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I'm just going to spill it.
I am scared I will be judged, but hopefully you guys will understand it was a mistake and no one can be more upset at me than I am at myself.
Today was so nice out, so I took the boys to the park.Sawyer was in the front seat of the double stroller, and jack was walking. We went on the walking trail that goes around the lake, we fed the ducks, looked at the turtles, etc. It was fun!
There was this red bird we kept spotting along the way, so when I saw him again under a tree ahead. I stopped the stroller and showed Jack by pointing under the tree to the bird.
Next thing I heard was "Splash!"
my worst fear. Sawyer rolled into the lake, buckled into his seat. I dove in, flipped the stroller and un buckled Sawyer as fast as I could.
Jackson was screaming, "Mommmm-meeeeee, you aren't wearing your bathing suit!!" and "Can I come?!?" (about made my crazy!) Typical three year old to have absokutely no concept of the severity of this situation.
Anyways, Sawyer was fine. He was more scared than anything, and the was only in the water for literally 4 seconds.
We were both covered in the nastiest green fish poopy water ever. My shoes broke underwater and my foot is cut pretty bad from a rock.
I had Jackson take off his shirt and I stripped Sawyer down and put J's shirt on him. Sawyer still really seemed fine, no crying or anything.
Luckily this nice man helped me by holding Sawyer so I could go back into the water. (yuck yuck, nasty, yuck) and get my stroller and the other items that were floating away.
We had to walk to the whole rest of the 1/2 mile trail soaking wet, no shoes. One kid with no shirt, the other with no pants and get in the car. Jackson fake cried most of the way because we had to go home and not to the plaground.
I got home and go baths for everyone and now they are both sound asleep.
I have checked on Sawyer 4 times.
The weird thing is, I don't know what happened. I always put on the brake, it's just habit. Sonmehow it didn;t work? Or there was too much of an incline? I don't know.I just feel terribly guilty.
I am so thankful my baby is okay... and that hubby will be home soon because i'd like a glass of wine.
Thanks for listening, I knew I could count on you girls.
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Re: I'm just going to spill it.
You know what, I don't judge you one bit. From everything that I've read over the past couple years you are a GREAT mom. Now I'm not a mom yet, but I think sometimes things like this just happen. Like you said you're villigent about putting on the break so this was probably just a freak accident and does not in any way reflect your skills as a mother. Both your boys are fine and healthy and I think that says that you are a great mother.
My mother put ear drops in my sister's eyes one time. I remember that she was just completely distraught and beat herself up for it and guess what? My sister was and is completely fine, she's not blind and we can tease my mother about it now. Just think in a couple years you can tease Jack about how he whined about not going to the playground when his brother just had to take a swim in the lake!
Seriously, I'm glad that everyone's alright and it sounds like you need to give yourself a large glass of wine tonight and remind yourself that yourself that you are a fabulous mother (and super hero for diving into a gross lake to save your child and your stroller!)
Oh my gosh, do not feel guilty about this! Sometimes I push the stroller brake and it doesn't go all the way down. It's probably not even something you could have helped! It sounds so scary, but everyone was safe and fine and they won't remember it.
Now, if you hadn't noticed Sawyer had rolled into the lake, then I would judge. But accidents happen, and you did notice and handled it quickly and without panicking, which makes you a good mom in my book.
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oh how scary! i'm so happy everyone is okay and thank god you noticed right away!!
unfortunately accidents happen. no comparison to your sons life but i remember one time I had parked my car on an incline, put the emergency brake on, and put it in park. i got out of the car and something malfunctioned and it rolled backwards down the hill and hit my neighbors car. so you can't blame yourself and think that you are a bad mother like pp said unfortunately accidents happen! As a matter of fact it shows how wonderful of a mom you are; you have your sons out, interacting with them, and showing them new things.
I?m sure this is going to take awhile to shake off but just be happy everybody is alright. I know a lot easier said than done
oh sweetie, sometimes those breaks just don't work very well. He is fine but I bet you are still scared to death. I am sending a big hug your way!!!
