Clothes for babies born very early? ( Warnng:DS PIS)

sabrina69barnes · July 2010

A friend of mine had a late loss recently. Her EDD is comming up in Sept. I've been trying to think of something to do to honor her son. I want to do something more personal than just making a donation somewhere. I know how to sew so I was thinking about making some hats and blankets and maybe some gowns for babies born really early. Does anyone know where I could find patterns this small? Blankets would be really easy but I have no idea what sizes to make hats and gowns.

elisbu · July 2010

Is this EDD for the baby she lost?

If it is, please don't do this. If someone made me baby clothes that I can't use because I lost my baby, it would be heartbreaking!!!! Broken Heart

If it's for a new baby, then I would jo-ann fabrics.

Is this MUD??

Edit: Okay, now I uderstand after reading some other replies.

I think it's a beautiful idea! I wish I knew where you could get patterns!

lindsay.lou · July 2010

Who is going to be wearing this clothing?

owenst · July 2010

Assuming these are for premies or stillborn babies at the hospital, I believe Lion Brand Yarn might have patterns like this. You could probably also google or ask at your local hospital. That's very sweet of you to donate your time and talent like this.

a&b=him&me · July 2010

Are youlooking to donate these clothes to people who need them? Would she prefer that you do this instead of focusing on her LO? If she is into volunteering and helping other babies in need maybe you can talk to her about what something shes been wanting to do but hasn't had the time or resources and help in that manner.

If not, I would do something geared towards her baby, maybe rememberance jewelry, dinner, and give her someone to talk to.

michrocc · July 2010

I get what you're saying...you'd like to make clothes for premature babies as a means of honoring her LO. I think it's a sweet gesture, but only if she isn't aware of it. Does that make sense? Like, if it means a lot to you to donate clothing to premature babies, you could do so as a means of honoring her LO for yourself. I don't think it would be appropriate, however, to present these clothes to your friend. I think that seeing these clothes would be far too painful for her and remind her of what she lost.

But if it's something you're doing symbolically, that she won't know about, I think it's fine.

michrocc · July 2010

lrachelle80:
michrocc:

I get what you're saying...you'd like to make clothes for premature babies as a means of honoring her LO. I think it's a sweet gesture, but only if she isn't aware of it. Does that make sense? Like, if it means a lot to you to donate clothing to premature babies, you could do so as a means of honoring her LO for yourself. I don't think it would be appropriate, however, to present these clothes to your friend. I think that seeing these clothes would be far too painful for her and remind her of what she lost.

But if it's something you're doing symbolically, that she won't know about, I think it's fine.

Oh, I would want to know! But maybe not see the clothes themselves...maybe a card letting her know that you're working on this project in honor of her little one?

Yeah, I thought about that, too. I guess it would depend on the person and what your relationship to them was. I just would be wary of it coming across in a way it wasn't intended. I don't know how to explain it. I think it's okay to let the person know, if you word it properly. But I definitely wouldn't show them the clothes.

sabrina69barnes · July 2010

I wanted to make stuff and give it to the hospital. My friend is very pro life so I want to do something for babies that didn't survive no matter how early they were lost. She said that the hat they had for her son was way to big for him and how she wished they had something small enough for him so that's where I got the idea. Her son was born at 27 weeks but I was wanting to make stuff for babies maybe as early as 15/16 weeks.

sabrina69barnes · July 2010

lrachelle80:

sabrina69barnes:
I wanted to make stuff and give it to the hospital. My friend is very pro life so I want to do something for babies that didn't survive no matter how early they were lost. She said that the hat they had for her son was way to big for him and how she wished they had something small enough for him so that's where I got the idea. Her son was born at 27 weeks but I was wanting to make stuff for babies maybe as early as 15/16 weeks.

I think that's a sweet, darling idea. I might call the hospital and ask if they have a cutoff/recommendation for when people are able to see or not see their babies - I know that the doctor I talked to said he recommended it after 18 weeks but not necessarily before that. I don't know if this will help you, but Caleb was born at 19 weeks and was 9.5 inches long head to toe and 9.5 ozs.

I just called. The nurse I talked to said that women deliver as early as 14 weeks and she gave me some measurements to go off of.

millejj1 · July 2010

I think that is a really sweet idea. Maybe an organization like the preemie project would be a good resource for you.

https://www.thepreemieproject.com/

roxyttandme · July 2010

Are you really asking the ladies of this board to help you locate patterns for passed babies? Wow.... perhaps my bitter bug has bit me in the @ss today... but this is pretty insensitive of you... don't you think?

leneae10 · July 2010

ygpm

I am guessing that your heart is sincere, but I do give the side-eye to this questions' appropriateness on a board where women are doing some serious grieving.

Here's the link for anyone else interested of the organization who provided my boys burial gowns and hats: https://threadsoflove.org/

Scout05 · July 2010

sabrina69barnes:
I wanted to make stuff and give it to the hospital. My friend is very pro life so I want to do something for babies that didn't survive no matter how early they were lost. She said that the hat they had for her son was way to big for him and how she wished they had something small enough for him so that's where I got the idea. Her son was born at 27 weeks but I was wanting to make stuff for babies maybe as early as 15/16 weeks.

