f/u to my sh!t post (long)

mystic_J · August 2010

Good morning 3T,

So, DH and I talked it over last night and he thought of something I didn't. I have been very upset at the possibility of letting down my recipient b/c of this new job. But, DH suggested I ask the nurse if I can go ahead and stim, and then do the ER, and one of two things will happen: either

a) if I produce less than 8 eggs, they all go to my recipient anyways, and then I get my own IVF cycle for free at a later date of my choosing,

or

b) if I produce enough eggs for the recipient and I to split in half, then we can freeze the embryos that make it for me, and then do an FET next summer.

I left my IVF nurse a message, though I am pretty sure she doesn't work on Thursdays, but hopefully she does, and I can get an answer one way or the other. I just plan on being honest that I need to take this once in a lifetime opportunity for a job like this, but I am committed to making my recipient's dreams come true. I think I can get the time for the ER, just not the ET right now or the ensuing bedrest.

Plus, as I already mentioned, this is a federal job, and the first year is a trial basis, so as long as I am not visibly KU at the time of my year end review when I become vested, I should have nothing to worry about. My FET or the new IVF (depending on how my egg count plays out) will be July or August 2011.

I know it is a long way off, but I feel good knowing I am offering a solution that gives my recipient what she needs now, and gives me the option of making my dreams come true now for my job, and for my IVF later.

Thanks for making it this far if you did! Please keep your fingers crossed this option can work out!