Why don't people appreciate what they have?

RFBsbride · August 2010

God, I really just can't take my Aunt anymore. She is my Aunt by marriage, but she married my uncle like 4 years before I was born so she's always been in my life. I've never really had any respect for her, but since I see her so seldom (maybe twice a year) I put my feelings for her aside and have a civil relationship with her. My mother's sister was severely developmentally handicapped and lived in a home for most of her life, so this aunt is really the only aunt I've known

Anyway, she has three sons - my only three cousins - and they are all younger than me. The oldest is married, has one SON and another SON on the way. In my aunt's eyes, he is the center of the universe. He can do no wrong and the fact that he has given her two grandsons is just the most wonderful thing in the world.

The middle cousin is also married and has one DAUGHTER and is trying for baby #2. (This is the cousin I posted about last night who sent me an invitation to his daughter's 1st b-day party when he lives 1500 miles away.) Anyway, my aunt wants NOTHING to do with her granddaughter. When she found out my cousin was having a girl she told him she was "sorry" and he's on his own with "that one." The baby is almost 1 and my aunt has only met her once, she wouldn't go to her the baby shower for her, the Christening and won't be going to the 1st birthday party She refers to the baby as "That Kid", but she calls her grandsons her "Little Princes".

My youngest cousin is about to get married to his Baby Mama. They have yet to find out the sex of their unborn child, but my Aunt told him to only call her if it's a boy cause if it's a girl, she doesn't care.

Nice huh? As much as my cousin's drive me nuts, I'm heartbroken for their daughter(s) - the fact that their own grandmother won't love them simply because they were born girls makes me sick to my stomach. It also angers me that she says all this to my mother who would do anything to have a grandchild - boy OR girl - and would love that child to death! My aunt has no brain in her thick skull and doesn't realize the wonderful thing she has.

I told my mother I'm officially distancing myself from her... I can't be around someone who's so ridiculously ignorant.

Thanks for listening....

lavitabella17 · August 2010

Ugh, I'm sorry your family drama continues...and she should be totally ashamed of herself for being so incredibly stupid and sexist. You should feel blessed that you have a wonderfully supportive Mommy, reading that makes me thankful for my Mom. Sorry to hear all that bs!!!

Rachael07.07.07 · August 2010

What a toxic woman to be around. I feel so sorry for the granddaughters and for their parents who have to deal with her negativity towards them. I think it's a good idea to distance yourself from her. You don't need asshats like that in your life at all!

RFBsbride · August 2010

Rachael07.07.07:
What a toxic woman to be around.

You have no idea how dead-on this description is! My aunt is a chain-smoker like you wouldn't believe. This is not an exaggeration - she smokes 3 packs a day! So I guess those granddaughters are lucky they won't be exposed to endless second-hand-smoke! It amazes me that none of my cousins ever picked up the disgusting habit... but I digress.