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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
raeg13
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f/u appt was torture
raeg13
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Well, not the part where I met with the doctor, but everything else about it!!
First, I sat in the waiting room in the same chair I had sat in with DH when we were scheduled for our u/s and got the news of the mmc. Then, like clockwork, pregnant women started flowing in to join me in the waiting room. When I finally got called back, I was weighed and have gained 4 lbs since my last day of pregnancy. Guess I realize how I have been coping with the loss.
Next, they sent me to another, smaller waiting room where I had to wait for the room. I was happy that there were 3 other patients waiting and none of them were visibly pregnant, woohoo!! Well... here's the kicker. There was a very thin wall between my chair and the u/s room. All I could hear through the wall were things like, "Oh, look! You can see him perfectly here!" and "Oh my god, look at his head, this is so cool!" Then, just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, I could hear the baby's heartbeat LOUD AND CLEAR, something I never got to hear at my appointment.
The non-visible pregnant people then slowly got called back (including a girl who looked no older than 13 which had me wondering why she was at a gyn office) and the pregnant women joined me. This included the lady who was just having her u/s and her dd who was about a year old. The pregnant women then began asking each other how far along they were and complaining about how terrible their pregnancies were and how uncomfortable they were.
I was relieved when they called my name and I followed the nurse back to the SAME room where the doctor gave me the news that I had a blighted ovum just 2 1/2 weeks earlier. Go figure. I felt like I was reliving that day over again and it took everything in me to keep the tears from falling. Ugh.
On a brighter note, my dr. told me they tested for a molar pregnancy and that was negative. She also said we can start ttc next cycle. Thanks for listening, just had to get that out!!!
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Re: f/u appt was torture
Oh I can imagine how hard that was. I had to sit in the waiting room before my d&c with a ton of pregnant women. I just cried. I tried not to, but then gave up after a bit and just let it out. I know I'll be the same at my f/u appt next week.
But yay for no molar pregnancy, and ttc next cycle for you!!
No molar--that is fantastic news! You'll be glad to start TTC again.
I had a similar experience as yours for my follow-ups. Fortunately our MFM office has a protocol for getting the loss-sufferers out of the waiting room ASAP, but they put me in an interior waiting room that has crystal-clear sound transmission from the ultrasound room. And yep, I heard heartbeats and coos and all the happiness. Not that I'll ever get pregnant again but I sure won't look forward to going back there.
BFP#1 missed mc on 7/14/10 at 10 weeks
I have not had my fu as of yet, but i did have to go back on friday because I had a ton of cramping and they just wanted to make sure that I did not have an infection.
ther were two ladies (maybe about 3-4 months along) and they were both complaining about how bad the morning sickness was and how tired they were ect. I just wanted to tell them to enjoy those sypmtoms and be thankful that they things were moving along great.
I have my actual appt on wed of next week and I am dreading going in there and having to see all the mommies to be...
ugh...i'm so not excited for my f/u.
sorry to hear about the sucky day, I hope tommorrow is better
YAI for the green light!!