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Hello! (and test...)
Hey all,
I'm new to TB. My husband and I are in the process of DECIDING to TTC. We have varying opinions as to right now (me) or December (him). In the mean time, I've decided to deal with my extreme baby-fever by hitting up the message boards and learning as much as I can! I've read a bunch of books, but there's nothing better, in my opinion, than the experience of those that have been through it. I'm really excited to be here and feel very at home and comfy already!
We've been married 3 years and in our house for 1 year. We're in a good position financially, with our jobs, and with each other. My doctor recently unofficially diagnosed me with endometriosis (she can't OFFICIALLY make a dx without a biopsy, which isn't something we feel is necessary at this point.) We may find out we're mistaken on that decision! I've always struggled with issues from it. She's recommended that I either actively TTC or go back on the pill and it just makes me cringe and tears well up to think about going back on the pill. Whether its only for a few months or not, it feels like I'd be giving up. So, I'm here to cope, and cross my fingers that my DH will wake up some day and feel comfortable with immediately TTC in the next week or so...as AF is on her way and then I'll have to start the BC.
I'm really looking forward to making some new friends on here!
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Re: Hello! (and test...)
Hey!
I am sorry you are going through that and having to make that decision. My husband and I have been married for about a year now. We are just about to TTC. This is my last week on birth control pills. To get ready I read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, started taking prenatal vitamins, and am starting to chart. I hope everything works out for you!
Hi there! I hope that you won't be in the TTC rooms long!!! Good luck to you and your DH!!
I too, have started taking pre-natals and seems like I better pick up that book! HA! I haven't wanted to "jinx" us on fertility, so I'm paranoid about reading it! I don't want to stress myself out too much. Good luck again!
It is a really good book and I recommend that every woman reads it. It doesn't just deal with charting to get pregnant. It can also be used as a birth control method and just to know what is really going on with your body. I learned a lot and found it very interesting.
We had originally talked about starting trying next summer. I wanted to get off of my birth control pills though because of some side effects. Nothing horrible but just didn't want to be on them anymore. My sister charts so I had heard things from her. So we decided I would go off of the pill after this month was up. We just decided to start ttc instead of waiting till next summer. I am not going to get stressed about it though. I have issues sleeping so the temping thing might be a problem. You have to temp at the same time each day and after at least 3 hours of sleep. I work nights so I don't wake up at the same time each day. I also have issues sleeping when I work nights and also on my days off. I rarely get 3 consecutive hours of sleep. We will see what happens :-)
You can do it!! Maybe it'll help with your sleeping issues? More of a routine? I'm not sure. Just shootin that out there.
DH is still set on December and I can't help but think he's reluctant because of the pressure he's getting from me. However, I don't know how to control my pressuring. I don't want to be a nag, but I'm kind of on a deadline, here with the BCPs! Several friends have been like, "if you don't want to take them, then don't," but for several reasons, I feel the need to comply with my OB's recommendations. And I can't help but say, "what's the difference if its now, or 4 months from now?" but I guess, technically, he can say the same thing.
I am hoping that maybe the temping thing will put me on more of a schedule too. Although here it is at 6 am and I have been up for almost 2 hours.
I know it is hard to wait even just a few months. I was originally going to wait until after our vacation in October to go off of birth control. My BCP prescription was up this week though so decided why not end them now :-) I was kind of surprised that my husband was all for it. We want kids but he was the one who wanted to wait another year. I have been talking a lot about babies and thought he might get annoyed with me :-) He isn't though and brings things up too. We went to breakfast over the weekend and afterward he wanted to go to Target to look at baby things :-)
Just try to relax and not think about it too much the next few months. I know it is hard to do :-) Or there are things you can do now to get yourself ready. I have seen advertised the book What to Expect Before you are Expecting. That might give you some things to concentrate on now while you are waiting for December.