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ohashlet
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Omg. She sent me an email.
ohashlet
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"Thank you for sicking the dogs on me Ashley.
I did not know all
the details of your baby and I was quick to judge. I have prayed over it
and God tells me I should not have done that because only God can judge
on your actions. Your doula OZY emailed me and told me al to mind my
own business.
Ashley, I know you are not a chrisitian, but regardless of if you've
let Christ into your life, abortion is wrong! You aborted your baby
from your body and that is a grave sin! I pray for you and your husband.
I know you are not a bad person and that you thought God would be okay
with your choice but he isn't. I am in tears over your baby.
I never told you but I lost a baby when me and J were first married. I did not abort the baby! I waited and prayed and
God worked through me and lifted my baby out of me. He would do the same for you if you accepted him.
Thank you for sicking the dogs on me. Your friend can email me all
she wants, I know I am right and God knows that. I will not
talk to you again but know that I am, and J is praying for your baby
and your husband.
Bless you in this hard time.
T______"
I don't even know what to say.
Edited to take out his name, and Ozys
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Re: Omg. She sent me an email.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Oh, so she's insane. It's all clear now.
What is her email address, please?
She needs serious help if she thinks it's in God's will to let your baby stay in your body until "He lifted the baby out of you."
I'm sorry you had to deal with that douche.
Holy Fvck. That is a special kind of crazy that is never going to get it. I'm sorry she is saying these horrible and completely untrue things to you. Do not let her make you doubt anything. You did everything you could for Rory and did nothing wrong at all. I know you know this but I don't want her delusional ideas to get to you.
I can't express how I feel about her and what she has said. There just aren't words. Fury isn't strong enough. Remember that we are all here for you.
I think I agree.
She says that 'God' told her not to judge, but the whole rest of her e-mail is judging you.
And the whole abortion thing? What the heck? You have surgery to remove a DEAD baby. How is that abortion? I bet she thinks that inductions are abortions too. She must.
I just shake my head. I am a very strong Christian, but she gives Christians a bad name. I just cannot believe all the things she said.
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This makes me sick, Ash. It really really does.
I am sorry for all of this and I think now is the time for you to block her completely from your life. She is seriously delusional. She is obviously not going to listen to reason. She needs serious help. Seriously.
I am sorry. I am so sorry.
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I seriously am so furious right now. I can't even imagine how you feel. Does she not freaking understand what happened and how that is not abortion? GOOD LORD, I'm all fired up. I too would LOVE to write to her, so if you're interested in sharing her email address, I'll gladly give her a few things to think about...
Aghhhhh, I'm so PISSED!!!
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I can't believe that, it is beyond me that anyone could even think that way. She has Discovery Health special written all over her.
once again I am speachless and pickinh my jaw off the floor
My hubby said he would be happy to go throw rocks at her windows
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I mean we had the option of waiting and letting my body do the work, at the risk of future pregnancies and my overall mental and physical health. And I did know she lost a baby, at around 6 weeks I think. I do not want to disrespect her loss, but 6 weeks and 18 weeks are so different.
WTF?!
Yeah, Ozy's email was very pleasant. Let the rest of us stick up for you and she'll know what the "dogs" being sicked on her actually looks like.
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Are you serious? She had a m/c at 6 weeks and thinks it is comparable?
Hell I had one at 13 weeks that was above and beyond anything I'd had earlier. I can't imagine 18 weeks.
Dumbass.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
YEAH!
This nutcase is the kind of person that makes all Christians look bad.
You did not abort your baby, you had a medically necessary procedure.
Tell her that I (Joani) am a christian, and I just talked to God and he said that she is a judgmental biitch.
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Yes, 6 and 18 weeks are completely different. Even so, seeing as she went through a loss as well she should be sympathetic, not a judgemental biitch. I'm so sorry.
She is seriously sick in the head. Don't waste anymore of your precious time on her.
I can't even begin to describe how serioulsy fvcked in the head she is.
((hugs))
OK, we're done being nice. I think it's time she got an earful from the rest of us on BOTB who love you and aren't so eloquent as Ozy.
DH said internet karma is the best form of retribution.
what a nut. id like to abort her. seriously? "god would have lifted that dead baby out of you if you let him" im pretty sure if im reading your siggy right, you had to wait 2 weeks for your surgery? having a dead baby inside you could have killed you. i suppose god would have lifted you up.
people are so dumb. especially crazy christians.
