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Am I weird?

dandyelledandyelle
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Lately, I've been thinking a lot that Americans in general have gotten WAY out of hand with their expectations when it comes to formal celebrations. Weddings, birthdays, housewarmings, etc.

It just seems silly to me to fork out thousands of dollars for a kid's second birthday party, no matter how much money you have. And I don't mind people who have huge weddings, but I get mad when they expect their bridal party to fork out for 2 engagement parties, 4 showers, and the wedding.

It just seems like so much of all of this is for show. And now that we are getting closer to having a child of our own, I wonder if he will feel let down if his 7th birthday isn't marked with elephant rides, a setup of Dylan's Candy Bar and his own brand new quad. Or if we have to decline letting him be the ring bearer in someone's wedding because it will cost us $600 in outfits, travel and gifts.

Maybe I'm an old soul who worries too much, but I remember my favorite birthdays where I had a new party dress, a birthday cake, and a pinata. And I really want our son to feel the same excitement I did for simple family gatherings.

What do you girls think about this?

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Re: Am I weird?

  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member

    I get what you're saying.  I do think kids expect a lot.  As far as birthday parties go, though, a lot of times I think it's the adults trying to outdo each other.  It's kind of aggravating because then the kids see it and if they don't get the same thing or better for their birthdays, feelings can get hurt. 

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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    I totally get what your saying.  Stuff has gotten out of hand.  I'm hoping the pendulum will swing back to a simpler time soon.  I remember the best part of my birthday was getting to pick out what kind of cake I wanted.  One year I begged and pleaded for a store bought cake, finally my mom gave it and the cake was so awful, it was pretty, but it tasted so gross!  After that I was more than happy with mom's homemade cakes.
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  • PixiestxPixiestx
    I think if you really start looking hard you see that there are just as many people who do things for kids simply as who go all out.  It's just that the big outrageous parties get lots of attention, meanwhile no one in my daughter's class would notice that her birthday went by since she had a party at home with 4 friends where they had pizza, decorated their own cupcakes, and played some games. 
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