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Vent: My mom still can't spell DD's name correctly

Ugh, DD is 2.5 and my mom still spells her name wrong. It's Brigid. Yeessss, I know it's not the typical American spelling, but it's not hard.  I don't care if I named her Brihignaeiuahet84, you're the grandmother -- learn it! 

For what it's worth, we knew when we named her that people would often times misspell it.  Both DH & I have names that are often misspelled, so I know what it's like.  But I never thought my own mother would be the worst culprit. 

 Ok, vent over.

Re: Vent: My mom still can't spell DD's name correctly

  • thats not that hard to spell...

    maybe she just needs a gentle reminder?

    Or maybe she is doing it to raise some banter?

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  • "I don't care if I named her Brihignaeiuahet84, you're the grandmother -- learn it!" <-- this made me laugh. We had a similar experience with our girl and my mom - she sent me a letter she wrote at 2 in the morning, and she spelled my kiddo's name three different ways. E was a year old when this happened, so yeah, that sucked. If it helps, she knows it now.

    And you could have given her this spelling with an H and really thrown her off. :)

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  • I have lots of family members who still spell my name wrong (Ana instead of Anna and my middle name with an "i" instead of the "y" my parents chose to Americanize it) and I'm way older than 2.5. It comes with the territory of using a less accepted spelling. Just try to gently keep reminding her, but she may never internalize it. My grandmother never did and I know she loved me all the same.
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  • That's frustrating!  I love Brigid by the way, it's on my list :)
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  • as grandma, I think she really SHOULD get it right.

    I get aggravated with my cousins who gave their children different/difficult spellings of their kid's names, which I look up to make sure I spelled right when we send cards, yet they can't bother to look up my kid's name?  I mean, really....

    But, sometimes I wonder if people do it on purpose just to make a point that they don't like the spelling I gave ;P  Screw them.

    However, in the end, the only people I feel SHOULD get a talking to for misspellings are grandparents.  Friends and extended family are different in my mind.

  • I'm 26 and my grandmother doesn't spell Caitlin correctly with any consistency.

    Also, my little sister's name is Brighid (throw in a silent-ish h for good measure). I never asked her whether Grandma spells her name correctly, but I should check that out!

    To be fair, my grandmother doesn't like any of our names (except one ? my brother Benjamin is named after Grandpa). My other brothers are Graham and Wheeler (family name, but not from Grandma's side). For years, she called them Joseph and Anthony because she hated their names. No, those aren't their middle names ? they were born around those saints' days. It was weird.

    We laugh about it, but none of us has ever had a warm and fuzzy relationship with her.

  • I think I am a person like your mom! I have a newphew whose name is "Wyatt". That is easy enough to spell, right? However, my sister-in-law spelled it different than that and I can NEVER remember how it is actually spelled! All I remember is that there is an "h" in there somewhere.

     Whyatt or Wyahtt or Wyhatt... I don't know!!!

    But, Brigid does not seem that difficult to spell. I am sure she will learn with time Yes. Just keep reminding her everytime she spells it incorrectly. Or, tell her to write it down somewhere so when she needs to write it on something she can reference the correct way to spell it.


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    For years, she called them Joseph and Anthony because she hated their names. No, those aren't their middle names ? they were born around those saints' days. It was weird.

    lol. this sounds like something my grandmother would do.

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  • This would drive me absolutely crazy. I'm one of those really annoying people that has to bite my tongue to keep from correcting others' pronunciations and spellings. It would be absurdly frustrating for me if my mother couldn't spell my daughter's name; I don't have any advice because, thankfully, this hasn't happened to me, but I sincerely hope your mother gets the hang of it in the near future.
  • Grandmothers HAVE to spell their grandbabies names correctly, its like a law or something. Make some stickers and send them to her! LOL
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  • In high school I once wrote a paper for child psych using my cousin Brigid as my subject.  I let my friend Brittany come along and she wrote her paper on Brigid too but she spelled it Bridget in her paper.  Guess who got marked for the "incorrect spelling"?  And the teacher knew it was my cousin.  So annoying.

    This is totally something my mom will do - get LO's name spelled wrong.  She didn't even bother to spell my nickname right until this year (I'm an Alison, nn Aly - she spells it Ali) and I about fell off my chair when she got it right this year.  I'm 36. 

  • I'm 29 and I don't think my mom's parents have ever spelled my name correctly. And I have a common name (at least, common for my generation) and use the most common spelling. Life goes on.
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  • My grandma couldn't spell my name. I have a really common name. She wrote on the backs of several pictures my name wrong. I think there were a few different spellings as well. I think that's why she went with a nickname finally.
  • You'd think a grandma would at least know how to spell it.

    My grandma keeps spelling my DH's name wrong. I have to keep reminding her that I married a boy not a girl. But its great cause I get to pick on DH when she does it.

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  • That SUCKS and I don't actually think Brigid is that unintuitive or hard to spell.

    That being said, it's because of stuff like this that I pretty much vow not to choose a non-standard spelling of a name. I'm NOT saying this is your fault--your mom has NO EXCUSE for misspelling your daugther's name ever, but I'm just saying that I want to avoid that issue in strangers or other encounters if I can.

     

    Edited: Come to think of it, my grandmother got my name wrong at least some of the time. In fact, once she gave me this entire monogrammed set of silver beauty products (brush, mirror, etc...my sisters got them too) and it had the wrong initial. It was annoying but I just thought, "oh well, she's old." It wasn't that bad from the kid's perspective...but I'd be pissed if my mom got my kid's name wrong.


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  • It probably won't make you feel better - but my grandfather never said my name correctly in the 18 years of my life he was around.  I do remember it, but it's not like he loved me less.

    But yes, your mother should know how to spell her granddaughter's name.

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    Thanks for all the support, ladies!    I don't think she's doing it on purpose, but she has complained that we didn't give our kids "American" names Confused.  When we first told her DS's name (Ronan) she said, "Oh that's too hard, I'll just call him John". Thankfully she never did -- and she's never misspelled it either.  

    I really like the idea of getting her something that has DD's name on it! 

  • My own family spells my name wrong as Kristen when it's Kristin. It definitely bothers me.
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    I'm 26 and my grandmother doesn't spell Caitlin correctly with any consistency.

    Also, my little sister's name is Brighid (throw in a silent-ish h for good measure). I never asked her whether Grandma spells her name correctly, but I should check that out!

    To be fair, my grandmother doesn't like any of our names (except one ? my brother Benjamin is named after Grandpa). My other brothers are Graham and Wheeler (family name, but not from Grandma's side). For years, she called them Joseph and Anthony because she hated their names. No, those aren't their middle names ? they were born around those saints' days. It was weird.

    We laugh about it, but none of us has ever had a warm and fuzzy relationship with her.

    I love this story.

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