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Cuddling with a non-cuddly baby?

jodynjames2005jodynjames2005
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

Charlotte is my cuddler... likes to be held, gives lots of kisses, etc. Alice is my mover and shaker, always go-go-going. Crawling, rolling, bouncing, standing, etc. She won't even let us hold her when we give her a bottle or she screams, we have to do it in a Boppy and even then it's a battle because she doesn't want to sit still for the 5 mins it takes her to finish it!

I feel like Charlotte gets sooo many more cuddles because she wants them and lets us give them to her... and it makes me feel bad for Alice. But, how can I give her cuddles without making her mad? So, how do you cuddle a non-cuddly baby?

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  • CyrbiaCyrbia

    DS is not cuddly very often. I find that he's most affectionate when he's tired though so that's when I get the hugs and lovin's in.

    I'm also sure to rub his back when we play or hold his hand while he's eating. Little things like that.

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  • CariflyCarifly
    Penny generally hates to be held.  She is much happier on the floor, in her crib, etc.  Although she is happy standing on my lap.  I just try to interact with her the ways that she likes, and not get too hung up on the fact that she doesn't like to snuggle.  It just isn't her personality.  I still feel just as connected to her.  Although I do miss that cuddle time!
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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    Don't force it.  My older DD is 2 years and a few months and while she would cuddler more than your DD, she is not a cuddler.  The older she has gotten, the more she will cuddle though.  I don't push it and she comes to me to cuddle.  We sit next to each at night when we read but sometims she wants to cuddle.  My 7 month old is a total cuddler so I see what I missed with my odler DD.  What is interesting to me is that my odler DD wants to cuddle more now as she sees me cuddle her little sister.  I take what I can - I have always given her a ton of hugs and we have bonded in other ways.  She is a mover and always has been and we play that up and make "cuddling" part of our play but we keep it short.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    Ditto PP...  you don't!

    Some people just don't like/need touch as much as others.

    With Dylan the only cuddles I get are first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

    And..... when he's sick.

    It's just who he is! 

    You may want to check out the book "The 5 Love Languages of Children".  Interesting read - especially when your child seems to need love expressed in a way that's different from how you normally and naturally express it.

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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