Stirring the pot: Will you use a leash/harness on your child?

MamabirdtoBe · August 2010

I plan on using my Mom's method of parenting...instilling some serious fear Smile

This way the leash isn't necessary, because they'll be too scared to run away or act out!

JoannaJes · August 2010

MamabirdtoBe:
I plan on using my Mom's method of parenting...instilling some serious fear This way the leash isn't necessary, because they'll be too scared to run away or act out!

You obviously don't have children...this statement is ridiculous. Especially for toddlers. I'd like to see how you are going to "scare" your 15- 20 month old into "listening" to you. Read a child development book, for goodness sakes.

Brownie0516 · August 2010

missolson77:

KK1974:
Nope,, totally my opinion,, but kids aren't dogs. That's where parenting/training works or keep them in the stroller.

same here. No kid of mine is going to be on a leash

I wish it was that easy. I have tried "parenting/training" and I guess I just failed. My toddler will not sit in a stroller/shopping cart no matter how hard I try. He will slip out of any harness. If he walks and holds my hand, he is trying to wiggle out and run away the whole time. One slip of the hand and he is gone. Guess I better get my training down pat before the next baby gets here. Hmm

kristajew · August 2010

YES. we used on for my son when we were in crowded areas like the fair, mall, ect. he doesn't like to be in the stroller for extended periods of time. i would also use it after i had noni, and we took family walks together, (hubby was at work) so he wouldn't dart into traffic.

Isaiah actually LOVES the monkey backpack. he still wants to wear it sometimes, although now we don't attatch the tail.

vflipo · August 2010

Fvck no. I feel so bad for kids on leashes. Leashes are for dogs...

violetvilla83 · August 2010

I wish I could use the monkey back pack but DH is very against it, so I respect that and won't put DD on it. However, DD started walking at 8 months to the day and she is now a professional escape artist and a track star. It has been extremely hard for me to keep up with her and I can only imagine how things will get when I add another 30 -40 pounds to my body. A month ago we were visiting a touristy area and she fought my death grip on her hand and bolted for the street. I had to shove people to get her and it scared me. I prefer to put her in a sling or baby carrier, but she grew out of that once she started walking.

violetvilla83 · August 2010

Brownie0516:
missolson77:

KK1974:
Nope,, totally my opinion,, but kids aren't dogs. That's where parenting/training works or keep them in the stroller.

same here. No kid of mine is going to be on a leash

I wish it was that easy. I have tried "parenting/training" and I guess I just failed. My toddler will not sit in a stroller/shopping cart no matter how hard I try. He will slip out of any harness. If he walks and holds my hand, he is trying to wiggle out and run away the whole time. One slip of the hand and he is gone. Guess I better get my training down pat before the next baby gets here.

I agree. There's nothing I can do to "train" DD. She has a mind of her own. I turned my back for two seconds this morning and she had climbed the computer desk and was reaching for stuff on the shelf. If I move the chair, she'll move it back. Training a baby that doesn't understand sentences is like trying to talk to a brick wall.

lizobss · August 2010

JoannaJes:

MamabirdtoBe:
I plan on using my Mom's method of parenting...instilling some serious fear This way the leash isn't necessary, because they'll be too scared to run away or act out!

You obviously don't have children...this statement is ridiculous. Especially for toddlers. I'd like to see how you are going to "scare" your 15- 20 month old into "listening" to you. Read a child development book, for goodness sakes.

This was exactly what I thought when I read this post. I had all these grand ideas about how I was (and wasn't) going to raise my children before DS came along. DS has a small attention span but is insanely determined and stubborn. If he wants out of the stroller, he wants out. And he is at a stage where he doesn't know how to walk. He runs everywhere! We have a cute little Elmo harness that he will wear when we get to that point. Judge all you want, but my kid will be so much safer wearing that than if he was just holding my hand.

Oh and I'm glad someone brought up the ADHD. DS also has SID and all the stimulation can be very distracting and overstimulating for him.

I guess I just think, better safe than sorry and don't judge until you've walked a mile in the shoes.

shouldbworkin · August 2010

mrs_b_2007:

something I will probably figure out when the kid is here & walking.

I try not to judge something I've never been through.

I love these kinds of posts. Really, you can't say until you've been there. Personally, the stroller worked well for my kids. They almost love it too much and I'm sure I could get the side eye for that too.

Piad1 · August 2010

Definitely not. I don't use one on my son, and I won't be using one on my next baby. Toddlers run around. It's what they do. If you are near a street or anywhere dangerous, you have to either make them hold your hand, or you pick them up. I pick up my son while crossing the street, or near the curb, etc. A leash provides a false sense of security, and can cause you to take your eyes off of your kid when you should really be watching him/her.

Piad1 · August 2010

Plus, all the running around after my son has helped keep me in shape lol

MrsTotty · August 2010

Oh yes, definitely just like a dog on a leash. LOL.

mom2case · August 2010

One more thought for those of you comparing the child leash to a dog leash:

Why do we put dogs on leashes? After you think about that for a minute, the answers will be obvious...

Dogs do not understand the danger around them. They have a mind of their own and may run after something on a whim. We don't want our dog to be hit by a car or hurt by something/someone else. Dogs need to walk around to burn off energy, and being on a leash (in a crowded/dangerous area) is the safest way to handle that. We choose to put our dogs on leashes because we love our dogs and want to keep them safe.

Now, substitute the word "dog" with children, son, or daughter, and nothing changes.

ScorpioAnnie · August 2010

Yes

jaciandseth:
One more thought for those of you comparing the child leash to a dog leash:
Why do we put dogs on leashes? After you think about that for a minute, the answers will be obvious...
Dogs do not understand the danger around them. They have a mind of their own and may run after something on a whim. We don't want our dog to be hit by a car or hurt by something/someone else. Dogs need to walk around to burn off energy, and being on a leash (in a crowded/dangerous area) is the safest way to handle that. We choose to put our dogs on leashes because we love our dogs and want to keep them safe.
Now, substitute the word "dog" for children, son, or daughter, and nothing changes.

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