I know this is probably stupid but I just need to vent (names mentioned)

Ashley858 · July 2010

One of the hardest parts of all this (for me at least) is sitting back and waiting for my time while every day I see a FB update on family members who are pregnant announcing their name choice and have to cross it off of my list, and thinking if one of my pregnancies had worked out we wouldn't be loosing out on using many of the names we have talked about.

I know names are not a huge deal and two people can have the same names in a family, but when they pick a first and middle name combo that I have talked about since I was a little girl dreaming of this time of my life, it hurts a little.

I know they didn't do it to be hurtful or purposefully pick it because we had it down as a top runner, I'm just being super sensitive about it I guess. But I can't help but feeling like by the time we get to the point of picking out names there will already be people we know who have kids with the same names.

Thanks for just letting me vent.

AppleRidge · July 2010

Names, and what they represent, are a big deal. I have also lost our chosen name to a FH cousin, and it sucks.

babygirlpriest · July 2010

Oh sweetie I FEEL YA!!

We only really fell in love with a few girl names. I've got two close friends who are effing not finding out the gender which means I'm clenching my ass cheeks for another 6 months hoping it's a boy.

Sorry about the names thing hon. It's salt in the wound and it's not silly that it hurts.

Scout05 · July 2010

:::hugs:::

butterfly843 · July 2010

Sending hugs. It was so hard for dh and I to find names we both agreed on and it hurts to see others using them.

Ashley858 · July 2010

I think what makes it so sad to me is the fact that it was their wedding that I was at the day I started the cycle of my first pregnancy. I think about how I should already have the baby that would have possibly had that name. DH talked about how that would be his name (if it had been a boy), he loves that name and still talks about it all the time.

I have no one IRl to talk to about this and how it hurts to think about, and I think you ladies so much for being a shoulder for me to lean on when I am down. You girls are wonderful.

Ashley858 · July 2010

YES! This is one of the TWO boy names we both like.

babes12 · July 2010

names are definitely difficult and definitely hurts when someone chooses the name you want. (

i pray everytime i find out someone is pg. that they don't choose a girls name i like b/c i have only found two that i really like. thankfully i haven't been put in that position yet.

i hope you can have a name you really want when the time comes (which is hopefully very soon). ((hugs))

dondraandluis · July 2010

I understand what you mean and agree. It does suck. I'm sorry hon (((hugs)))

sweetgirl425 · July 2010

I don't think it's stupid!! It definitely sucks!! My H's sister-in-law is using my top girl name and it stings quite a bit!!!

HugginAngel · July 2010

Why can't you name your angels those names this way they will always be yours!! No one can take that away from you.

Pixiestx · July 2010

That really sucks. I remember feeling a little disappointed when my nephew was named a couple years before we got married b/c it was a name we had both liked, I can't imagine watching them go by just in the time you've been trying. Don't feel bad though, I have a friend who is due in Dec after dealing with IF. I got pg when she had just started her first of 7 IUI's. She's having a boy and the one boy's name I really love would work perfectly for her but I'm really hoping that she doesn't use it.

TravelinMama · July 2010

::::hugs::::

For what it's worth, I think it's a big deal. I put a lot of thought into LO's name (and my DS's) so I think you have every right to be a bit upset about it.

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