I think the idea is sweet.

I do not think this was an appropriate board at all (why wouldn't you ask on Preemies? Would have made much more sense, to my mind). But still, a lovely idea.

HOWEVER...

WTH does being pro-life have to do with anything? I'm pro-choice. Shock, this does not = pro-death as well.

Just because I don't believe in governing over a woman's reproductive freedom doesn't mean I want pre-mature babies to have hats that are too big for them.

Sheesh.

betizzle73 · July 2010

roxyttandme:

Are you really asking the ladies of this board to help you locate patterns for passed babies? Wow.... perhaps my bitter bug has bit me in the @ss today... but this is pretty insensitive of you... don't you think?

I can totally understand why some might think this post is insensitive, but I think she was only trying to find out if this was something that people do, and since a lot of us have been through this, she thought maybe we might know something about it. I wouldn't know where else to ask if I were her, either.

ColindaP · July 2010

ambrandau2:
sabrina69barnes:
I wanted to make stuff and give it to the hospital. My friend is very pro life so I want to do something for babies that didn't survive no matter how early they were lost. She said that the hat they had for her son was way to big for him and how she wished they had something small enough for him so that's where I got the idea. Her son was born at 27 weeks but I was wanting to make stuff for babies maybe as early as 15/16 weeks.
I think the idea is sweet.
I do not think this was an appropriate board at all (why wouldn't you ask on Preemies? Would have made much more sense, to my mind). But still, a lovely idea.
HOWEVER...
WTH does being pro-life have to do with anything? I'm pro-choice. Shock, this does not = pro-death as well.
Just because I don't believe in governing over a woman's reproductive freedom doesn't mean I want pre-mature babies to have hats that are too big for them.
Sheesh.

Listen to this woman. She is very wise. The suggestion that women who are not pro-choice somehow love their babies more or are more hurt and saddened by stillbirth and loss is offensive.

jamilynn9 · July 2010

I'm not sure that the women on this board will be able to recommend a pattern company, but the gesture is very heartwarming. I think it's a very sweet thing to do and honestly I think mentioning the gesture is appropriate for this board. I think it would be beautiful for women to have clothing for their babies who are born still. Thank you.

Shayna0182 · July 2010

I think it's a lovely idea. Grace and Hannah both had a beautiful crocheted blanket ( Hannah wound up being buried with hers) and I thought they were awesome. If I had any craft skills whatsoever I love to do something like to even slightly repay some of the kindness, but I don't. You might check with a local hospital nicu or high risk unit and go from there.

rahima · July 2010

I think the thought is heart warming. We were given a homemade quilt at the hospital and I am going to be making smaller blankets and beanies for stillborn babies as well. I don't know if I would recommend making preemie clothes though. I delivered my daughter at 20 weeks and she was so tiny that a blanket really was more appropriate.

I really was offended by the pro life comment, maybe it was more appropriate for a pro life website. I am pro choice AND did not terminate my baby, even though that was the ONLY option my DR gave me. I CHOSE to leave and find another OB who would deliver my baby. Some parents decide to abord when their doctors tell them that is the only option, or at least one of the options and that is their choice. It is not my place to judge them, and definately not on this board where that was a difficult thing that some of us HAD to go thru.

Please understand that this is a COMPASSIONATE, SAFE place for parents, not intended for lurkers, even with the best intentions. Sometimes google just makes more sense. We are all dealing with losses and were really caught off guard with your comments.

michrocc · July 2010

ambrandau2:

sabrina69barnes:
I wanted to make stuff and give it to the hospital. My friend is very pro life so I want to do something for babies that didn't survive no matter how early they were lost. She said that the hat they had for her son was way to big for him and how she wished they had something small enough for him so that's where I got the idea. Her son was born at 27 weeks but I was wanting to make stuff for babies maybe as early as 15/16 weeks.

I think the idea is sweet.

I do not think this was an appropriate board at all (why wouldn't you ask on Preemies? Would have made much more sense, to my mind). But still, a lovely idea.

HOWEVER...

WTH does being pro-life have to do with anything? I'm pro-choice. Shock, this does not = pro-death as well.

Just because I don't believe in governing over a woman's reproductive freedom doesn't mean I want pre-mature babies to have hats that are too big for them.

Sheesh.

Yes, I have to say that I don't understand the connection between being pro-life and wanting to do something for babies who've died.

vml14 · July 2010

I think this is an amazing idea, and what a wonderful way to honor your friend's baby. You are a great friend for remembering them as their due date approaches. I delivered our daughter at 21 weeks, and our hospital had appropriate sized knitted hats and these little knitted "sacks" to put our baby in. She looked so tiny and precious. We were able to bring them home with us, and we keep them in her memory box. It was so nice to have a special outfit made just for her. I bet your friend would be so touched by your idea.

Here is a website for two charities that do this type of work... you may want to contact them for more information. Good luck to you!

https://www.angelfire.com/ia2/AforApage2/

https://www.heartfeltangels.com/

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