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MrsHughesNC
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Change my mind....or agree with me. Either one. :-)
MrsHughesNC
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I was able to get an appointment at the dermatologist I go to for Holly, tomorrow at 11:20. It's like the worst possible time for an appointment, as far as her daycare schedule goes (if I intend to bring her back). She'll miss lunch, and I'd have to get her back by 1:15 to not disrupt everyone else's nap time. I'm pretty sure they'd rather I not bring her back if it's after that--I don't blame them.
There's pretty much no way we'll get back in time, since I'll have to get her lunch while we're out. So I'm assuming we'll be going home and she'll be taking her nap there. I can't help it, I'm excited about taking a "sick day" with her, when she's really not sick at all. (the face rash isn't bothering her in the least... I'm pretty sure it's just dermatitis).
Here's the part I'm questioning.. I have very little sick time right now (like 2 hours). I'd have to take 5 hours off tomorrow if she doesn't go back to DC. I could be advanced vacation--my employer is cool about that (currently have none), so it's really not the end of the world. Or heck, I'll take it without pay. It'd be 3 hours.
Well apparently DH was talking to MIL (who is retired) about how we were going to try and take her to the derm this week. He's in training all week or would take her himself (they have unlimited sick time. Must be nice, huh?) Well, she offered to come up and take her to the Dr and/or stay home with her. She mentioned it to him, and he told me, and I just brushed it off, really. For one thing, are grandparents even allowed to bring kids to the Dr, with HIPAA and all? Second off, I kind of want to be there for this one, since we've been dealing with this rash thing for a couple of months now.
She called and left me a voice mail this morning saying the same... I know she's trying to help, but I'm being a brat because darn it, I want to take her and I want to stay home with her! The responsible side of me says I should take her to the Derm, and then let MIL come stay with her so I can go back to work. But I really want to stay home and hang out with her, and well, not be at work. I can't seem to keep any sick time/vacation (we accrue it), and we are planning to take a couple of days off in the fall, and around the holidays. So maybe I shouldn't "waste" the hours...Plus I know MIL would enjoy hanging out with her too.
So....Tell me what you'd do... 
yes, i realize I'm probably making too big of a deal out of this, but my "alone time" with DD is limited.
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Re: Change my mind....or agree with me. Either one. :-)
If this were me, I'd want to take her to the doctor myself. I would hate having to rely on MIL to give me that information. Could you take her to the doctor, do lunch with her and then let your MIL watch her for the afternoon?
And, of course, if you really want to stay at home with her for the afternoon, I'd just take it unpaid. It seems like the most simple option, but that's just my two cents worth.
This is what I would have said as well. And yes, I see grandparents all the time at Dr. appointments (once I saw 2 grandmas together and it was a mess), and I agree with PP, I would not want to rely on grandma passing the info on to us. Are you desperate to get Holly into the apt? Can the time be changed?
Yeah, I'm definitely going to take her myself, I'm more debating whether or not I should return to work. hehe.. I feel like I should be "mature" and give up my afternoon with her, but I don't want to! Wah!
yes, I know this is not a life and death decision like I seem to be making it.. LOL.
Daycare has been questioning her rash, so I really want to get her in ASAP. The soonest they could get us in otherwise was Sept 7 (I called 2 derms).. This was a last minute cancellation that they offered to us.
im with mikey!!
I would take Holly to the appt then leave her with your MIL so you can go back to work. There are going to be other times in the future when you'll wish you'd saved those 5 hours for something else.
Plus, you'll earn brownie points with MIL. Always a good thing!
Aww boo... you people and your darn logic.
You're right, I'll wish I hadn't used the time, especially since we're planning a long weekend away (w/no baby!) this fall. MIL will enjoy spending the afternoon with her (even though she'll be napping for part of that). I will take her to the Dr, then drop her off back and home and head back to work.
Thanks for talking me through this life altering dilemma. hehe.