Oh my...you poor thing! It seems like the perfect storm of events that just lead to a very scary accident. I'm happy Jack didn't go in after you.Your boys were in the best hands they could have been in the whole time. You're one of the best mommies I know. Get that glass of wine or more tonight. You deserve to drink some of those worries away. HUGS!
Yikes Melissa, that sounds terrifying. I'd like to think I'd be as strong as you were in that situation -- I think you showed a lot of bravery! I'm so glad Sawyer is OK. I'm laughing out loud picturing Jack fake crying all the way home, because that is TOTALLY what Justin would do -- and then he would slug Tyler because it was all his fault.
Being a mom is SO hard, and bad things are just gonna happen once in a while. You passed the test with flying colors, so breathe and enjoy your wine. Hugs!!!
Tyler Anthony arrived on 9.21.09
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That is the true definition of an accident. I'm glad both boys are okay. No judgement here.
I'm going to make a post about something TRULY STUPID I did today.
I'm new around these parts and don't know you or your back story but I'd venture to guess you didn't do it on purpose. You acted quickly, kept your cool and got the baby out ASAP. I think that makes you a GOOD mom. Everyone else is right. Accidents happen!
Funny story. Went on a blind date in HS and when we got to the movie theatre my date pulled into a parking spot and I got out while he got in the center consol to get his wallet. He gets out and closed the door. Car starts rolling forward, still on. He was so nervous he forgot to put the car in park and turn it off. It was scary and first but laughable now.
Anyway, Don't worry about it. and enjoy your wine!
Oh poor mama! I am so sorry you went through that -- it sounds so scary. That does not mean you were a bad mom -- you did everything right once Sawyer went in! Don't beat yourself up about it.
(I know I once fell in a fountain at McAlpin's when I was a kid. It can happen to anyone.)
Accidents happen. End.of.story.
I am so sorry you had to deal with the anxiety of thinking you would be judged here.
You obviously love your sons very much which is more than apparent in all of your posts.
You reacted immediately and that's what matters. You were alert enough to know that's where the splash came from.
Breathe. :-)
((HUGS)) You must have been so scared, I would have been too. But really honey, it happened and it is over. Please don't spend any more time on this. I know, for me, I spend hours, days and even weeks thinking about "what ifs" but you just can't. He is okay and he won't even remember this. (HUGS)
I am so so sorry.
Accidents happen and you handled it very well! You did everything right and you are a great mom! Don't beat yourself up too much! You saved your son from drowning! You are a hero in my book!
Oh my gosh, Melissa!! I would have been just as scared as you were! Thank goodness everyone is okay! You have every right to be upset with yourself--that's what we mom's do!--but you have to realize it was an accident. You are the most loving and attentive mother to your two beautiful boys...that's why you jumped in to the nasty-ass water without a second thought to rescue your boy!
Hope you enjoyed a few glasses of wine to relax last night!
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You poor thing. I am sure you are still shaken up over everything. You are a wonderful mom and that could have happened to anyone. It was a complete accident and you saved his life. I hope you were able to relax last night with your wine and husband. So glad to hear everyone is ok.
You are not a bad mom! These things happen! You are a good mom because you reacted the way that any good mom should and you acted quickly and got Sawyer out safely.
I did get a nice little laugh though out of you guys walking back to the car without shoes, covered in green fish poopy water with Jack being upset that he couldn't go to the playground.
Awww..sweetie! You are not a bad mommy! It is not like your threw him and the stroller in there and you went after him which is a good mommy :-) That is just sooo weird that that could have happened. It just makes us all rethink the brakes on strollers and to make sure they get pushed all the way down! I know this will help me remember to look twice. I am soooo glad you are all okay and just remember that you are a GREAT mommy and this can happen to any of us! HUGS!!!
ETA: I would have been scared too so glad all is okay. Also, I thought this was going to say you were pregnant again, LOL! I was gonna wonder why you hadn't told me yet, hehe :-)
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DS born 2.14.08. DD born 9.30.09.
We've all had our incidents that made us feel like terrible, awful, no good very bad parents, and we're all still here to tell about it. I'm so sorry that happened to you, it must have been terrifying. You're such a good mom to those boys, it's plenty obvious from your posts, and I don't think anyone would ever judge another mom for an accident like that.
Hope you're feeling better about things today!
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