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Not ovulating/anovulatory cycle
keerwashere
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Hi all. I'm really new to this whole thing and am just looking for support/answers/help. I went for my 3 month check-up with my ObGyn so she could check my cycles. I've been TTC since April with no luck, but wasn't able to tell ovulating times so was winging it. I'm a lesbian and was using a donor. I told my Dr. that I've had very irregular periods for years and she told me to chart my cycles. My cycles are wildly unpredictable and since April have been 42 days, and so far 63 days. Yeah, only 2 periods in the span of however many days - still waiting for the next period to come. She told me that based on my cycles I wasn't ovulating at all.
Anyway, the Dr. ordered some blood tests for the 21st day of my upcoming cycle and I'm hoping it's just a weight-related issue. I'm very nervous that it will be something more serious though, and WebMD has not curbed any of my fear - probably enhanced it actually. I am overweight but have been slowly losing while TTC and eating better, exercising, and stopped all smoking and drinking. I've only been TTC for a few months it already feels like forever and I feel like an ass because I know for so many women it's a years-long struggle and here I am, at a few months in, ready to break down over it.
It's even tougher because I had hoped for a March/April baby (I have summers off from work and would love to relax and also not be 8 months pregnant in the middle of summer.), and my mother is of failing health and this was spurred on by the desire to have my mother around for this part of my life. She likely won't see the day I can get married and all in all it's tough. Also, my best friend is pregnant without even trying so I'm fighting the jealously I have for her and the extreme excitement I have for her.
I guess my question is, have any of you been through similar experiences with either a weight issue or anovulatory cycle? What are the next steps I need to take, aside from the weight loss? None of my other friends are at this stage in their life (or already have kids) and I'm just looking for some knowledgeable women with experience. Either way, is the next thing my Dr. does going to be Clomid or wait a few months to see if I continue losing weight? Thanks =]
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Re: Not ovulating/anovulatory cycle
Welcome to the board!
I have anovulatory cycles because I have P.COS. Losing weight has helped in the past, but even lean women can have anovulatory cycles or P.COS. When we TTC again I will likely need a medication like C.lo.mid and a trigger shot to help things along.
If you suspect you might have P.COS or insulin resistance ask your doctor to go over the symptoms with you. He/she may suggest taking M.et.for.min, that medication has helped many women lose weight and/or get their cycles back on track.
Good luck!
this is what I'd suggest. clomid is usually the drug of choice for women with anovulatory cycles and can be a really quick and easy fix, but it can come with some side effects that really need to be monitored by a specialist.
best of luck!
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Welcome & Good luck!
I agree with pp's about clomid and going to a specialist if you so desire.
FYI - I noticed you posted this same question on Trouble TTC. Just so you know, most of those women have been TTC for at least one year or more. They are a very nice group of women that will answer your questions but they may also suggest you try the Getting Pregnant board since you've been trying for less than one year.
I also encorage you to get a referral to a fertility specialist from your OB, since most OB's dont know all the different ways to try and get the cylce on track.
Good luck!
VITEX! (a tincture you can find at your health food store, coop, whole foods) I also tried clomid and didn't have a good response-in fact got pregnant both times during a non-clomid cycle...
I started taking Vitex (chastetree berry) and after about a month or two it completely evened out my very luteal cycles. Also Maca is a good natural "superfood" tincture. The after taste tasted like a hit of pot!
Stay strong and look for good support.
I totally hear you about the jealousy thing too. I am STILL jealous when I hear about women (especially close friends) getting pregnant without even trying. Weird but honest! It took me 10 cycles, a miscarriage, another 2 months of waiting and 3 more cycles with fresh sperm and known donor.
Whew....
Sorry to hear you are struggling.
I don't have much "advice" - but I am also overweight and have always been - but I also have ALWAYS been regular.
I did lose a bunch of weight prior to TTC (knowing I wanted to get pregnant, I wanted to drop as much as weight as possible) and lost 70lbs prior to trying. Even though I am regular, I did do a low dose of clomid....and we got pregnant on the first cycle/try.
I agree with PPs, you should DEFINITELY see a specialist. After that many months of trying, you should at the very least be "regular" in your cycle by now - which is done with medication. A "regular" ob may not be that interested in just regulating your cycle, but that is probably the first step. not to mention, a specialist is going to do more than just rely on charting to determine what is up with your cycle.
Good luck!!
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I also have PCOS, and often have anovulatory or long cycles. For the past two years, I haven't had any periods between May to August. I call it my "summer break"
I was devastated to be diagnosed with PCOS, which I had never heard of, at only 26--and freshly post-m/c.
The first time I tried to conceive, I did the whole Clomid route for six months with my OB, before being referred to an RE. We did 3 IUIs w/ Femara and trigger, but were never successful (the rest of the story is that my husband was also contributing to our struggles, would not be treated, and we are now divorced).
Now, I'm in a great relationship with a wonderful woman, and we have recently decided to TTC. I have an appointment next week with my same RE (he is *fabulous). We are planning to do IUIs with donor sperm.
I plan to use Femara and trigger again, as we saw via ultrasound that it was successful in leading to ovulation before.
During the time I previously tried to conceive, my best friend fell in love, and has had TWO kids, both unplanned. I love my "nephew" and "niece," but it was VERY hard for me to be gracious about my friend's pregnancies. I just told her, "You know what I've been through, and what my hopes are for my own life, so I will do my best to support you the best that I can, but there will be some times when I just can't be there for you as you might want me to be." That helped break the ice and give both of us good boundaries.
I figured out that since my pregnancy loss 7 years ago, over 35 babies have been born in my life. I decided to stop counting and start trying!
I *definitely recommend a reproductive specialist. Most OBs only do a 6-month infertility rotation, and it doesn't seem to be very in-depth.
Best of luck to you, and to all of us!