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Can a girl get some (((hugs))) ?

belle204belle204 member
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I'll keep it short b/c I'm tired of talking about it. I'm not letting A go visit her dad & his other kids and go to the beach ... and he told me to forget it when he couldn't get his way. He won't give me any details on where they would be specifically, who would be going and the contact of another person besides himself. I told him they were reasonable requests and of course I would worry with her 8 hrs away. Anyway, I'm SO sick of him claiming to love her so much and wanting to have a relationship with her but not wanting to follow any rules but his own. Anytime I say anything it's me "being difficult" or "being a b*tch" or "trying to keep him from being a father to her" and the list goes on. She doesn't know any different. She just knows she wants to see her daddy and siblings. I feel like I can't win and I'm tired of crying about it. What kind of man can't do those few things for the sake of seeing his child he claims to love so much and want the best for? Why would it be ok to make me worry? I'm going to try to make it up to her and find something super fun so hopefully she forgets about it. I love my baby and I wish I hadn't saddled her with a jacka$s for a sperm donor. {Whoa. Guess I had more to say than I thought! Sorry}
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  • DarthNBJenniDarthNBJenni
    What a jerk. I always ask what the girls will be doing, where they are going, etc. He gets his panties in a wad and says "hey, I don't ask you" and I always retort "that's because you either don't care, or know I do a fanfvckingtastic job of raising them on my own"

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  • daudetkdaudetk
    *HUGS* Stand your ground, my dear!! 
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  • MominatorMominator
    {{{Hugs}}} I'm sorry sweetie. He is being a total dickweed.
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  • belle204belle204 member
    I told him the same thing when he said that crap to me. And, if his new trick is going to be there then so be it. Just f'n say so. Then he wants to tell me he has just as much right and responsibility as I do. Riiiight. That's why you make an effort to come see her. Four times in five years (only 1 trip here) is hardly commendable.
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  • kirbearkirbear member
    Hugs... So sorry he is being difficult like this.  You did not ask for anything unreasonable at all- don't let him make you question yourself one bit!  If seeing her was so important to him he'd provide you with that information.  I hope you and A have a wonderful time doing something fun. She may have a loser for a father, but she has a wonderful mommy!
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  • mrgnmrgn member

    If X asked you where you were going (you know, if he cared), would you tell him? I'm sure you would, you're a reasonable woman!

     

    Oh! And... HUGHUGHUG!!

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  • belle204belle204 member
    Thanks ladies. You are most certainly right that I would tell him if he asked. Ok, last whine about it. Puttin' on my big girl panties and moving on.
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  • tenretnitenretni

    Dispite how down you feel and hard you are on yourself for feeling down, you made the right choice for sure. 

    You should be proud that dispite all you've been put through and deal with, that you can make rational decisions, you are a strong momma!

    There is nothing wrong with wanting to know the plans, contact info etc.  There is no way I would have let my child go either.

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  • achase123achase123
    Sorry mama!  He sucks.  ((BIG HUGS))  That is all.
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