Dude. If she wants a dog to be sicked on her, send me her fvcking email address. I'm ready to jump on a freaking plane so I can take a tire iron to her kneecaps. And maybe her face.
She is a disgusting human being, and even though I don't believe in God, Jesus, or anything, I know that if God or Jesus do exist, they wouldn't want such a hateful, judgmental person speaking on their behalves.
It's just unbelievable. I figured if she emailed you, it would be to say how sorry she is, not to continue her horrible ways. People like her make me wish I believed in karma.
That email totally sounds like those families who don't seek medical treatment for their children for very treatable illnesses, preferring instead to leave it "in God's hands." (There was a story locally a few years back about a teenage girl who died from diabetes complications because her parents were letting God handle her illness).
She's clearly not right, honey. I sincerely hope she doesn't have the opportunity to seriously harm someone, like a child of her own, with her poisonous thinking.
And not to mention how dangerous it can be to wait. She's an idiot.
Baby # 2 edd 11/26/08 - Ezra Jacob born 11/29/08, 9 lbs 6 oz., 21 3/4 in
Baby #3 edd 05/04/13 - Titus Jude born 05/01/13, 9 lb 5 oz. 21.5 in
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She doesn't trust modern medicine. She had a cold that turned into viral pneumonia when she worked at Starbucks with me and refused to go to the doctor until our manager said she had to have a cleared bill of health from a medical doctor before coming back to MAKE PEOPLE'S DRINKS.
I'm not even upset. Well, I am, but I'm not. I'm just shook up already from the last few days and I've been weepy as hell all day (DH should not have gone to work) and I've cried about her but just because I wish I wasn't dealing with any of this.
She's just crazy.
I missed all this but please do not take this to heart. I am a christian and I had to have a d & c because I hemoragged during my m/c and was going to DIE if I didn't. It's still considered abortion and it was not wrong.
Her judgement and gossip against you is actually a sin where as your procedure is not one so she can suck it on her way to he11.
What a fvcking nutbag. I just got caught up from today, and she is seriously off her rocker.
I'm so glad she talked to God about this and got His opinion. He told her not to judge, but also to let you know He's not okay with your choice. Good thing she's around to act as a middleman. ::eyeroll::
I'm so sorry this cvnt contacted you at all.
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Umm.....yes, she is delusional. Sorry again.
What did you DH say about all of this?
he doesn't know the whole story. I told him she's off her rocker but didn't explain what was going on. I haven't actually spoken to him today, I've been so weepy and I knew if I heard his voice I'd lose it.
He's on his way home now, I'm just gonna give him the email to read and let him see this stuff. He knows her through me so I'm sure he'll just say she's crazy and to block her on everything.
Wait, so it IS considered an abortion? Even if she was already passed? I mean, I don't think what I did was wrong at all. I am not a Christian, and so I'm not sure, I'm just ignorant about it. Explain?
Hi there, I am not a BOTB reg, but I have been following your story. So first I just want to say ((((HUGS)))). And I admire you. It's very obvious you are a strong woman.
Straight up, this chick is a fvcked up, crazy cvnt. The hell she so fervently believes in as a "Christian" is going to be her destination. Take solace in the fact that she is mentally ill and you are not.
She'll get hers someday.
I could be wrong but to abort just means to end/the removal of. It does not specify live or dead. On my insurance paperwork it said abortion which pissed me the hell off because I did not choose to abort my child but it had already been dead for three weeks and the hemoraging forced me to have the procedure.
I'm not sure what you had done but if it was a d&E or d&c it is probably still termed abortion in they medical terms but definately not in religious terms to my knowledge (atleast not by my church or any of the churches I've been to which have ranged in denomination but include Southern Baptist, Moravian, and no denom.).
The medical term is abortion. But it isn't the abortion that she is thinking it is. She probably wouldn't know a medical term if it reached up and smacked her in the cooter.
If it were me, I'd just ignore her. There is nothing you can say that is going to change her mind and all it's going to do is be upsetting to you.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Medically a D&C/D&E may be labeled as an abortion but when looking at the definitions, I would not consider what you did an abortion.
Abortion: the termination of a pregnancy
Pregnancy: the state of being pregnant; the period from conception to birth when a woman carries a developing fetus in her uterus.
You did what you had to do for your health and the health of future pregnancies. I know it is hard but I wouldn't waste your time letting this girl upset you. You are a strong woman and are better than that b!tch. It is "Christians" like her that can give Christians a bad name.