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Trouble TTC
Does anyone else laugh at others' plans for kids?
I was on another board and someone was talking about their long term plan regarding kids, money, etc. I remember being in that place where I thought we could time when we had kids and felt like we had control over how many we'd have. Now it just makes me laugh to hear others talk like that. Part of me is sad, but a bigger part is incredibly jealous. I miss feeling confident.
Anyone else feel something similar?
Struggled with IF from 2008-2011.
Surprise Pregnancy 02/11!
Surprise Pregnancy 02/11!
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Re: Does anyone else laugh at others' plans for kids?
Yep all the time. My bff said she wanted to PG with #2 in May and low and behold she did...must be nice.
Me: PCOS, Blood/Immune Issues DH: Low all 3
Jun.- Sep. 2010 IUI#1-#3 = BFN
Oct. 2010 = IVF #1 = B/G Twins (passed away Feb. 2011)
May 2011 = Myomectomy and trans-abdominal cerclage (TAC)
Sep. 2011 = Surprise BFP = C/P
Feb. 2012 = sFET #1 = BFN
Feb.2012 = Hail Mary IUI #4 = BFN
April/May 2012 = FET #2 w/our last two embies = BFP (Please let this be it!)
Beta #1 8dp5/6dt = 234 Beta #2 10dp5/6dt = 695 Beta #3 12dp5/6dt = 1796 Beta #4 17dp5/6dt = 17,888 U/S #1 May 17, 2012 = Twins
Baby B's heart stop beating at 9 weeks 5 days
Our little miracle baby is a boy.
Baby Boy Owen and Baby Girl Avery were born too early on Feb. 13, 2011 due to a pedunculated fibroid, incompetent cervix and suspected placental abruption.
"What the heart has once owned and had, it shall never lose." - Henry Ward Beecher
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Lots of love and luck to my PAIF/3T/IF Veteran ladies, especially my dear friend Zookie. Congrats to Papps, Teach84 and Starbuck on their little ones.
~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~
Me= 37 and DH = 41
Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)
IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
TTC#2: Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.
IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
Oh ya. Some people really annoy me with this. NAIVE! For some sure it only takes once but obviously its not always that easy.
My BFF told me years ago that she wanted 5 kids and the last 2 were gonna be twins. first 3 would be back to back.
I have several friends like that and it is amazing that they have no idea how hard TTC can be. I have one good friend that had a surprise baby with her first and when she started TTC her second she got pregnant the first cycle.
I was talking to her a little about my IF issues last week and she actually told me to relax. I was floored! That was the first time I had ever gotten that comment.
Surprise Pregnancy 02/11!
I find myself laughing/snickering at people and their plans, especially the ones who think they can plan their due date. I'll admit that it's mostly jealousy, because I miss being that hopeful.
My favorites are the people who plan to have kids in a certain gender order, or the ones that think they can plan twins. So hard not to roll my eyes right in front of them!
IVF #1, 7/10: Cancelled due to dominant follicle; IVF #2, 9/10: c/p; FET #1, 11/10: c/p; IVF #3, 4/11: BFN; FET #2, 6/11: BFP! Beta #1 = 118 (11dp2dt), Beta #2 = 1975 (16dp2dt)
DS born 2/17/12
TTC #2
IVF #4, 11/13: BFN; IVF #5, 3/14: BFP! Beta #1 = 59 (11dp2dt), Beta #2 = 406 (15dp2dt)
EDD 12/19/14
DH - Low Testosterone (but normal SA)
December 2008 - Pregnancy Loss @ 17 1/2 weeks (Trisomy 18)
September 2009 - HSG all clear!
April & May 2010 - 2 Failed IUI's
August 2010 - Laparosocopy - all endo adhesions removed!
1st IVF cycle - January 2011 - BFN
FET#1 - April 2011 - BFN
FET#2 - June 2011 - BFN
I don't laugh, but I do make a comment on how I hope it happens like that for them, but it may not.
I used to say that I wanted a baby born in August (my mother's birthday was August) and low and behold, we are having problems.
You just never know.
It's even better when they start planning out your own conception plan ("we can have babies together"). We're not at the stage where we're telling people about our IF so we just reply with the usual "we'll see."
MPZ born June 2011
TTC #2 ... Cycle 1-3: IUI = BFN | Cycle 4: IVF ... canceled but 3 snow babies
Cycle 5: FET .. BFP! | EDD - 3/15/2014
I don't laugh because it seems like it works out for everyone I know except me.
/debbiedowner
Surprise Pregnancy 02/11!
Haha! I'm right there with you!
Surprise Pregnancy 02/11!
Yeah, absolutely! As if it were that easy...
Maybe it's the career field I'm in, but I feel there is a correlation between big bad event (losing a job) or poverty, (etc.) and up'd chances of fertility.
Kinda like the double whammy -
Honey, I have news?
Me too?
You first...
I'm Pregnant!!!
Oh... I got laid off today....