out for you!
However, I'm on the other side of the spectrum. We had our first u/s almost 2 weeks ago, and we're still not revealing it to the world. We have told my parents, DH's parents, SIL, DH's Aunt, and DH's grandparents. I told my best friend last week and DH's team at work (3 guys) know. That's it for now. The only ones who knew before 9 weeks were my parents.
Here's why. We're a private couple, me especially, and wanted to have this between us for a little while. I also hate being the center of attention and prefer to put off all the "omg how are you feeeeeeling" questions until later. Lastly, and this only became clear now that we've told those closest to us, if something does go wrong, neither of us want the sad looks and pity from people we barely know. I think that would just make it harder. Having immediate family and best friends there for support is one thing. That goes back to the privacy thing. So, it's under wraps from non-family for another 2-3 weeks. Just us.
Well, my reasons are different, but I told my family and close friends pretty early on. I can't imagine keeping it a secret from family, although I do understand that other people have their reasons.
We just started telling neighbors the last week or two. I won't tell work for another week or two.
I was suprised when two women at work recently told everyone right away (like 5 weeks). I guess I just don't want everyone knowing my business.
We haven't told many people yet. Just DH's business partners, because DH can't keep a secret. I'm a pretty private person and I just don't want people in my business yet. I think we will tell MIL this weekend and my parents in a couple weeks (I want to tell them in person and I won't see them for awhile). Work will probably find out ~12 weeks.