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LILBIT1221
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Fan Club or Haters Committee? You decide.
LILBIT1221
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so.....I was lurking....stalking...whatever you want to call it...and apparently the "New wave of 3rd Tri" is not very well liked...hmmm apparently we don't talk ENOUGH about mucous plugs & Contractions and all of our "inside jokes" are repetitive and annoying...I am pretty sure that our mere prescense didnt make the other posts stop, perhaps...like most pregnant woman those who were here two weeks ago talking about those certain pregnancy topics....went off and delivered? MAYBE they are on 0-3 now? I dont know about you but I think that it is silly to think that just because our "clique" is here now on 3rd tri, nothing pregnancy related ever gets talked about. We never told people NOT to talk about "true" 3rd tri topics...did we? We just have a different view of how we want to spend the last few (in my case) miserable months...and frankly talking about my crotch snot is not how I want to spend my day!
Did my water just break?
Oh and I really want to know who got the Green Pumas! ha-ha
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Re: Fan Club or Haters Committee? You decide.
god, you guys are pretty self-obsessed.
i think you hit the nail on the head. people "graduate." the board content changes. life goes on. frankly, this is why i commented when you were all hanging out on second tri bitching about how boring third was... duh it was boring. there were only like 12 people here because you guys were afraid to move over.
I say don't stop what you guys are doing! You're bringing humor and entertainment to the boards :-) If they don't like it, that's their problem! You guys are actually honest about everything and if they want glitter farts when they ask questions or make a comment that may be flameful, they need to stay on their puppies and rainbows board. Just sayin..
Mikaela is going to have a little brother!
Like you I was lurking around the boards over the past couple days and I find it hilarious the "new wave" is such a hot topic! I was afraid when we all came over on Monday 3rd tri would be boring (as it usually was) and I'm so glad it's just like 2nd tri only better! I couldn't take it back there anymore with the same boring questions over and over.
I don't want to talk about my stretch marks or gas all day either so I'm glad we go off topic. That's a hell of a lot more fun!
The way I see it, if you don't like someone don't read their posts. No one is driving anyone else away. If you feel like you're driven out then that's a personal problem. Nuff said.
Over.
Just make sure you PIP everything that comes out so we can analyze it properly!
I have my outside baby and frankly the bump is boring... this is so much more entertaining!
I did start a new club when I was on 3rd tri called the "Wipe Watchers" and totally pass that on... someone made a badge too.
How is everyone today?
As someone who's almost an 'elder, ' I think my only frustration has been that if you haven't been part of this new group, it feels difficult to post any kind of message without getting some kind of snark back. If you post something happy, then you're p*ssing puppies and rainbows; if you are complaining, then you aren't grateful enough to be pregnant; and if you have a genuine issue that you just want to vent or ask about, some responses can be really quite harsh.
Don't get me wrong, I see the stupid that shows up sometimes. And I totally get this is a public board where thick skin is a bonus and you'll sometimes get what you deserve. The board is absolutely much more livelier for the 2nd tri migration this week. For the most part, I think the change has made it more fun, or at least more interesting and the day passes quicker. But some times I do think it's evolved to a bit of a high school feel (and I despised high school), and there are moments where I'm just too b*tchy and hormonal to want to deal with that. FWIW anyway...
We all probably just need more chocolate and daquiris anyway
Ally I'm good! Mikaela is a little fussy today but she's good now in my arms eating lol. How are you?
Mikaela is going to have a little brother!
perhaps it's pregnancy brain, but the mess you just typed really was a bunch of gibberish! No one was "scared" to move over here...it was just another of our "useless inside jokes"
And I prefer self absorbed thanks!
I think a lot of people are having a hard time adjusting to the new pace and tone of the board in general. It's not that new ladies are coming in, (though I do find it weird that people who are 16-24 weeks along are posting primarily on 3rd tri!?) but that's off topic...anyway, I think that A LOT of women are here for support, feedback, questions, etc. and it doesn't seem like the board is focused on pregnancy anymore. Instead it's a constant battle of snark, inside jokes, grammar corrections and overall rudeness.
I know that the 2nd tri "tweeners" (I think that's what you're called?) have a really close knit circle of girls who support each other, but I think some of the other women on the board feel left out and ganged up on.
Just my two pennies. I will continue to post here until I am no longer in 3rd tri. Sorry, you're stuck with me.
I love you too! *smooch*
And thats the thing, we all just joke around...there are times when things get deep, but for the most part....it's just that...FUN...people take life too seriously, if you get that worked up over something an internet stranger says...STAY OFF THE INTERNET! I have yet to figure out what part of "public forum" people dont get.
*looks around*
I fail to see mucous plug and labor talk ceasing just because there are early 3rd tri girls on the board... but admittedly, there are other conversations taking place--GASP!
I mean, it's like 2nd tri--there are still some NT scan/early screening conversations coexisting peacefully with anatomy scans, nursery prep, registering, etc. It's no biggie.
dont forget your camera!
