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OMG need advice ASAP! Daughter is screaming as we speak!

karagirlykaragirly
in Toddlers: 24 Months+
Ok so my 3 yr old was in underpants this morning and finally sat down and pee'd on the potty. it was great and i threw her a little party. after nap she woke up and i put her underpants on and then she pooped in them. i told her i wanted her to sit on the potty to let the poop fall in there so she could see where it goes. I dumped it and then left her commando. She began screaming PLEASE MOMMY PLEASE! DIAPER! (she is HATING being naked) so i said when you pee pee and poo poo in the potty i will put your underpants back on. Then she started grabbing her privates and saying please mommy its broken! and she is crying hysterically. Is it damaging to let her be naked like this? she seems so desperate and upset? Do i put the underpants back on? Please help!!!!
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  • Brit&NateBrit&Nate
    I'm not an expert, but you want to make PTing a positive experience. I would put her diaper back on and try another way. You do not want to get into a battle of wills with a 3 year old. 
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  • CHI-06CHI-06 member
    I would not put a diaper back on...how is that going to help with potty training.  I would let her put her undies on though why should she be naked?  and why were they off at nap?  I believe that diapers should be gone completely if you're potty training...it is confusing for them otherwise.  I would not say something like this 'when you pee pee and poo poo in the potty i will put your underpants back on'  Keep it all positive... praise and rewards...that comment makes it seem like she is in trouble for not using the potty. 
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  • KNS_61805KNS_61805 member
    I wouldn't put diapers back on, but if she doesn't like being naked I would put underwear on. 
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  • June2007June2007 member
    I would let her put panties back on. I agree that you shouldnt scold her for an accident. DD would say "oops, sorry panties" and I would say "its ok, we'll try again!" Then we would tell the new pair of panties 'im not going to pee/poo in you, ok panties?' It was especially helpful if she messed up panties that had one of her favorite characters on them (elmo!) and then we would have to wear plain panties until the elmo ones were cleaned.
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  • PeskyPesky member
    I would put underwear back on and say "Let's try again.  You're learning so I'll ask you to check in and see if you feel like you need to go potty now and again.  And if you do, let's go."  For DD, the poop thing took a bit longer because it is a different sensation.  I just had to remind DD that it would feel better once she pooped in the potty, upped the reward (a Hershey's kiss or Lindt truffle instead of a m&m or skittle) and encouraged her to work hard and listen for the ploop sound (gross, I know but it works).  I agree though -- try not to make it a negative experience. 


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  • karagirlykaragirly
    ok...i wasnt scolding...i was saying it in a very loving way. im learning too and its hard. but i agree and i ended up giving her the underpants back of course. my bad
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  • kgail11kgail11 member

    Put the undies back on. Is she hates it, she hates it - this isn't doing anything to making potty training a FUN positive time.

    DS also hated being naked - and I too did what you are doing - thinking it would click faster, but it just pissed him off about all of it, so I didn't do it. I know it's hard and confusing .. but it'll get better, PROMISE!!!! :)

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  • LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member

    Damaging? Not likely, but if it is that upsetting, it could disrupt any potential headway you've made, I bet.  My DD asked for undies and that started pt.  She was in undies for 2 weeks before peeing on the potty, and I just used that time to first get her to tell me she had an accident, then she'd tell me she needed to go and I helped and then finally she began going on her own.  Poop took another 2 weeks.  But with all those accidents, she did learn to get her underwear down and on by herself.  You could use her desire to wear underwear as an opportunity to learn to do it by herself.  But I agree, that now that you've started, no more diapers.  We use pullups at bedtime, but they are her "Dora special underwear."  Good luck!

    ETA: I never made her sit on the potty- I just asked her periodically to try to tell me if she "got the feeling." 

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