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Aubs13
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Am I unreasonable + Vent (sort of long)
Aubs13
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For the past two weeks, SD has been up north with my family. My parents take her for two weeks each summer to send her to a day camp in their area. (My entire family went to this camp, so my parents are carrying on the tradition.) I went up for the second week to visit family.
Last Friday (last day of camp) I received a call from the nurse that SD had fallen, twisted her ankle, and couldn't walk on it. I went to pick her up, and they recommended ice and possibly taking her to the ER to check it out, even though there was not a lot of bruising or swelling at the time.
I called DH and BM to let them know, and ask if they agreed I should take her to the ER. DH told me to use my judgement, BM didn't answer my calls. So, I ended up taking her in. After X-Rays, we learned she had not broken anything, but they ended up giving her a brace and crutches to "be careful." Our discharge papers gave the following instructions:
~Ice for 20 minutes 3-4 times per day while elevated
~Wear brace and do not put weight on ankle at any time
~Contact your ped. for a follow-up visit on Monday, August 2nd
When we left the ER, I called both DH and BM again. I listed all instructions to BM, and asked to make sure she would be making the appointment since we would be dropping SD at her house for a few days after our visit. (SD was back at BM's house on Saturday). I also copied the discharge papers for her and dropped them off when I dropped of SD.
Yesterday, BM calls (about another topic) and I ask how the DR appointment went. She informs me that she didn't have one. So, I ask when it will be. And her reply is, "If you want her to go to the doctor so bad, you make the appointment and take her. I have a life. If you want it, you do it." 
I'm so fed up with this, its not even funny. Of course, I will call DR today and take SD when I can, but I just get so frustrated!
Thanks for letting me vent....
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Re: Am I unreasonable + Vent (sort of long)
That is frustrating. If she had said that SD was moving around well and didn't have any additional pain and that's why she didn't take her, then I think that would have been reasonable. No need to snark.
IE is right - those instructions are usually a CYA. Her ped usually gets contacted that an injury occurred and it is a good idea to have them follow up to make sure nothing serious was lurking behind the initial injury. I'd bring her but it's not the end of the world if she didn't as long as she didn't have any additional symptoms pop up.
Although I agree with PP, BM's carefree attitude would irritate me. Especially when you are trying to do the right thing. If you think its the right thing to do, then by all means I would take her in.
Similar situation/ sort of... Last week I took SS to get his sports physical, and he did a brief eye exam off a chart on the wall. I have great vision with contacts on. SS could not read very far down the chart, and the doctor suggested we follow up w/ and actual eye doctor.
SS called his mother, and she said "Oh no, no son of mine is wearing glasses. You had your eyes examined two years ago and it was 20/20!"
So..... yeah.
While I agree with pp's, I also see where you're coming from on this. I tend to be a worry wart and would follow-up with the pedi thinking that if I didn't something would be wrong and she would never walk again.
But I think that as long as no new symptoms creep up and she's healed nicely, there's no need to waste a co-pay.
This.
Unless the kid is hobbling around in pain and misery or it's gotten worse, I don't understand why you're butthurt. God forbid her mother make a judgement call regarding her child's health.
Click me, click me!
I'm not really butthurt....just irritated that its turned into a "I have a life" situation. I have a life, too, but I rearrange things if need be to do what's right for my SD. If BM had said that she was getting better, and things seemed to be fine, that would be one thing. But, she didn't. In fact, she called right before we picked SD up to tell us she thinks the bruising is getting worse. I had plans, and "a life" this week, too, but plans change when a child needs something.