On the other side

Courted · July 2010

We are in Chicago visiting some of DH's family and last night he told his cousin that I was PG. I didn't want him to, but he is very close to her and he wanted to take advantage of the beign able to tell people in person since we are here. Well, she is like 15 yrs older than me, never had kids, and when was married a long time ago, was unable to get PG. However, she pursued IF treatments and went on with life. I saw her face when DH told her...I felt so bad, like guilty. I felt like I was on the other side of the IF fence. She know we went through IVF to get PG, but I don't know her enough at all to talk/console to her. I don't think she ever came out of the IF closet or came to the acknoledgement of it, She just stopped by last night, so we won't see her again, but I feel bad.

dundasgirl · July 2010

I know how you feel. While on vacation a friend of mine confided in me that they have been trying for 3 years.

pinkcallalily · July 2010

I know the feeling, my cousin & his wife have been unable to get pregnant. It took us 3 1/2 years to get pregnant, but I still felt so bad telling them even though they did seem very excited for us (and they don't know that I know they've been ttc). I'm not sure what my cousin is doing, but I think they might be trying to save up for adoption because he jokingly made a comment once about needing $35K to have a baby (we aren't close enough for me to ask details and I only know they've been trying for a long time because my Grandma can't keep a secret).

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