I think the constant snarky posts and posts re: inside jokes can get annoying, which is why I rarely read them. I don't limit my displeasure to the posts by the "new wave of 3rd tri", whatever that means. There will be and always have been snarky and off-topic posts, they just seem more prevalent now for some reason. Some of the recent posts are downright funny while some are a waste of time and energy. To each their own.
My only real beef is when a snarky comment is made in response to what appears to be a valid, 3rd tri-related question. Like another poster mentioned, it seems like a clique often appears to offer harassing responses. Many of us are here to commiserate and to learn more about our pregancies. I get info here that I don't easily have access to IRL since (a) I don't have many pregnant friends, and (b) I don't have the time to ask my doctor (nor does she have time to answer) constant questions about everything that comes to mind. And google may be my friend, but google responses don't hold a candle to info from a person you can chat with about her experience.
Oh, and my only other personal beef--I get tired of the "unpopular opinion" posts and the "things I hate" posts and the "what's the meanest comment you've heard post" and otherwise ranty posts, which is why I don't read them. I try to be as optomistic as possible so I try to steer clear of the nastiness and b!tchiness. No disrespect to you or the "new wave of 3rd tri", just my thoughts on the board climate in general. Like you said, we may just have different views on how we want to spend the last few weeks/months/days of our pregnancies.
By the way, your "I have terrible gas" post is more along the lines of what I like from this board. I can totally relate.
hey girl...hows the boob? Need some coffee?
We are good, glad you could join us!
Well my mikayla is in my arms nursing away like a greedy little piglet.
I, however, am sorer than a MF today after an hour and a half with my trainer this morning
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I just put a pot on...
I hardly every agree with you but I agree with this thought.
And I think it is ridiculous that people are offended or feel left out b/c some of us are closer than others. I have known some of these women for years - literally. And others for 9 months - we talk outside of the board on a regular basis.
Of course I am going to stick with the people I know - and support them like I would my IRL friends (b/c let's face it - some of them are me IRL friends too).
Unless these people who feel left out make a point to make relationships they will always feel left out - but that isn't anyones fault but their own.
And I think we can all agree that there have been some pretty idiotic posts on this board lately - like yesterday's post about reading their monitor at the hospital - come on - ask your freaking nurse what is going on with your baby's heart rate and your contractions - not a message board. That is just crazy.
News flash: There is no turf war. ;-)
I'm confused--weren't we all on 2nd tri together at some point?
And I must be on glue because I haven't seen people ganging up on others or replying to valid questions with snark. I've seen some creative use of humor, but even those of us who migrated together clearly don't agree on everything (Anyone see the UO post from yesterday?)
The people on this board made me cry when I first joined. Just took me a while (2 days of whining about it to DH) to realize I was only upset because people didnt agree with me and I needed to get over that. Its not like anyone was going to come up to me at work or home and make sure I followed advice they gave or anything.
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I can see where you are coming from, and I am sure there are times we get carried away, but if you want me to play nice, toss the daquiri and give me tequila!
Mikaela is going to have a little brother!
Mmm... Tequila.
Mikaela is going to have a little brother!
Mikaela is going to have a little brother!
are you going the castor route? If so good luck! Hopefully you will not need it...I have seen what that mess can do!
Take all the tequila you want honey, more daquiri fun for me
awe but I love you just the way you are!
THAT being said...I do hope I have the energy AND ambition to work out after LO is born.
For me personally, I'm not worried about making bump friends. If a friendship IRL comes out of the bump, that's great, but ultimately I am here to pass the time, learn about pregnancy and see what other women are going through. I think I've learned more on the bump than I did in our child birth prep class. I don't have a lot of IRL friends who are pregnant or have children, so I can relate to ladies on the bump and save my friends the constant baby talk, and talk to them about other non-pregnancy/baby related things.
And agreed, people post some pretty stupid sh!t, but I do know people IRL who really don't have common sense, that is life! There are people out there who really do need things spelled out for them, I just try to do it in a more tactful way than others. I can be pretty sensitive sometimes, so I know that there are probably other women out there who feel the same way and I try to take that into consideration. But sensitivity on the bump = blowing glitter filled rainbows up your @ss. Not everyone has thick skin and people do have feelings. I guess that's just the way I was brought up.
i have to attempt to compete in a figure competition in 11 weeks.... prolly not gonna happen
But yes that's my problem... my lack of energy and ambition lol
Mikaela is going to have a little brother!
Mikaela is going to have a little brother!
yeah i know right! Good luck momma!
I think that the posts on here are more fun lately but that said...I think that if you just spend enough time reading past posts about MPlugs, BXHicks or other pregnancy related information you wouldn't have to post your own. Only once have I felt that a question I had wasn't answered previously so started a thread.
And if I don't like the direction of a post I take full advantage of the "back" button...