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Pulling hair and hitting?

LilliansMamaLilliansMama
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My daughter will be 1 year on the 29th of this month. She recently started hitting and pulling my hair when she gets mad. I am not sure how to react to this. First I slapped her hand and said no but I really dont think hitting to teach her to not hit is the best way. How would you deal with this? And if you say time out...Where and how long?
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  • operaapriloperaapril
    I take her hand and make her touch me gently and say, "No. Touch Mommy gently." And then I set her down. I hoping one day she'll get the point. Good luck!
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  • SportyMrs.23SportyMrs.23 member

    imageoperaapril:
    I take her hand and make her touch me gently and say, "No. Touch Mommy gently." And then I set her down. I hoping one day she'll get the point. Good luck!

    This is what I would do.  

    I think by hitting her hand, it would be rather confusing.  You are telling her not to hit and following up by hitting her hand.  So I would just say "gentle" and show her how to touch gently and then redirect her attention to something else.

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  • dragon_chicadragon_chica member
    You should say simple phrases like you're already doing.  "No" "Ow" "Mommy hurt" And if you want, briefly separate yourself so she sees that you won't play or be around her if she behaves that way.
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  • bim38106bim38106 member

    At this age, it's definitely not out of spite.

    What you need to do is show her how to be gentle. Tell her that's not ok to do, and remove her from the situation. She pulls your hair, you move her to the floor or move away.

    Time-outs mean nothing to them at this age. DD1 didn't really "get" it until around age 2, though we started a little here and there at 18 months. When you do start time-outs, it's typically 1 minute per age.

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  • mtnridermtnrider member
    imageSportyMrs.23:

    imageoperaapril:
    I take her hand and make her touch me gently and say, "No. Touch Mommy gently." And then I set her down. I hoping one day she'll get the point. Good luck!

    This is what I would do.  

    I think by hitting her hand, it would be rather confusing.  You are telling her not to hit and following up by hitting her hand.  So I would just say "gentle" and show her how to touch gently and then redirect her attention to something else.

    This is exactly what I do when DS hits and pulls the fur of our cats and dogs.  Fortunately he hasn't done it to us yet but I'm sure it will happen!

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