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They didn't give us a wedding gift, do we give their son a graduation gift? (nbr)
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Re: They didn't give us a wedding gift, do we give their son a graduation gift? (nbr)
As I mentioned before, we are not friends, we are distant relatives that see each other maybe once every few years at certain family functions. It is not money related or gift related, I would have been happy if they gave us a card or a picture frame, its a thought that matters and they chose not to give it a thought.
I know other words. That couple probably didn't bring a gift to your wedding because you're a stupid as$hole.
As I am sure that your LO is very proud of his selfish, gift-grabby. grudge-holding mother.
I know where you're coming from and totally understand what you mean. It's idealistic to think that gift/no gift won't bother you but honestly you can't help but have it bother you. We had a person come to our wedding with no gift either. Even a simple congratulations card with a few kind words would be sufficient. It really isn't about the money - it's the principle.
Maybe this couple is inviting you out of courtesy just like you had to invite them to your wedding. If I were you, I would bail out and forego the whole gift issue altogether. Maybe send the son a nice card and that's it. It is the thought that counts, right? Sometimes you have to do courtesy invites -- avoid the drama and ill-feelings and don't go if you can avoid it.
The nerve of those people! You go, and eat all the food you possibly can, stuff some in your purse for later, drink and live it up. Then leave a giant gift bag full of shitty diapers with a congrats card.
This! Get over it already!
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OP, you are unbelievably tacky and rude. I paid for my own wedding and had a good friend attend who never sent a gift. He got married a year later and guess what? I went to the wedding and gave him a gift! I could never imagine holding such a grudge or witholding a graduation gift simply because the parents didn't pony up for your wedding.
Did they give you a card? I'm surprised I haven't seen the standard "but they didn't even give me a card" line in these kinds of posts.
Hahhahaha! Oh, the irony.
So, "biitch" is reportable, but "b**" isn't? ::dies::
Seriously OP, you're really not helping your case here. Yet I will give you my honest .02
*I* would also be ticked if someone came to my wedding (which I paid for) without a gift. Doesn't have to be big, just something that says "Congrats". Even if someone's broke, I think they can manage to find the $3 a card costs and that would be plenty enough.
This being said, their son is not the one who went to your wedding without a gift, so why take it out on him? Like PP said, either go, bring a present, and have fun, or just stay home and that'll be the end of it.
They came to your wedding. They thought to take time out of their day to spend it with you. I'd rather someone come to my wedding and share my day with me than send a gift and not come. And like a previous poster said, you don't know their financial situation. Lots of people live in big nice houses (that are about to be foreclosed on). Lots of people buy nice things and throw parties (on nearly maxed out credit cards that they have no way to pay down). When it comes down to it, you're griping over a material thing. You know what happens when you die? You won't get to take that wine goblet or picture frame or place setting or napkin ring with you. It gets sold at an estate sale or tossed in the dumpster when your kids clean out your house of all the things that nobody really cares about.
This post makes you look very small and petty. Those aren't good colors on anyone, honey. You should reevaluate your priorities.
Aha...I thought I heard the Irony Alarm ringing!
I was thinking the same thing. *shakes head* Some people.
In this day and age, this statement doesn't mean jack. I own my own business and am not raking in the money by any stretch. And, ever heard of exotic mortgages?
Sure. Right. I'm pretty sure that if they showed up with a $10 picture frame from Wal Mart you would have been b!tching about that too and would have just thrown it away.
Are you 12? I think you must be, because your behaviour towards other posters and towards the situation at hand is very 7th grade.
If it's that traumatic to give this kid a present, don't freaking go. It's as simple as that. I wouldn't want someone so full of vitriol at my kid's party.
And FWIW, we had a very small wedding (which we paid for ourselves) and we didn't receive presents from a few people. You know what? I didn't care. I was happy that they even came. I'm certainly not going to be petty enough to hold it against them for years to come.
Haha, this is beautiful!
BWAHAHAHAHA! Is the irony of this lost on your ignorant mind?
Don't go to the party. You'll just ruin it anyway with your immaturity.
LMAO!
This whole thread is hilarious. But I think this reply is my favorite. And all of those with the censored curse words. I love the Bump lol.
This is what I'd fukken do to these stupid as$holes. Show them you can fukken play their shiity game.
Wow. I don't see why ANYONE wouldn't want to give YOU something nice. I mean, you're just so pleasant to be around
I think you'd be doing your family a favor by not showing up at the party with this attitude.
Honey, we all understood what you meant - we're not halfwits.
Not one person here is defending the non-gifters. What we're saying is that YOU alone are responsible for YOUR actions, and basing your decision on the pettiness of quid pro quo in this situation makes you look childish and cheap as hell.
If being denied a toaster will render you completely unable to feel joyful for and generous to a graduating kid, then STAY HOME. WTF were you looking for here?